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Caroline Clarke's remarkable journey from surviving domestic violence to becoming a transformative trauma coach unfolds in this deeply moving conversation about breaking cycles of generational trauma. With raw honesty, Caroline shares how watching her father attack her mother at age three shaped her into a caretaker, setting patterns that would follow her into adulthood and her career as a police officer.
The turning point in Caroline's life came through her eleven-year-old son's devastating words: "I don't want to be here anymore." Recognizing that he was mirroring her own unexpressed feelings about her marriage, Caroline made the courageous decision to leave, becoming the first woman in her family to ever end a marriage. This pivotal choice not only saved her son but transformed her entire family's trajectory.
At the heart of Caroline's work is what she calls "The Good Girl Code"—the subconscious programming that teaches women to be compliant, people-pleasing, and to silence their intuition. She explains how these codes become our operating system, affecting everything from our relationships to our careers, until we consciously examine and rewrite them. Through powerful examples, she demonstrates how seemingly innocent childhood experiences—like forcing children to hug relatives when they don't want to—can teach dangerous lessons about consent and boundaries that follow them into adulthood.
Perhaps most profound is Caroline's perspective on healing as a multi-generational gift: "What we are doing now in our life, we are gifting the next seven generations." By doing our inner work, we provide our children and their descendants with the freedom to live authentically rather than carrying the burden of unresolved family trauma. Her message is one of empowerment—we aren't broken, we're simply coded, and we have the power to change our programming.
Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies, trying to break free from unhealthy relationships, or wanting to create a healthier legacy for your children, Caroline's compassionate wisdom offers practical guidance for reconnecting with yourself and reclaiming your authentic voice. Follow her journey through social media as she completes her book on The Good Girl Code and continues her mission to help women worldwide break free from limiting narratives and heal generational trauma.

Caroline's Contact Details:

• https://www.carolineclarke.com.au/
• https://www.instagram.com/caroline_clarke__/
• https://www.facebook.com/caroline.clarke.9406
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/caroline-clarke-843679345

Other Resources Referenced in this Episode:

• The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi
• The Conscious Parent - Dr Shefali Tsabary
• Peter Crone Finding Freedom Podcast - https://www.petercrone.com/podcast
• Dr Gabor Maté - https://drgabormate.com/

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