Best Paul Constable Podcasts (2025)

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Will AI Kill Intimacy? w. Evolutionary Biologist Dr. Rob Brooks 1:23:46

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Abbey and Liam are joined by evolutionary biologist Dr. Rob Brooks to explore the rise of AI companions, sex robots, and whether love with machines can ever be “real.” They discuss jealousy over chatbots, the naturalist fallacy, and the deep question of whether humans are naturally monogamous or non-monogamous. Drawing from Rob’s book Artificial In…

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Fantasy vs. Reality - Secrets & Exhibitionism 57:14

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In this episode of Evolving Love 2.0, Abbey and Liam explore where they sit on the spectrum between swinging and polyamory. From loud neighbours and exhibitionist fantasies to navigating crushes, labels, and compersion, they dive into the playful, messy, and honest realities of non-monogamy after more than a decade together. They also share why “re…

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Pickleball, Therapy & Sex Swings 58:32

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In today’s episode we bounce from pickleball courts to cold plunges, breathwork breakthroughs, and even DIY sex swings. We discuss our experiences with therapy, and Liam’s recent experience in a men’s breathwork circle. 🧵 Topics Covered 🎾 Pickleball Obsession: Why Liam has pivoted from bouldering to pickleball, and how it's becoming the new social …

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When Affairs Go Public - Clinton to Coldplaygate 56:22

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In today’s episode we dive into the spectacle of public affairs—from the viral Coldplay KissCam scandal to the infamous Clinton-Lewinsky saga. We explore the cultural obsession with infidelity, the ethics of public shaming, and the complex dynamics of relationships under scrutiny. Topics Covered * Coldplaygate: The viral moment that exposed Astrono…

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Is Liam Controlling? You Decide. 57:17

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In today’s Evolving Love Podcast we discuss boundaries, limits, and unpack my recent Substack article. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat 🌿 Upcoming Event Women's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvinglove…

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Protect Your Children - Former Detective Senior Constable Kristi McVee 1:07:36

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Today we are having a difficult conversation on Evolving Love. A conversation that puts the safety of our children in the spotlight. To help us navigate this conversation, we have invited on child safety expert - Kristi McVee. Kristy was a Specialist Child Interviewer and Detective Senior Constable for 10 years in the Western Australian Police forc…

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"Ask Me How It Works" with Deepa Paul 54:40

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Deepa is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam and her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventure, and herself - all at the same time. This release is her first book, but you can also find her writing on Substack at - Letters by Deepa This conversation is raw and wide ranging and we were so str…

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Is Monogamy Boring? 54:54

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In today’s episode we deep dive the provocative question: Is monogamy boring? We discuss our own definitions of what a boring relationship looks like, erotic space and desire, the richness of shared non-monogamous experiences, is boredom a form of safety, our dream debate opponents and so much more. 🌿 Upcoming Event Women's Retreat – October 17–19,…

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Consent Violations in Non-Monogamy 1:00:06

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We explore the nuanced topic of consent violations within non-monogamous relationships. From the ethics of sharing intimate photos to the complexities of informed consent in the context of infidelity, this conversation invites Evolving Lovers to consider how trust, transparency, and communication are foundational to ethical non-monogamy. 🌿 Upcoming…

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Who Gets To Be Seen? Sexy Selfies with Dr. Emma Phillips 1:02:28

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Today we sit down with photographer and academic Dr. Emma Phillips to explore the cultural, feminist, and personal dimensions of an activity that we hold close to our heart - the sexy selfie. Emma is a photographer and researcher/lecturer in Visual Communication at the University of Canberra. With twelve years of professional photography experience…

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How We Communicate - Radical Honesty, Conflict & Sleepy Husbands 59:50

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In today’s episode we dive deep into the art of communication in long-term, non-monogamous relationships. We explore the nuances of radical honesty—when it’s helpful, when it’s too much, and how to balance truth with tact. From navigating attraction to others, to the infamous “chewer vs. spewer” dynamic, we unpack how our differing communication st…

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Confessions Of A Dominatrix w/ Mistress Fleur Driver 58:07

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Mistress Fleur Driver is a professional Dominatrix and BDSM practitioner with over thirteen years of experience in the sex work industry. Originally trained in the courtesan tradition by European Madams, her practice is grounded in immersive, intentional experiences that welcomes people from all walks of life. From her private dungeon in Sydney to …

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"Beyond Monogamy" on ABC TV - Reactions, Triggers & Our Experience 1:02:10

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In today’s episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC’s Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile media appearance yet… Watch The Doco Evolving Love L…

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Leaving A Cult: Love, Intimacy & Relationships with Evan Buckley 1:19:48

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Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships? In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a talented songwriter and frontman of his Canberra-bas…

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The Proposal - A Wedding Anniversary Special 55:46

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We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe…

