In this episode, Brenda takes a step back to reflect on several of her recent research-based episodes—and how what she’s learned is continuing to shape the way she practices. Revisiting past studies has helped her see just how much of what we do in the therapy room is grounded in awareness, relationship, and presence.

Across these episodes, one theme kept surfacing: we’re always in communication, even when nothing is being said. Posture, silence, pacing, eye contact—these all play a role in how connection is built. Reflecting on that has reminded Brenda to slow down and stay attuned to the subtle signals that shape every session.

She also spoke about the therapist’s own influence. When she hopes a client will show up honestly, she checks in with herself first. Is she grounded? Genuine? Focused? Clients pick up on far more than just words, and the quality of her presence often sets the tone for the session.

Another key takeaway from her review: it’s not about getting things perfect. What matters is the effort. A “good enough” relationship—steady, consistent, and responsive—often lays the groundwork for growth and change. Research continues to affirm what Brenda has long believed: the relationship itself is central.

Looking back on these episodes, Brenda isn’t interested in dramatic overhauls. Instead, she’s noticing the small shifts—how she listens, how she waits, how she reflects. The studies she’s revisited have only deepened her belief that therapy isn’t about fixing people—it’s about walking with them.

As she was taught, people don’t come to therapy to be told what to do. They come because they need someone willing to be in it with them. And for Brenda, continuing to learn—through research and reflection—is part of staying present for that work.

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References:

Review of clinical applications for research presented in April episodes #35-39