Ep. 18 | Xavier Dagba: My new book Scars of Gold & Reconciling with your shadow
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My new book Scars of Gold (Hay House, Sept 23, 2025) is available for preorder. Claim exclusive bonuses when you preorder and register your copy here: www.scarsofgold.com
This solo episode is one I’ve been waiting all year to share with you. It’s not just about my new book Scars of Gold — it’s about the deeper invitation behind it: reconciling with your shadow.
So often we treat the shadow as the enemy — the reason for sabotage, resistance, or disconnection. But what if the shadow is not here to destroy you… but to guide you back to your wholeness?
In this episode, I explore:
* The journey of writing Scars of Gold and how the book “rewrote” me before I could write it.
* Why I see the shadow as benevolent — a storehouse of repressed light, not just pain.
* The difference between self-abandonment, fragmentation, and true integration.
* Why reconciliation with your shadow is the foundation for living with an unleashed heart.
👉 Pre-order Scars of Gold and unlock your bonuses:
When you pre-order at www.scarsofgold.com , you’ll receive the Scars of Gold Immersion, including:
** A 3-part live workshop series (“Reconciling with the Shadow”) diving into core fears, parental/origin shadows, and relational shadows.
** The Golden Shadow Journal to help you reclaim the light your shadow has been guarding.
** Radiant Return, a guided Golden Shadow integration journey.
** A 7-day Golden Shadow Challenge in September.
This is more than a book launch. It’s a full immersion into the work of integration and self-liberation.
CHAPTERS
00:00 – Welcome & why this episode matters
01:00 – What is a “scar of gold”?
01:55 – The influence of Kintsugi & the refusal of brokenness
03:00 – Early book title ideas: I Wish I Failed Them Sooner
04:10 – The Dark Night of the Ego vs. the Dark Night of the Soul
05:10 – The years of “divine frustration” (2020–2023)
06:30 – When the book rewrites you before you can write it
07:05 – Devotional practice: writing the book out loud on social media
09:00 – The world feels it when you reclaim your repressed gifts
09:30 – Invitation to pre-order Scars of Gold + bonuses explained
14:30 – Sacred wounds vs. ordinary wounds
15:00 – The poem on wounds that initiate power
17:00 – Why we scapegoat the shadow and try to amputate it
19:20 – Reconciling instead of resisting the shadow
20:40 – The trap of moral/spiritual superiority
23:00 – Parenting and the humbling power of shadow work
25:20 – The hidden benefits of shadow attachments
26:20 – Chapter 1 of Scars of Gold: The Call of the Shadow
28:20 – Chapter 2: Self-abandonment as the beginning of the divide
30:00 – Love in action vs. conditional self-acceptance
33:15 – Self-abandonment as the “original sin”
34:30 – Chapter 3: Fragmentation and the fracture of the psyche
36:20 – Building a healthy relationship with your shadow
37:20 – The benevolence of the shadow
40:00 – Seeing the shadow as an ally, not an enemy
41:00 – Gratitude and invitation to join the Scars of Gold Immersion
42:30 – Vulnerability of releasing art into the world
46:00 – Final invitation: preorder + 3-part workshop
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