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Policing Language, "Adolescence" & Chris Williamson 57:10

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In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evol…

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The Hardest Conversation Of All 45:02

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We have a difficult discussion in today’s podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey’s recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is immune from having these discussions and so much more. Imp…

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Moral Panic & Non-Monogamy w/ Philosopher Dr. Tim Dean 53:18

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Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education. Currently, Tim is the Senior Philosopher at The Ethics Centre (who run the brilliant “Fe…

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My Vasectomy 57:42

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In today’s episode we unpack Liam’s recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more… Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd l…

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Fake Orgasms, Embodiment & Desire with Georgia Grace 46:40

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Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices. Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and supports individuals, couples and groups to overcome co…

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What If? The Polycule Went Camping 1:12:34

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In today’s episode we trial a new format for the show as we play with hypothetical scenarios! Abbey’s lover Caspian leaves his socks everywhere! When is enough enough? How will Abbey confront him? Brenda, Kai, Abbey and Liam embark on a polycule camping trip…. come along for the ride!! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a p…

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Do Men's Voices Matter? with James Winestock 1:22:02

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In today’s conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men’s issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing affection, the role of a competitive nature in masculinity, wh…

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Naked on Brooklyn Bridge 54:02

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In today’s episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter. Kenn Lichtenwalter Links: Instagram BSky Dive Deeper This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvinglovepr…

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Cuckolding & Chastity with Shy 1:14:42

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Today we're diving headfirst into the taboo world of cuckolding with Shy. We'll be exploring the psychological and emotional complexities of this relationship dynamic through an intimate interview with Shy - a ‘cuckoldress” who is in a 24-7 cuckolding dynamic. Get ready for an honest and insightful conversation that may challenge your understanding…

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Things Are Hard Right Now 56:46

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In today’s episode we share about what has been happening for us recently. It is a different kind of episode, with a tone that is different to our usual discussions. This conversation covers how we approach conflict, the importance of space, external stresses on the relationship, communication styles and so much more*. *We also manage to pivot the …

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Body Image, Self-Acceptance & Non-Monogamy with Kate Gordon 1:05:30

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Today we are joined by Kate Gordon. Kate competed at the Cross Fit Games in 2015 and 2019 and has since become a certified Cross fit trainer and certified nutrition coach. In 2021 she started CFK nutrition and also hosts two podcasts - Gone Rogue which explores her journey in non-monogamy, and the CFK nutrition podcast. In this discussion we discus…

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Best of 2024 1:08:08

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We handpicked some of our 2024 guest highlights to round out a big year for 2024 and Evolving Love. This episode features Andrew Gurza, Chris Ryan , Alex Alberto , Molly Roden Winter , Lina Dune , Multiamory, Dr. Constantine R. Campbell, Casey Calvert, Kyron Kruger & Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack Gues…

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We Are Not Coaches 1:00:46

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In today’s episode we discuss why we are not interested in becoming coach, the importance of good therapists and coaches, and we test Gemini AI to see if it could replace the role of a traditional coach. During the episode we refer to three wonderful coaches and therapists: Kathy Labriola Dr Joli Hamilton Dr. Marie Thouin Lina Dune a.k.a AskASub Ev…

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Dear Margaret 1:01:06

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Abbey and Liam discuss a podcast listener (Margaret), who has been leaving comments throughout the year on Spotify. We discuss the comments, her critiques, hypothesise a “theory of mind” and so much more. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access …

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Our Recent Getaway 48:42

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In today’s episode we discuss our recent getaway to Sydney for the Australian Podcast awards, metamour gifts, chance encounters and so much more. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/s…

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When Liam Broke My Trust 48:01

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In todays episode we respond to a listener question asking us: “Have you ever broken each others trust? How did you navigate it?” Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe…

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Polycule Practicalities with Laura Boyle 57:24

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Laura Boyle is an educator, podcast host of “Ready for Polyamory” and author of the book “Monogamy in this Economy?” You may have seen this book recently featured in the New York Times Article titled “6 Books About Non-Monogamy, Recommended By Therapists”. In today’s conversation we discuss common polyamorous living arrangements, Conflict resolutio…

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The Episode We Almost Deleted 1:02:24

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Abbey and Liam discuss red flags in non-monogamy, before the episode takes an unexpected turn... Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe…

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Conscious Monogamy with Christina & Andrew 1:25:24

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Together for fifteen years and parents to three children, Andrew and Christina’s relationship is a wonderful example of consciously choosing monogamy. In this conversation we cover the role of independence in romantic relationships, exploring compersion in a monogamous context, maintaining the erotic connection over time, what constitutes an infide…

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Our First Play Party 1:13:52

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In today’s episode we discuss our first play party experience in New York, eating sushi off naked bodies, human candelabras, play party nerves, etiquette of group play environments and so much more… Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bon…

