Feeling isolated, ashamed, or torn about divorce? This episode names the both/and—grief and relief—while offering emotional intelligence tools for navigating transitions with self-compassion. Therapist and author Oona Metz (founder of long-running divorce support groups for women; Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women) explains why survival mode makes reading hard, how group therapy turns isolation into strength, and language shifts that reduce shame (think “parenting time” vs. “custody,” “family restructuring” vs. “failed marriage”). We also cover co-parenting with an unhealthy ex, what’s actually a safety issue, and the mindset reframe from “who filed first” to “who left the marriage.”

You’ll learn:

- How to hold mixed emotions without self-judgment

- Practical co-parenting boundaries (what to let go vs. when to get help)

- The power of community to rebuild confidence and identity after divorce

- Healing-centered steps to move from survival to personal growth

If you’re considering separation, in the messy middle, or rebuilding on the other side—this conversation is for you (and the friends who love you).

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