Best Paul Colaianni Podcasts (2025)

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It's in some people's nature to bring you down and drain your energy 47:10

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If someone's passive-aggressive remarks are making you question your own self-worth, how can you take back control? There are ways to handle toxic interactions and keep your power.By Paul Colaianni

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Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser 1:09:14

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The emotionally abusive relationship is confusing and draining. If you don't get a grip on what's going on, you may start to believe perhaps you are the problem and they are a saint. Let's fix that faulty thinking.By Paul Colaianni

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Wanting more than friendship when they don't 33:48

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I think the phrase, "Lovers for a moment, friends for a lifetime" is very true in many cases. Sometimes a friendship can develop into something more. Other times a development could end what was already great as-is. Does love conquer all?By Paul Colaianni

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The growing resentment of people and circumstances you just can't accept 34:11

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What is your level of toleration, and how long will you endure behavior that crosses your boundaries before you've had enough? It might be time to dole out accountability and make hard decisions.By Paul Colaianni

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The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person 33:29

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If you've ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you're not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.

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The most empowering question to build your self-confidence 39:59

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Self-esteem and confidence come naturally to some. For others, the bridge to confidence is long, full of obstacles, and not worth the trip. There's one important question to ask yourself to be able to cross that bridge. That's today's topic.By Paul Colaianni

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Everything is good except the idea of marriage 33:08

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A woman shares her struggle about getting married, feeling as if she isn't special because her partner has been married in the past. What is making her feel this way? Can this be overcome?By Paul Colaianni

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Breaking the trauma bond can be hard as hell 41:49

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If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I'll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.…

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My abusive ex wants me to sit next to him at our child's wedding 38:46

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A mom doesn't want to sit next to her abusive ex during her child's wedding but doesn't want to come across as selfish. Is it selfish to make healthy choices that will keep you happy and safe? Important discussion today.By Paul Colaianni

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Why is finding and connecting with others so darn hard sometimes? 37:44

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If you feel like an outsider in a world that seems unrelatable, could it be because you're yearning for authenticity in your connections? I know I am. Making friendships and romantic relationships can sometimes seem like a lesson in futility.By Paul Colaianni

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Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation? 45:22

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Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner's jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to healing.By Paul Colaianni

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When it's always your fault 46:20

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If you find yourself constantly being blamed for everything going wrong, it's time to question whether you're being manipulated into believing what may be a deflection. In this episode, I tackle the sometimes tricky dynamics of responsibility and blame.By Paul Colaianni

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The childhood trauma we try to leave in the past 50:57

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If returning to your childhood hometown stirs up memories you'd rather leave behind, does that mean you're not ready to face them? I'll dive into this area with a heartfelt question from someone seeking closure from past trauma, wondering if revisiting their roots could be the key to healing and rediscovering their lost self.…

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The intense pain, longing, and pining over the one who left 35:17

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If you're struggling with the feeling of emptiness after a breakup or loss, is it really about them, or something deeper within you? I'll share my own experiences with heartbreak and loneliness, and why understanding our emotional dependencies might just be the key to healing and building healthier relationships.…

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Why you may not be ready to call it abuse when it is abuse 25:44

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The emotionally abusive relationship can sometimes be hard to define. How long must abusive behavior go on before actually admit that what's really happening is abuse?By Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

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Waiting and waiting for others to change 35:37

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How long will you wait for someone to make changes to treat you better? At what point do you decide enough is enough and move on without them in your life? And is there anything you can do if change seems impossible?By Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert

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10 Life lessons that will help you in your pursuit of happiness 54:24

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A list of ten life lessons to help you achieve a happier, more fulfilling life... perhaps. Some lessons are scary to implement. Some are a must if you find that you can never quite achieve fulfillment.By Paul Colaianni

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Do you end the relationship because they won't? 31:14

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How do you know when it's time to instigate a split? If your partner's behavior leaves you feeling oppressed and defeated, and they refuse to change, and they also don't want to end the relationship, then what?By Paul Colaianni

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How do I know when I'm ready to love again? 45:05

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How do you know when your heart is ready to embrace love again after weathering the storm of a toxic relationship? What should you be prepared for at the start of a new relationship? I talk about that and the draining effects of toxic relationships in this episode.By Paul Colaianni

