In this episode of Intrinsically Ordered, Evelyn from @leavelaughlove joins me to tackle one of the hardest questions we get asked: how do you talk to loved ones who are falling into fundamentalist Catholicism?
We unpack:
Why people get drawn into high-control religious groups
How to maintain healthy boundaries without burning bridges
Why “debating” rarely changes minds
Compassionate approaches that keep relationships intact
When it’s okay to let go
Whether it’s your child, spouse, parent, or friend, this conversation offers realistic and empathetic strategies for navigating these difficult dynamics.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:23 Today's Topic: Relating to Fundamentalist Catholics
01:06 Personal Experiences with Fundamentalism
01:49 Understanding the Rabbit Hole
02:57 Starting the Conversation
06:07 The Importance of Boundaries
09:49 Maintaining Relationships with Compassion
13:08 Navigating Conversations and Debates
21:22 The Role of Community in Fundamentalism
23:55 Setting Clear Boundaries
31:17 Respecting Individual Journeys
37:45 Navigating Conflicting Emotions
38:48 Maintaining Relationships Despite Differences
40:26 Understanding High-Control Religious Beliefs
44:22 Advice for Parents of Religious Teens
56:43 The Deconstruction Process
01:04:32 Setting Boundaries and Finding Supportive Relationships
01:13:13 Final Thoughts and Viewer Engagement

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