Living Apart, Together
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Dr. Julie Pham shares her decade-long experience with "living apart together" (LAT), a relationship arrangement where committed partners maintain separate homes. She reveals how this unconventional approach has deepened appreciation, improved communication, and allowed both partners to bring their best selves to the relationship.
• LAT relationships affect approximately 3% of married couples who choose to maintain separate residences
• Being in a good relationship and being good roommates are two different skills that don't always overlap
• Seeing each other once weekly while living 1.5 miles apart creates intentional, quality time together
• Saying "I'm grateful for you" instead of "I love you" addresses the core need to feel appreciated
• Setting clear boundaries helps prevent resentment in both personal and professional relationships
• Turning 40 brings clarity, confidence and the ability to be unapologetic about personal needs
• The "rubber band rule" teaches awareness of how far we can stretch before breaking
• Multiple truths can coexist, creating space for different perspectives and experiences
• Starting her company CuriosityBase at 41 demonstrates it's never too late to follow your calling
• Embracing aging rather than hiding from it creates freedom and authenticity
If you're curious about different relationship models or want to learn more about Curiosity Base and the seven forms of respect, follow Dr. Julie Pham's work and consider how boundaries might transform your own relationships.
If you want to connect with Julie on social media you can at
www.instagram.com/curiousitybased
https://curiositybased.com/about-us/
If you would like to have Julie on your show you can connect with her on PODMATCH! www.podmatch.com
I want to thank Julie for sharing her journey on love on Diva Tonight! It's been a great experience!
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- Thanks to Colin Campbell for sponsoring the show!
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Chapters
1. Introducing Living Apart Together (00:00:00)
2. Defining LAT Relationships (00:05:12)
3. Communication Beyond Proximity (00:10:33)
4. Gratitude vs "I Love You" (00:17:22)
5. Finding Clarity at 40 (00:23:13)
6. The Calling of Curiosity (00:31:05)
7. Embracing Multiple Truths (00:35:57)
8. The Rubber Band Rule (00:40:42)
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