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Expectations: What do we expect from ourselves and others as an Enneagram 5?

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Fives crave clarity, but expectations make everything fuzzy.

In this episode, we wrestle with how expectations shape our creative process, our friendships, and our self‑story—often without us noticing. We start with the behind‑the‑scenes saga of trying (for the third time!) to record this conversation, then follow the thread into dread before hitting “record,” unspoken agreements in friendship, and how TV taught many of us what relationships “should” look like. Along the way, we share small shifts that reduce spiral time and increase real connection.

IN THIS EPISODE:

When Expectations Jam Creativity – How pre‑loading a conversation with “it has to be great” creates dread, stalls energy, and makes us over‑analyze instead of talk.
Friendship Without Guesswork – The cost of unspoken expectations (e.g., slow replies, differing communication rhythms) and the relief of naming needs directly.
Seeing Yourself Through Someone Else’s Eyes – How imagining others’ perceptions fuels spirals—and simple checks to return to reality.
Independence Isn’t the Goal – Moving from “don’t burden anyone” to chosen interdependence: sharing burdens to build connection, not to outsource regulation.
TV-Trained Expectations – The West Wing, Friends, Scrubs, The O.C.—how pop culture scripts set unrealistic standards for friendship, family, and community.
Proximity and Belonging – Why neighbors and repeated contact create the “just walk in” ease so many Fives want—and how to cultivate it on purpose.
Comparison, Career, and Age – Spotting the Instagram version of other people’s lives, reframing late starts, and noticing what you actually prioritized.

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Chapters

1. Recording Woes and Setting Expectations (00:00:00)

2. Reflecting on Past Attempts (00:01:45)

3. The Challenge of Starting Conversations (00:04:26)

4. Managing Expectations in Friendships (00:05:46)

5. Communication and Misunderstandings (00:08:31)

6. The Burden of Expectations (00:10:18)

7. The Importance of Sharing and Connection (00:23:06)

8. Revisiting The West Wing (00:24:30)

9. The Narcissistic Boss (00:25:06)

10. Social Anxiety at the Soccer Game (00:25:46)

11. TV's Unrealistic Expectations (00:26:35)

12. High School Dances vs. Reality (00:28:41)

13. Homeschooling and Feeling Different (00:28:57)

14. Awkward Teenage Experiences (00:30:34)

15. Friendships and Proximity (00:36:32)

16. Career Regrets and Insecurities (00:48:06)

17. Concluding Thoughts (00:52:33)

54 episodes

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