Best Carla Shellis Podcasts (2025)

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88: When the Mirror Becomes the Minefield 22:01

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👉 You know your patterns. You’ve done the work. And yet—you’re still tripping yourself up. Why? In this brutally honest conversation, Carla and DocShellie go toe-to-toe with the sneaky ways fear of success and self-sabotage creep in, even when we “know better.” If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thrown rocks at your own reflection, this episod…

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87: The Silence Between you and the Crossroads 16:30

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That voice inside you? It’s not broken—it’s just been silenced. In this soul-baring episode, Carla and Shellie rip the gag off the inner knowing we’ve buried under fear, “shoulds,” and status quo survival. One powerful story. One radical truth. One question: What are YOU not saying that’s already making the decision?…

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86: Rebooting at the Crossroads 20:11

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Ever feel like you’re a Ferrari engine stuck in neutral, dragging a brick building behind you? Carla & DocShellie rip open the myths about “starting over” — showing how a reboot isn’t a restart, it’s an upgrade. Whether your crossroads is a career shake-up, a personal shift, or something as simple as picking up a pickleball paddle, this episode wil…

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12, The Feminine Guide to Boundaries: Tech, Family & Toxicity 45:55

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This week on Really Feminine, we’re talking about how to stay gracious and poised even when life gets messy. From practicing proper technology etiquette in a world that’s always online, to our Tea Time chats about the sting of not being invited to a family wedding, handling an overbearing grandmother with a newborn, and learning how to level your e…

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85: Emotional Gaslighting: When You Minimize Your Own Story 18:33

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Ever told yourself, ‘It wasn’t that bad… I’m just being dramatic’? Welcome to the quiet art of emotional gaslighting — self-inflicted. In this episode, Carla and DocShellie torch the toxic habit of minimizing our struggles and achievements, revealing why your messy, resilient story deserves a standing ovation — not silence.…

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84: Glitter on a Bullet Wound 18:31

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✨ When life sucker-punches you, do you reach for glitter… or grit? This isn’t just about “good vibes only” — it’s about the damage done when we force positivity in the face of real pain. From Pickleball meltdowns to workplace shutdowns, Carla, Doc Shelley, and Michelle Seyfarth rip the sparkle off the bullet wound and get honest. Feel this one.…

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11, Graceful Entrances, Elegant Exits & Escaping Pit Dwellers 54:00

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In this episode of Really Feminine, Carla and Michelle share the art of arriving at and leaving a party in a way that leaves a lasting, graceful impression. They’ll also unpack how to spot the “pit dwellers” in your life, the people who pull you into negativity, and how to step away without guilt. Finally, join them for Tea Time, where they answer …

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10, Manners, Marriage & Mindset Shifts 51:09

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In Etiquette, we’re talking restaurant manners, how to dine with dignity, handle the check like a pro, and tip with confidence. In Tea Time, Carla dives into two raw and real struggles: the ache of a wife who feels invisible in her own home, and a woman exhausted from always saying yes.. And in Emotional Etiquette, it’s time to stop reliving the pa…

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83: Rage in the Margins: Where Are We Allowed to Be Angry? 13:54

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🔥 Ever swallowed your anger so long it exploded in your steering wheel or your soul? This episode is your permission slip: 👉 Your fire is not the problem. 👉 It’s proof something sacred has been crossed. Let’s talk rage, justice, and the double standards that silence women and marginalized voices. Warning: truth bombs ahead. 💣…

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9 , Buds in the Ground & Boundaries in the Room 1:03:53

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This week on Freedom Formula, we dig into how to stop repeating the same toxic cycles in relationshps. In Tea Time, Carla shares her advice on dealing with a difficult mother-in-law, and the freedom found in boundaries. This weeks Etiquette segment, focusing on how to introduce yourself with confidence, maintain composure, and build strong, gracefu…

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82: From Raw to Regret: The Emotional Hangover Episode 27:12

