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#457 Welcome Mat. Not letting it in!

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A doormat has one job: catch the dirt before it crosses the threshold. We take that simple image and turn it into a practical system for protecting your energy, your attention, and your peace. Instead of building walls, we focus on a welcoming doorway with a smart filter, so you can stay open-hearted without becoming overextended.
I share how a well-meant habit of overgiving shaped my early approach to service and why it quietly drained my capacity. We unpack the difference between love that is wise and love that burns you out, and we get honest about the moments we say yes out of guilt, habit, or fear. You’ll learn a quick three-part boundary check—emotional, mental, and physical—that helps you decide what thoughts, relationships, opportunities, and habits deserve access. If an interaction doesn’t make you better in the near term, you’ll know how to decline with clarity and kindness.
From scripts you can use today to the mindset shift of becoming the gatekeeper of your own life, this conversation gives you tools to reduce noise and protect what matters most. Expect practical language, no fluff, and a gentle nudge to honor your limits so you can show up stronger for the people and work you love. Press play to learn how a simple welcome mat can anchor healthier choices, cleaner boundaries, and a calmer mind. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a kinder no, and leave a quick review so more people can find us.

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Chapters

1. Opening And Core Metaphor (00:00:00)

2. Boundaries And Emotional Filters (00:00:24)

3. Upbringing And Overgiving (00:01:04)

4. The Gatekeeper Mindset (00:01:37)

5. The Boundary Filter Questions (00:02:12)

6. Closing And Listener Invitation (00:03:25)

458 episodes

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Manage episode 523476627 series 3557145
Content provided by Aaron Havens. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Aaron Havens or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

A doormat has one job: catch the dirt before it crosses the threshold. We take that simple image and turn it into a practical system for protecting your energy, your attention, and your peace. Instead of building walls, we focus on a welcoming doorway with a smart filter, so you can stay open-hearted without becoming overextended.
I share how a well-meant habit of overgiving shaped my early approach to service and why it quietly drained my capacity. We unpack the difference between love that is wise and love that burns you out, and we get honest about the moments we say yes out of guilt, habit, or fear. You’ll learn a quick three-part boundary check—emotional, mental, and physical—that helps you decide what thoughts, relationships, opportunities, and habits deserve access. If an interaction doesn’t make you better in the near term, you’ll know how to decline with clarity and kindness.
From scripts you can use today to the mindset shift of becoming the gatekeeper of your own life, this conversation gives you tools to reduce noise and protect what matters most. Expect practical language, no fluff, and a gentle nudge to honor your limits so you can show up stronger for the people and work you love. Press play to learn how a simple welcome mat can anchor healthier choices, cleaner boundaries, and a calmer mind. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a kinder no, and leave a quick review so more people can find us.

https://growthinstigators.com/

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Opening And Core Metaphor (00:00:00)

2. Boundaries And Emotional Filters (00:00:24)

3. Upbringing And Overgiving (00:01:04)

4. The Gatekeeper Mindset (00:01:37)

5. The Boundary Filter Questions (00:02:12)

6. Closing And Listener Invitation (00:03:25)

458 episodes

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