Creating Calm Part 1: Regulate First, Reason Later
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We unpack how regulation, not compliance, drives real change and why the brain’s state decides whether a child can listen, connect, and learn. We share tools for co-regulation, decode hyperarousal and dissociation, and show how to move from chaos to cortex with simple, steady steps.
• defining regulation as the capacity to regain control and act with intent
• differences between regulation and compliance
• arousal continuum from calm to terror linked to brain regions
• state-dependent functioning and why language fails in survival mode
• hyperarousal versus dissociation and how both block learning
• regulate, relate, reason as a practical sequence
• rhythmic, repetitive, patterned activities that soothe the lower brain
• mirror neurons, co-regulation, and caregiver self-checks
• trauma, sensory overload, and environmental tweaks that help
• behavior as communication and the power of snacks, water, and movement
• spotting re-regulation and building a personal toolbox
• honoring processing styles and using timed check-ins
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Chapters
1. Welcome And Today’s Big Topic (00:00:00)
2. What Regulation Really Means (00:00:31)
3. Regulation vs Compliance (00:03:59)
4. Arousal Continuum Explained (00:04:35)
5. State-Dependent Functioning (00:06:00)
6. Hyperarousal And Dissociation (00:08:01)
7. Common Misreads Of Behavior (00:10:00)
8. Why “Calm Down” Doesn’t Work (00:12:05)
9. Regulate, Relate, Reason Framework (00:14:20)
10. Co-Regulation And Mirror Neurons (00:17:00)
11. Checking Your Own State (00:19:35)
12. Trauma And Sensory Overload (00:21:48)
13. Behavior As Communication (00:24:00)
14. Signs Of Re-Regulation (00:26:05)
15. Processing Styles And Space (00:28:00)
16. Boundaries, Check-Ins, And Closing (00:30:20)
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