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Episode 216 - W.A.I.T. Why am I talking?

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Have you ever walked away from a conversation and thought, "Why did I just say that?" Oh, me too. But thankfully, the Buddha left us plenty of tools to transform even our speech into something sacred. In this episode, we explore an acronym I recently added to my spiritual toolbox, W.A.I.T. — Why Am I Talking? Before we speak, we can pause and ask ourselves this simple question to check our motivation. Are we trying to connect or control? Are we speaking from kindness or merely from habit?

The Four Gates of Speech

Another powerful filter comes directly from the Buddha. Before we speak, we can ask ourselves if our words pass through these Four Gates:

  1. Is it true?
  2. Is it kind?
  3. Is it necessary?
  4. Is it the right time?
The Downfalls of Speech

In the Buddhist teaching on Right Speech, the Buddha identified four types of unskillful speech that cause harm:

  • Lying – intentionally deceiving
  • Divisive speech – creating conflict or turning people against each other
  • Harsh speech – cruel, aggressive, or hurtful words
  • Idle gossip– pointless talk that distracts and wastes energy

We can gradually reduce these habits and move toward speech that uplifts, heals, and connects.

A Practice You Can Try Today

Next time you're about to speak, even just in casual conversation, take a beat and ask:

"W.A.I.T — Why am I talking?"

You might find there's wisdom in the silence. Or you might find your words come from a more beautiful place, a place of kindness, truth, and intention.

Find us at the links below:

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone

Facebook Group: Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/

Instagram: @buddhism4everyone

X: @Joannfox77

TikTok: @buddhism4everyone

To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program

  continue reading

216 episodes

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Content provided by JoAnn Fox and JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Teacher. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by JoAnn Fox and JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Teacher or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation and thought, "Why did I just say that?" Oh, me too. But thankfully, the Buddha left us plenty of tools to transform even our speech into something sacred. In this episode, we explore an acronym I recently added to my spiritual toolbox, W.A.I.T. — Why Am I Talking? Before we speak, we can pause and ask ourselves this simple question to check our motivation. Are we trying to connect or control? Are we speaking from kindness or merely from habit?

The Four Gates of Speech

Another powerful filter comes directly from the Buddha. Before we speak, we can ask ourselves if our words pass through these Four Gates:

  1. Is it true?
  2. Is it kind?
  3. Is it necessary?
  4. Is it the right time?
The Downfalls of Speech

In the Buddhist teaching on Right Speech, the Buddha identified four types of unskillful speech that cause harm:

  • Lying – intentionally deceiving
  • Divisive speech – creating conflict or turning people against each other
  • Harsh speech – cruel, aggressive, or hurtful words
  • Idle gossip– pointless talk that distracts and wastes energy

We can gradually reduce these habits and move toward speech that uplifts, heals, and connects.

A Practice You Can Try Today

Next time you're about to speak, even just in casual conversation, take a beat and ask:

"W.A.I.T — Why am I talking?"

You might find there's wisdom in the silence. Or you might find your words come from a more beautiful place, a place of kindness, truth, and intention.

Find us at the links below:

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone

Facebook Group: Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/

Instagram: @buddhism4everyone

X: @Joannfox77

TikTok: @buddhism4everyone

To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program

  continue reading

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