In this episode of The Inclusive Dad podcast, host AAron welcomes writer and editor Heidi Fiedler for a heartfelt conversation about parenting, inclusion, and navigating the IEP process. Heidi shares her family’s journey with autism, the importance of finding supportive school communities, and how creativity sustains her identity as a mother and individual. Together, they reflect on the evolving definitions of inclusion, the role of empathy in education, and the hidden labor of caregiving. Whether you're a parent, educator, or ally, this episode offers inspiration, validation, and practical wisdom for creating a more inclusive world—one meaningful connection at a time.

Key Takeaways:

Inclusion Litmus Test – If a child wants to go to school, that can be a strong indicator of a truly inclusive environment.
Creative Outlets Matter – Creativity can offer caregivers a vital sense of identity, energy, and peace amidst daily responsibilities.
IEP Variability – Access to inclusive education is deeply influenced by district policies, school leadership, and systemic inequities.
Empathy Through Stories – Representation in books and school activities builds awareness and empathy without placing the burden on disabled students.
Listen to Lived Experience – Following disabled adults online and reading their stories provides authentic insights into building inclusive communities.

Heidi’s definition of inclusion:

Does my son wanna go to school? When everyone is welcoming him and doing everything they can to honor what he needs and wants, he does want to go. That for me is inclusion.

Heidi’s Bio:

Heidi Fiedler is a writer, editor, and creative coach. She dreams up cozy stories for kids and writes about creativity and motherhood on her Substack Nebula Notebook. Heidi lives with her family and her favorite books in Massachusetts.

Connect with Heidi:

Website: https://www.helloheidifiedler.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heidifiedler/

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