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Overfunctioning, Perfectionism, and the Lie of Performance-Based Love
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Why do some people push themselves so hard—even when they’re already doing too much?
In this powerful episode of Courageous Overcomers, we explore the hidden connection between trauma and performance-based living. Host Tonya breaks down five reasons why survivors often fall into the trap of overworking, overachieving, and never feeling “enough.”
You’ll learn how early wounds shape the need to prove yourself, how performance becomes a coping mechanism, and how to finally lay it all down and rest in God’s truth.
This episode is for the overfunctioners, the perfectionists, and the high-achievers still carrying invisible pain.
You don’t have to earn your worth. You don’t have to keep performing.
You are already loved. You are already chosen. You are a Courageous Overcomer.
🎧 Plus: Download the free Reflection Guide with journal prompts and scriptures to help you break free from the performance trap.
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Link to 5 day workbook https://www.tonyashellnutt.com/2025-healing-cleanse
Chapters
1. Welcome and Reflection on Imposter Syndrome (00:00:00)
2. Why Trauma Creates Performance-Based Living (00:01:18)
3. Performance as a Coping Mechanism (00:04:34)
4. Confusing Love with Approval (00:08:01)
5. Fear of Being Found Out (00:10:10)
6. Rest is Not Weakness (00:11:54)
7. Journal Prompts and Scripture Affirmations (00:14:04)
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