2M ago27:12

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You know that post-convo cringe? The one where you replay everything you said and wish you could take it back? Yeah, we went there. This episode is for anyone who's ever vent-dumped, overshared, or emotionally exploded on someone who wasn’t quite ready for it. (Oops.) Whether you were the Spewer or the Spew-ee, we’re breaking down the WHY, the WTF,…

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8, Let It Marinate: Presence, Poise & Professionalism 47:18

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Just like a good recipe, life requires time to marinate. The Freedom Formula invites you to slow down and absorb truth. In Tea Time, we reflect on presence and preparation. Then, in Etiquette, we explore poise in professional settings, maintaining femininity in authority, and setting boundaries at work. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochy…

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81: The Armor You Didn't Know You were Wearing 17:30

2M ago17:30

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What if your “personality” is just armor you’ve worn so long you forgot how to take it off? In this candid conversation, Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth expose the roles we play to feel safe, look strong, or seem in control—and what it costs us when we never take the mask off.By Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth

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7, Breaking Free from the Trap of Offense + The Art of Being a Gracious Guest 42:14

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This week, Freedom Formula explores “Skandalon”—the ancient word for offense and how it keeps us stuck. During Tea Time, Carla sips through insights on emotional freedom. In Etiquette, we define what makes a perfect guest, what to bring as a hostess gift, and why these small gestures carry deep meaning. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochy…

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80: Stuck in Self-Awareness: The Self-Awareness Trap 22:46

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🚨 PSA: Self-awareness is not the destination. It might be the trap. 😳 Ever gotten stuck in “knowing better” but still not changing? Carla and Shellie are naming the stall tactics, the neurochemical addiction to insight, and what it actually takes to stop admiring the problem and start shifting it. Prepare for some uncomfortable truth bombs—and the …

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6, Travel, Tension & Togetherness: Navigating Life with Grace 42:30

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Ever feel like your relationships are out of sync? Freedom Formula discusses attempts to balance imbalanced connections. Tea Time centers around travel and adaptability. And in Etiquette, we cover global and cultural etiquette, how to be a respectful guest, and how to manage shared travel gracefully—even under stress. To support the mission of Boch…

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79: Emotional Constipation: Unblocking Your Feelings 25:38

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🚨 Feelings aren’t flaws. They’re data. This one’s for every strong-silent-type who was told “don’t cry,” “don’t celebrate too loud,” or “don’t lose it.” Carla and Shellie get hilariously honest about emotional constipation, Olympic-level stuffing, and why it’s time to digest your damn feelings before they turn into toxicity in your body (and your l…

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ADHD as a Superpower: Michael Shellis on School Struggles, Strengths & Self-Acceptance 1:18:11

2M ago1:18:11

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In this powerful episode, Michael Shellis opens up about his journey with ADHD, from the challenges he faced in school to discovering how it became one of his greatest strengths. If you or someone you love has ever felt “too much” or misunderstood, this conversation will encourage you to reframe that narrative. Michael shares how Attention Deficit …

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78: Feel Guilty When You're Not Doing Something? You Need This! 19:24

2M ago19:24

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If you secretly panic at the idea of slowing down—or feel like dropping one ball means you’ve failed—this episode is your wake-up call. Carla and Shellie unpack the addiction to being busy, the quiet fears that drive over-functioning, and why sometimes… the most powerful thing you can do is nothing.By Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth

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5, The Power of Gratitude: Perspective, Presence & Politeness 50:17

2M ago50:17

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This episode’s Freedom Formula is all about shifting your perspective. In Tea Time, Carla opens up about practicing gratitude in daily life. Our Etiquette segment focuses on intentional thankfulness—from writing heartfelt notes to the right way to respond to thoughtful gifts and gestures. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochys.org (https://…

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77: Addicted to Achieving? This One is For You! 24:14

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What happens when the trophies stop? When the job title fades? When no one’s clapping? If you’ve ever felt like your worth is measured in wins—or felt invisible without them—this episode is your mirror. Carla Lewis and DocShellie get raw about the identity crisis lurking beneath our hustle culture. High-achievers, beware: this one’s a gut check wra…

