182: How Three Simple Tools can help Restore Your Peace after Betrayal
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Your memory cabinet gets dumped on the floor when betrayal hits, and suddenly every moment feels out of order. We share a clear path to regulation with three gentle practices—complex puzzles, warm blankets, and journaling—that help your brain settle, your body soften, and your story make sense again. No jargon, no lofty routines; just doable tools you can start tonight.
First, we explore how a thousand-piece puzzle becomes a brain gym and a refuge. You’ll hear why task-focused attention crowds out rumination, how healthy dopamine boosts motivation without numbing, and ways to choose the right level of challenge so you can slip into flow. Then we move to the science of warmth and pressure: heated throws and weighted blankets that signal safety, drop heart rate, and help sleep return. It’s not childish comfort—it’s nervous system literacy, a step toward rest-and-digest when nights feel loud.
We close with a grounded journaling approach: simple brain dumps to unload spinning thoughts, feeling words that replace “I’m fine,” and prompts that reveal patterns, triggers, and beliefs that quietly hurt. You’ll learn how to protect privacy, what to do with pages once you’ve written them, and how to use insights to choose kinder thoughts and steadier habits. Whether you’re healing from betrayal, divorce, or any season of high stress, these small rituals can rebuild focus, safety, and self-trust one day at a time.
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Chapters
1. Welcome And Purpose (00:00:00)
2. Filing Cabinet Trauma Metaphor (00:00:40)
3. Why Puzzles Regulate And Restore (00:04:45)
4. Warm Blanket Science And Comfort (00:09:03)
5. Journaling For Processing And Insight (00:13:20)
6. Daily Regulation And Closing Invitations (00:18:10)
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