In this grab bag episode, Barry and Bobby cover everything from scams and digital hygiene to emotional moments in caregiving. Barry opens up with a story about learning the hard way that being “right” isn’t always helpful—especially in caregiving situations. They debunk the overhyped 16-billion credential breach, share essential password and scam-spotting tips, give an update on DMV ID changes, and dive deep into how fear often hides behind our need for control. Barry wraps with a reflective story inspired by a bicycle ride and some programming wisdom that unexpectedly applies to caregiving.

⏱️ Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Barry’s “do you want to be right or do you want it to work?” story

• 01:20 — Summer heat check-in and life updates

• 02:00 — The overhyped “16 billion credential leak” explained

• 04:45 — Why password managers and multi-factor auth still matter

• 06:00 — Have I Been Pwned? and cleaning up your password hygiene

• 07:45 — Email scams, AI-powered phishing, and red flag spotting

• 09:00 — Barry’s real-life PayPal scam attempt and how to respond

• 12:00 — The psychological toll of scams on older relatives

• 13:00 — South Carolina DMV changes: no more same-day IDs

• 15:00 — Real ID, fraud prevention, and planning ahead for ID renewals

• 15:45 — Deep thoughts from Barry’s morning ride: why we nitpick and correct

• 18:00 — Fear, control, and the importance of talking to others

• 19:30 — The power of shared fears and building emotional support

• 21:00 — Listener email invitation and how to reach out

• 21:45 — Tech meets psychology: Perl’s “3 virtues” and how they don’t always serve you in caregiving

• 24:08 — Final thoughts and sign-off

Key Topics:

• Caregiving psychology: control vs compassion

• Digital hygiene and password safety

• Phishing and AI-powered scam prevention

• South Carolina’s DMV shift & Real ID changes

• When tech virtues don’t serve caregiving moments

• Emotional self-awareness and fear sharing

Resources Mentioned:

• Have I Been Pwned? – Check if your email was in a breach

• What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith

• DMV state list for Real ID policies (see show notes)

• Show notes and resources are here: https://bit.ly/caretechandtips-resources