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4, Activating Your Feminine Fibers: Relationships, Respect, and Radiance 51:23

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How do you embody and activate your feminine fibers? Freedom Formula breaks it down. Tea Time offers Carla and Michelle’s thoughts on dealing with controlling mom friends and strained Mother, Daughter relationships. In Etiquette, we explore how dressing reflects self-respect, guidelines for formal and casual events, and being feminine and modest. T…

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76: Boundaries or Brick Walls? 23:08

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🧱 Are you setting boundaries—or hiding behind brick walls? If you’ve ever said, “I don’t need anyone,” or found yourself shutting people out before they disappoint you… this episode is for you. Carla and Shellie crack open the emotional fortress to reveal how we mistake walls for wisdom—and what it really takes to feel safe without staying stuck. S…

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3, Holding Space & Holding Boundaries: A Conversation on Family, Etiquette, and Emotions 47:37

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Freedom Formula introduces the Hula Hoop Magnetic Field, a tool for understanding your emotional boundaries. In Tea Time, Carla and Michelle answer listener questions on family members asking what a listeners inheritance from his father is and another listener asks about what to do about a daughter in law that only wants to spend time with her side…

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4, Trusting God’s Plan: Overcoming Challenges & Embracing Faith 1:03:40

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In this heartfelt and spirit-led session, we begin with a prayer of gratitude and surrender—inviting God to lead, speak, and move in our hearts. Together, we dive into the story of the fall of Jericho from the Book of Joshua, unpacking how God’s plans often look nothing like ours—but are always filled with purpose, power, and victory. Through perso…

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3, Overcoming Inner Strongholds: Biblical Lessons and Personal Growth 59:50

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In this heartfelt and deeply spiritual session, we begin with a prayer of gratitude and seek divine guidance. The focus is on understanding and applying biblical teachings to overcome personal and spiritual strongholds. Key scripture readings from Deuteronomy and Joshua illustrate the importance of faith, patience, and trust in God's plan. Detailed…

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75: Letting Go, Unapologetically 21:23

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👀 Still stuck where you don’t belong? In this punch-to-the-gut episode, Carla and Shellie get real about the emotional trench warfare of staying too long. Whether it’s a soul-sucking job, a lopsided friendship, or a role that’s outgrown you, this convo dives deep into the guilt, grief, and glorified martyrdom that keep us hanging on—and what finall…

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2, From Friendships to Flatware: Navigating Relationships and the Dinner Table 47:55

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This week’s Freedom Formula unpacks the levels of friendship, how to recognize them, and why they matter. During Tea Time, Carla and Michelle share their thoughts on listener questions. The Etiquette segment walks through formal dining basics: which utensil to use, BMW, and napkin etiquette. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochys.org (www.b…

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2, Discovering Rahab: Faith, Legacy, and Overcoming Through Prayer 1:02:57

3M ago1:02:57

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In this heartfelt episode, we dive deep into chapters one and two of Joshua, focusing on the story of Rahab and her remarkable journey from a life of prostitution and idol worship to becoming a critical part of Jesus' genealogy. The speaker, with a background in human trafficking and victim support, emphasizes the multifaceted nature of God's word …

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1, Finding Freedom Through Faith: A Deep Dive into the Book of Joshua 59:48

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Join Carla Shellis for a transformative Bible study that brings the powerful lessons of the Book of Joshua to life. In this deeply personal and faith-filled session, Carla explores how to break free from past wounds, overcome mental strongholds, and step boldly into the promises of God. Through personal reflection, prayer, and practical application…

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74: Courage First. Confidence Later. 26:10

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Ever waited ‘til you felt ready and missed your shot? Spoiler: Confidence isn’t a prerequisite—it’s a byproduct of doing the damn thing. This episode will lovingly drag you out of your “preparation cave” and remind you that every sweaty palm and racing heart is just proof you care. Whether your pants split onstage (yep, that happened) or you throw …

