Ep #186 Parenting on Fire? Stop, Drop, and Roll

Connect Method Parenting I Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Connective Parenting, Peaceful Parenting, Slow Parenting, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Joyful Parenting, Positive Discipline, ADHD Parenting

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Today I'm sharing a live workshops where we dive deep into the very first step of Seen and Heard, the "See" part. And not just seeing the behavior or the chaos or the mess (because let's be honest, our brains love to laser focus on the problem), but actually SEEING our kids. The humans behind the big emotions.

What You'll Learn:

The Stop, Drop & Roll Technique - Yes, just like fire safety, but for parenting fires! When your kid's brain goes haywire and your nervous system starts screaming "EMERGENCY!", this is your go-to move.

STOP: See the other person (not the problem)
DROP: Don't react, observe patiently
ROLL: Relax, open, listen, learn

Why Your "No" is Actually a Gift - Mind blown yet? When your child's thinking has gone offline and they're in full unreasonable mode, your gentle but firm limit becomes the focal point for all that nameless tension they've been carrying. It's like giving them permission to let it ALL out safely.
The Tear Catcher Approach - I start this episode with the most beautiful poem by John Roede. It'sl about what happens when we stop trying to fix and start being present with someone's pain.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

Does my child need information or help?
Does the task match my child's current ability today?
Am I feeling drained and making everything about me?
Is this behavior genuinely unreasonable, or am I just triggered?

Visual Learners: If you want to see the Seen and Heard diagram I reference, head to page 155 in my book Connect Method Parenting (you can get it on Amazon). The Stop, Drop & Roll visual is on page 165. You can grab the Kindle version for like a dollar if you want to follow along!

Next Steps: Practice just the "See" part this week. Before you set any limit, before you give any direction, just practice seeing your child as a human having a hard time instead of a problem to be solved.
Trust me, this changes everything.
xoxoAndee

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