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Opening Up: Things We Wish We'd Known 54:54

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In today’s episode we discuss things we wish we knew before opening up our relationships. We cover managing the misconceptions of others, savoring the first experiences, triggers in solo dating, planning and preparation before opening up, the non-monogamy escalator and so much more. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a publ…

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Living An Examined Life with "Normalizing Non-Monogamy" 1:01:52

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In today’s episode we chat with Emma and Fin from the “Normalising Non-Monogamy” podcast. We discuss the common denominators in successful non-monogamous relationships, building community and support networks, their opening up journey, exploring the importance of self and the individual, the role of kindness in non-monogamy, mistakes and growth, th…

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Is Dave Grohl Non-Monogamous? 51:12

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In today’s episode we wade into pop culture to discuss Dave Grohl and his recent public statement…. Website | Instagram | Substack Women's Retreat - 25th-27th October 2024 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe…

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Parenthood Is Not Only For The Monogamous 55:28

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In today’s episode we discuss our non-monogamy before and after parenthood, feeling protective during pregnancy, maintaining our erotic connection through the early stages of parenthood, the freedom of exploring before parenthood and so much more. Website This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access t…

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Episode 4 - The Most Dramatic Ending Yet 48:22

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Okay, we know.... We moaned. We complained. We weren't really feeling the Jennergy from the start of this whole experience. We missed talking to you about episodes, because both of us were enjoying the summer while trying to find time to talk all things Bachelor. If we had known what the final hour of this season was going to look like, we would ha…

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Negging & Unicorns 24:12

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This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com In today’s Premium episode we discuss “negging” as a form of relating, privacy and dating, the responsibility of vouching for lovers, safety for unicorns, ethics of unicorn hunting, “Dragons”, “Bulls” and so much more! To listen to the full episode and wa…

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Four Episodes in One (Including Wham, Bam, Thank You Sam!) 55:15

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We know - we know - we've been gone a loooonnnnggggg time. It's been a busy summer, with Christel across the pond and working all the time, while Paul stays home and holds down all things Bachelor in the great city of Toronto. A lot to discuss on this episode, but mostly Paul Constable and Christel Bartelse moan about how boring a season it actuall…

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Polyamorous for 50 Years: Kathy Labriola 1:06:32

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Kathy Labriola is an author, nurse, counsellor, and hypnotherapist. Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: The Jealousy Workbook, Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships. She has also provided affordable mental health services t…

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Ep. 51 - Life Modelling, Spicy Texts & The Art of Curiosity 23:34

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This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com In today’s Premium episode, we discuss our recent creative adventures, erotic texting, an evening of life modelling and much more! To listen to the full episode and watch the video become a Paid subscriber to access my complete writing archive, full podca…

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Ep. 50 - Creativity & Non-Monogamy with Multiamory 59:44

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Today’s episode features Jase, Emily and Dedeker from the renowned Multiamory podcast. With hundreds of episodes, millions of downloads around the world, and a thriving community Multiamory has been featured in numerous publications, including NPR, Vice, Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and Elle. In today’s episode we discuss Emily’s recent transitio…

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Episodes 2, 3, & 4!!! - Three Episodes In One Is Three Times The Fun 54:29

1y ago54:29

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Yes - we're actually back. Host Christel Bartelse just got back from the UK, while the other host Paul Constable is slumming down at Disney World with his son, but this does not stop them from talking about the most important show of this generation. We get through three episodes of the latest Bachelorette (this required a lot of Jennergy), and we …

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Ep. 49 - Evolving Love Live at NFSA 57:37

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This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com In today’s episode we share our debut live show on the 26th July 2024 at the National Film and Sound Archives of Australia. We field questions from the audience and guests Molly Roden Winter, Marie Thouin, Lawrence (Our Secret Spot) & Fernanda (Polycuriou…

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The Paule Project #4 - Tech Session 2 17:58

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Tech is the time to clean up the lighting looks and add in the details. Paule and Will continue to fine-tune the lighting for the show with the full company and crew. On Headset | Season 2 The Paule Project We're excited to unveil season two of ETC's On Headset, a new immersive audio experience where listeners can engage in real-time programming. O…

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The Paule Project #3 - Tech Session 1 34:47

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In this tech session, we get to work on the cues with Paule and Will as the cast move through the tech session - it's all systems go with costume and sound department working hard too. On Headset | Season 2 The Paule Project We're excited to unveil season two of ETC's On Headset, a new immersive audio experience where listeners can engage in real-t…

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The Paule Project #2 - Plotting Session 2 40:25

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In one of the last programming sessions ahead of tech, Paule and Will add in some effects, build some base cue states, and continue to polish the looks they have been working on. On Headset | Season 2 The Paule Project We're excited to unveil season two of ETC's On Headset, a new immersive audio experience where listeners can engage in real-time pr…