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1, From Survival To Freedom: Living In The Pink Zone 52:53

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In this episode of Really Feminine, during Carla’s Freedom Formula, we explore the difference between living in the Pink Zone (freedom) versus the Red Zone (survival). During Tea Time, Carla and Michelle answer the listener's questions about how to tell a friend they have halitosis and address a mom struggling to connect with her daughter. In our E…

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73: Late Again: Disrespectful or Just Real Life? 24:48

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"She’s Always Late. Is That Disrespect?” Welcome to our post-show aftershock: one honest moment sparked a full-on unpacking of lateness, respect, and how we assign meaning. Carla wonders: is repeated lateness a quiet betrayal of friendship? Shelley says: not so fast. What if it's not about you at all? From neurodivergence and cultural rhythms to pe…

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72: "I'm Sorry But..." Isn't an Apology - It's a Disguise 25:16

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Heads up — we’re calling BS on the apology reflex. In this no-holds-barred conversation, Carla and Shellie peel back the layers behind “I’m sorry” — that automatic mask we slap on before sharing an opinion, asking a question, or daring to take up space. If you've ever said "I'm sorry, but..." before saying what you really meant, this one’s for you.…

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71: Stop Waiting. Start Doing. Confidence Comes Later. 26:34

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🚨REAL TALK: You do NOT need confidence to take the mic, pitch the idea, or put your message into the world. In fact, confidence comes AFTER you do the scary thing, not before. 🎤💥 In this laugh-out-loud, gut-punching episode of Unapologetic Rabble-Rousers, Carla Lewis and DocShellie drop truth bombs on embarrassment, perfectionism, and the lie that …

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70: The Tolerance Trap: Why You're More Exhausted than You Think 24:42

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🚫 "It’s fine” is killing your vibe. You're not burnt out—you’re exhausted from pretending that everything you’re tolerating is “no big deal.” In this spicy, soul-stirring episode, Carla and DocShellie expose the quiet killer of joy: unspoken resentment. Expect truth, laughter, and the ultimate question: What are you tolerating that’s slowly stealin…

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69: Unlearning: Letting go to Move Forward, Unapologetically 20:20

5M ago20:20

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🚨 What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t what you don’t know—but what you think you do? We’re talking about unlearning today—the sneaky, subconscious programming that keeps you playing small. From the beliefs we inherited as kids to the silent “rules” we live by without question, Carla and DocShellie are ripping it all apart to show you h…

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68: Ditch Being Nice: Embrace True Kindness 22:21

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🚨 PSA: Being nice is NOT the same as being kind—and if you’ve been trained to be nice at all costs, it’s probably costing you more than you realize. Niceness is about avoiding conflict, keeping people comfortable, and sacrificing your own truth. Kindness, on the other hand? That’s about honesty, respect, and standing in integrity—even when it’s awk…

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67: Silent Resignation: Are You Checked Out Of Your Own Life? 19:05

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🚨 Are you living or just existing? 🚨 Ever felt like you’re just going through the motions—wake up, work, sleep, repeat? That’s silent resignation, and it’s sneaky as hell. In this episode of Unapologetic Rabble Rousers, Carla and DocShellie break down why it happens, how to recognize it (before you wake up wondering what the hell happened to my lif…

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66: Self-Sabotage: When Your Worst Enemy is YOU 22:25

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🚨 Self-sabotage isn’t just a bad habit—it’s a full-blown defense mechanism dressed up as "logic." 🚨 We tell ourselves, “I’ll fail anyway, so why try?” or “If I succeed, they’ll expect more.” Sound familiar? Carla and DocShellie are here to expose self-sabotage for what it really is: a sneaky thief stealing your happiness, career growth, and even yo…

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65: Fear of Being Seen: Unmasking Your Authentic Self 18:24