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The giant waste of time you spent with someone or someone spent with you 40:35

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If you've ever felt like you're trapped in a time loop of bad relationships or self-destructive patterns, you're not alone. Why do we sometimes stay in situations that don't serve us? And were those situations a huge waste of time or something else?By Paul Colaianni

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The breadcrumbing of relationships' past 18:19

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Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!By Paul Colaianni

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The formula for making hard decisions 38:57

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Do I change my career? Do I move? Do I wait? If I change, will I be happy or sad? Never let life's hard decisions stop you from making decisions that are right for you?By Paul Colaianni

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The language patterns of the abusive person 24:55

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The way someone talks about their relationship reveals a lot. Abuse victims and perpetrators each have their own language patterns. Knowing these language patterns will help you understand on which side of the fence you're on.By Paul Colaianni

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What's the real reason you keep getting into "those" kinds of relationships? 1:07:21

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Sure, some partners are toxic or dysfunctional. But what if they're not that at all but just not that bright? What if you are trying to squeeze something out of a partner that simply doesn't exist? Does that make automatic incompatibility? I go through deep exploration of that in today's episode.By Paul Colaianni

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Did a pedophile groom her daughter into marriage? 32:32

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This episode is about a pedophile grooming a woman's daughter. If you're a parent who listens with their child(ren), I wanted you to be aware of this before you played the show. There are no graphic details, but be aware that your children may ask questions if they listen with you.By Paul Colaianni

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Can you ever go back to who you were? 26:36

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In abusive relationships it might be difficult or even impossible to discern which parts of yourself are truly you and which are shaped by the abuse. Let's talk about what it takes to start building or rebuilding your identity.

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The fears and insecurities that push away those who get too close 40:04

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If you get close to someone, they see the most vulnerable, deeper part of you. That can be a scary thing, especially if you've been hurt before. And sometimes we feel the need to protect ourself from such scary things.By Paul Colaianni

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Are you giving away your power? 31:03

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Some people seem to have a toxic gravitational pull that affects everyone around them. And whether you're with them or not, they are either on your mind or in your space. Getting away from their influence can feel impossible.By Paul Colaianni

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Never trust someone who wants to change who you are 18:25

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You walk into an emotionally abusive relationship as one person, but where do you go after you're in one for a while? Is the person you're with trying to change you into someone you're not?By Paul Colaianni

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The way we tell others to go away may make them stay 44:20

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If you've ever wondered how to keep toxic people out of your life or if you're questioning the role of personal boundaries in shaping your reality, this episode is for you. I share insights on why the words you choose matter, how to express your boundaries clearly, and why some relationships require you to be as steadfast as a lighthouse in a storm…

Paul Colaianni Podcasts

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The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert

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Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert

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It's in some people's nature to bring you down and drain your energy 47:10

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Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser 1:09:14

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Wanting more than friendship when they don't 33:48

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The growing resentment of people and circumstances you just can't accept 34:11

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The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person 33:29

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The most empowering question to build your self-confidence 39:59

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Everything is good except the idea of marriage 33:08

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Breaking the trauma bond can be hard as hell 41:49

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My abusive ex wants me to sit next to him at our child's wedding 38:46

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Why is finding and connecting with others so darn hard sometimes? 37:44

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Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation? 45:22

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When it's always your fault 46:20

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The childhood trauma we try to leave in the past 50:57

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The intense pain, longing, and pining over the one who left 35:17

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Why you may not be ready to call it abuse when it is abuse 25:44

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Waiting and waiting for others to change 35:37

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10 Life lessons that will help you in your pursuit of happiness 54:24

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Do you end the relationship because they won't? 31:14

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How do I know when I'm ready to love again? 45:05

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The giant waste of time you spent with someone or someone spent with you 40:35

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The breadcrumbing of relationships' past 18:19

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The formula for making hard decisions 38:57

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The language patterns of the abusive person 24:55

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What's the real reason you keep getting into "those" kinds of relationships? 1:07:21

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Did a pedophile groom her daughter into marriage? 32:32

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Can you ever go back to who you were? 26:36

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The fears and insecurities that push away those who get too close 40:04

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Are you giving away your power? 31:03

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Never trust someone who wants to change who you are 18:25

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The way we tell others to go away may make them stay 44:20