Here is the basic analogy: when two people get married, they are often blindly and madly in love overlooking many negatives to focus on the connection and what draws them together. When conflict happens which ends in divorce, many times these two can no longer agree on anything and become vilifying enemies... much like how current democrats and republicans [lower case on purpose] nastily treat the other. It gets myopically blind and spiteful. Why? Does it need or have to be this way? Why do we treat our fellow citizens so awfully? Stop it! Let's learn how to talk truthfully without turning those who agree with us into fellow fighters against the other side.