5M ago18:24

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🚨 What if your biggest fear isn’t failure…but being seen? 🚨 Carla and DocShellie are exposing the hidden fear that keeps so many people playing small—the fear of showing up fully, unapologetically, and authentically. From childhood messages like "Don’t show off" to the gut-clenching doubt of "Am I enough?", they unpack why visibility can feel like …

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64: Part 6 - Breaking Free: The Grande Finale on Perfectionism... 25:37

6M ago25:37

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🚨 NEWS FLASH: Playing small is exhausting, perfectionism is a trap, and people-pleasing is not the flex you think it is. 🚨 Carla and DocShellie are wrapping up their deep-dive into the behaviors that keep us stuck—people-pleasing, mask-wearing, self-doubt, and perfectionism. If you’re tired of over-explaining your "no," struggling with self-worth, …

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63: Part 5, Breaking Free: Self-Take Makeover 18:55

6M ago18:55

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🚨 Would You Be Friends With Your Self-Talk?! 🚨 Imagine if that voice in your head was a real person… would you grab coffee with them or run for the hills? 😬 In this episode, Carla and DocShellie rip off the mask of negative self-talk, expose the sneaky ways it holds us back, and show you how to reclaim your inner dialogue. Ready to stop being your …

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62: Part IV: Breaking Free: Mask Wearing & Perfectionism 34:23

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Are you a perfectionist trapped behind a mask? This episode of Unapologetic Rabble Rousers exposes the link between perfectionism and people-pleasing. Discover why the pursuit of perfection is a trap, how it stifles your true self, and learn practical strategies to break free from the cycle of self-criticism and embrace your authentic, imperfect se…

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61: Part III, Breaking Free - People Pleasing 21:15

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🚨 PSA for all People-Pleasers 🚨Did you know every “yes” you give away is a “no” to yourself? 🤯In this episode, Carla Lewis and DocShellie expose the sneaky link between people-pleasing and flimsy boundaries. Why do we let others trample over our time and energy? And how do we break the cycle? Tune in for some eye-opening truths, boundary-setting ha…

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60: Part II, Breaking Free: Unmasking Yourself 20:58

7M ago20:58

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Welcome back, Rabble-Rousers! This week, DocShellie & Carla Lewis are diving deep into something we all do, and rarely talk about: the masks we wear. Not the Halloween kind (though we had some fun with those!), but the metaphorical ones we slip on to navigate the world. We're talking about the perfectionist's polish, the caretaker's constant giving…

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59: Part1, Breaking Free: From People Please to Unapologetic Authenticity 20:00

7M ago20:00

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This episode kicks off our newest series, Breaking Free from People Pleasing to Unapologetic Authenticity. Doc Shelley and Carla Lewis unpack the sneaky habits of people-pleasing, the pain of masking your true self, and the liberating power of saying, “No more!” Through real talk, raw stories, and a touch of humor, they challenge you to rethink wha…

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58: Stop Standing in Your Own Way: A Wake-Up Call for Rebels 27:03

7M ago27:03

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Tired of playing small? Carla and DocShellie are here to call out the BS rules we all live by—especially the ones we didn’t choose. Learn how to shut down your inner naysayer, lean into your power, and finally ask, "Who says I can't?"By Carla Lewis and DocShellie

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57: Rebel with a Cause: Owning Your Power & Impact 28:47

7M ago28:47

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In this raw and real episode, DocShellie and Carla Lewis unpack the misunderstood art of rebellion. With humor, candor, and a touch of personal experience, they challenge you to rethink societal norms, silence your inner critic, and step boldly into your power. It’s time to play big, unapologetically.…

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56: What We Wish We Knew About Fear, Judgement & Self-Worth 41:34

8M ago41:34

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In classic Unapologetic Rabble-Rousers style, DocShellie and Carla Lewis dive headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and oh-so-relatable truth bombs we all need to hear. They unpack why worrying about others’ opinions is a waste of time, how to challenge fear like the inner CEO you are, and why your self-worth isn’t up for public debate. It’s a conve…