You’ve done the work. You’ve set the standards. You know what you’re unavailable for.

But then someone comes along who feels different—and suddenly, it’s like everything gets blurry. You’re second-guessing your intuition, wondering if your standards are “too much,” and trying to be “understanding” while ignoring the part of you that knows better.

In this episode of Flip the Switch, I’m breaking down why holding your standards in dating can feel so emotionally hard—even when you’re confident and self-aware. Spoiler: it’s not because you’re weak—it’s because your nervous system is trying to keep you safe.

This isn’t about playing hard to get or being emotionally guarded. This is about nervous system regulation, emotional capacity, and self-leadership in love.

• Why your body may go into fawn or freeze when emotions get activated

• How past experiences may be quietly influencing your dating patterns

• What it really means to lead yourself in dating (without collapsing into old habits)

• 3 powerful ways to stay anchored in your truth—even when you’re into him

• You tend to shrink, over-explain, or “stay open” when someone isn’t fully aligned

• You’ve abandoned your boundaries in the past to keep a connection

• You’re ready to stop negotiating with misalignment and start leading from wholeness

If this episode brought something to the surface—and you're ready to break the patterns that keep you shrinking, settling, or second-guessing in dating and relationships—this is the exact work I do with clients.

Together, we unravel the emotional habits, identity blocks, and nervous system patterns that keep you abandoning yourself when what you really want is to feel chosen, safe, and fully expressed.

If you're ready to hold your standards with ease, lead yourself with clarity, and attract the kind of love that meets you without compromising who you are—I’d love to support you.

DM me “PRIVATE” on Instagram and let’s talk about whether private coaching is the space for your next level