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James Kimmel Jr. Talks About The Science of Revenge and the Power of Forgiveness

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In this episode of A Productive Conversation, I sit down with James Kimmel Jr., JD — a Yale lecturer, lawyer, and leading researcher on the neuroscience of revenge. His new book, The Science of Revenge: Understanding the World’s Deadliest Addiction—and How to Overcome It, explores why our brains crave retaliation and how forgiveness can literally rewire us toward peace.

Our conversation begins with a deeply personal story that shaped James’s life’s work and unpacks how revenge functions like an addiction — one fueled by pain, dopamine, and unchecked desire. What follows is a fascinating look at how our minds process grievance, why forgiveness is a neurological superpower, and how awareness can keep us from being consumed by cycles of anger and retaliation.

Six Discussion Points

  • How a violent act of bullying led James to study the neuroscience of revenge
  • The brain’s pain and reward circuits — and how they make revenge feel like a drug
  • Why grievances compound and can trigger impulsive reactions
  • The distinction between self-defense, grief, and revenge
  • How forgiveness shuts down the brain’s pain network and restores self-control
  • Why awareness, reflection, and tools like journaling can help break the revenge cycle

Three Connection Points

This conversation reminded me that the pause — that small, deliberate moment between grievance and reaction — can change everything. James’s work shows us that forgiveness isn’t about excusing others; it’s about freeing ourselves. I hope this episode helps you reflect on where small moments of release might lead to greater clarity, peace, and yes, productiveness.

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This episode is sponsored by Bento Focus — the ADHD-friendly focus timer that helps you do less, better. Limit your day to three meaningful tasks, build calm routines, and stay focused with beautiful Japanese-inspired themes. Try it today at dub.sh/mike-bento-podcast.


In this episode of A Productive Conversation, I sit down with James Kimmel Jr., JD — a Yale lecturer, lawyer, and leading researcher on the neuroscience of revenge. His new book, The Science of Revenge: Understanding the World’s Deadliest Addiction—and How to Overcome It, explores why our brains crave retaliation and how forgiveness can literally rewire us toward peace.

Our conversation begins with a deeply personal story that shaped James’s life’s work and unpacks how revenge functions like an addiction — one fueled by pain, dopamine, and unchecked desire. What follows is a fascinating look at how our minds process grievance, why forgiveness is a neurological superpower, and how awareness can keep us from being consumed by cycles of anger and retaliation.

Six Discussion Points

  • How a violent act of bullying led James to study the neuroscience of revenge
  • The brain’s pain and reward circuits — and how they make revenge feel like a drug
  • Why grievances compound and can trigger impulsive reactions
  • The distinction between self-defense, grief, and revenge
  • How forgiveness shuts down the brain’s pain network and restores self-control
  • Why awareness, reflection, and tools like journaling can help break the revenge cycle

Three Connection Points

This conversation reminded me that the pause — that small, deliberate moment between grievance and reaction — can change everything. James’s work shows us that forgiveness isn’t about excusing others; it’s about freeing ourselves. I hope this episode helps you reflect on where small moments of release might lead to greater clarity, peace, and yes, productiveness.

Build a sustainable system for attention, rhythm, and trust with TimeCrafting & ADHD — a new course inside TimeCrafting Trust Premium.
Start today for as little as $14 USD/month: timecraftingtrust.circle.so/timecrafting-adhd.

  continue reading

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