Why Kids Don't Listen and How to Fix It
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We tackle one of the most common parenting frustrations—children who don't listen—by identifying three root causes and providing a simple three-step solution that transforms parent-child communication. This practical approach helps parents break free from the cycle of repetition and yelling while teaching children the important skill of listening effectively.
• Children don't listen for three key reasons: they can't (developmental limitations), they won't (testing boundaries), or they don't know how (missing skills)
• Young children (2-6 years) often get hyperfocused on activities and literally tune out everything else around them
• Repeating instructions teaches children they don't need to listen the first time
• Getting your child's attention first is crucial—move to their level, make eye contact, and gently touch their arm
• Keep instructions clear, calm, and direct—avoid long explanations that cause children to tune out
• Consistent follow-through is essential—set clear consequences and actually implement them when needed
• Games like Simon Says can help teach listening skills in a fun, engaging way
• Remember that good listening isn't just about obedience but about connection
• Consequences differ from punishment—they're logical reactions to choices children make
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Chapters
1. Welcome to Common Sense Parenting (00:00:00)
2. Why Children Don't Listen (00:00:46)
3. Three-Step Fix for Better Listening (00:03:17)
4. Real-Life Example: The Playroom Lesson (00:07:19)
5. Teaching Listening Skills Through Games (00:08:49)
6. Episode Wrap-Up and Next Steps (00:10:35)
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