Best Why Am I Always Angry Podcasts (2025)

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Live news! Come and see us at EartH in London on 16 December 1:06

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A special announcement: Moya and Ash will host a festive edition of If I Speak on 16th December. Joining us at EartH in East London will be special guest Jordan Stephens – actor, writer, one half of Rizzle Kicks and the author of a bestselling memoir, Avoidance, Drugs, Heartbreak and Dogs! Tickets are available now from Dice. Our north-west special…

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87: I’m losing interest in my fiancée. Should she make more effort? 1:10:19

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Come and see us live on 25th November in Manchester with special guest Lanre Bakare, author of We Were There! Tickets are available now from Contact Theatre. Inspired by a famous pop psychology quiz, Moya and Ash tackle a quiz about the culture that shaped them, from celebrity crushes to memorable quotes. Plus: advice for a young fiancé who’s losin…

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86: Why do we lap up other people’s horror stories? 1:12:22

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We’re coming to Manchester! On 25th November we’ll be at Contact Theatre for a live show with special guest Lanre Bakare, author of We Were There. Tickets are available now from the Contact website! This week, Moya and Ash offer a thought for spooky season: why do love hearing other people’s horror stories? Plus: Moya spills on a dating disaster, a…

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85: Has pop culture turned to slop? w/ Kemi Alemoru 1:08:44

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*Display your Special One status with our only piece of merch so far – a bag! Available from shop.novaramedia.com* Moya and Ash are joined by Kemi Alemoru, editorial director of Glamour UK, to analyse the current state of pop culture, from Taylor Swift to A24. Has pop turned to slop? Or is it on us to fix our algorithmic intake? Plus: advice on a w…

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84: How to ace a first date (by two very different daters) 57:58

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*Flag your Special One status with a massive foldable Baggu bag, available from shop.novaramedia.com* Are you a stranger dater or a fan of the ‘indeterminate hang’? Moya and Ash explain their very different approaches to a first date. Plus: advice for an unhappy house-sharer. Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.…

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83: Is jealousy the spice of life? 1:05:03

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82: Help! I can’t stop hating men 1:09:56

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*Join the Baggu believers: it’s a huge foldable bag just for Special Ones, available from shop.novaramedia.com* Moya wants to stop hating men and start building trust, which means a dialogue about all the things that make that difficult: objectification, racist over-sexualisation, degrading comments, and rape (TW: 27m; 40m). Send us your dilemmas: …

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81: Is it wrong to love my AI boyfriend? 45:35

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*We’ve got merch. Gift yourself the If I Speak x Baggu bag, only from shop.novaramedia.com* A mystery question from producer Chal prompts a conversation about secrets in romantic relationships – from watching porn to cheating with an AI boyfriend. Plus: advice for an autistic dater who’s been banned from Hinge. Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novar…

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80: September is the real new year. Will your resolution stick this time? 1:02:43

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*Flag your Special One status with our official tote bag, only from shop.novaramedia.com* Moya has a simple proposition: September is the best month for fresh starts. But why do we always want a clean slate? Plus, a straight white man who’s trying to be good and getting flak for it anyway. Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Music by Ma…

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79: Help! I’ve moved back home and now my mum hates me 59:07

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*Check out the official If I Speak tote bag on shop.novaramedia.com* Moya and Ash tackle your dilemmas, featuring a middle-class mum who’s become distant and critical, an ex-boyfriend who’s blowing hot and cold, a looming holiday with an abuser, a single man wondering where all the single women are hiding, and a twenty-something struggling to build…

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78: What does it take to feel safe? 1:10:36

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*Get the If I Speak Baggu bag from shop.novaramedia.com* A shocking real-life incident prompts a conversation about feeling safe, trusting your gut and the politics of public safety. Plus: advice on finding friendship after leaving a conservative religious community. TW: sexual assault (at 43m) Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Music …

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77: What’s the difference between a girl and a woman? 1:02:01

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*The If I Speak Baggu bag is ethically made, comes in two colours and is available from shop.novaramedia.com* What would it mean to be valued simply as a woman – not as a mother, wife, caregiver, girlypops or MILF? Ash and Moya talk about their animal natures and fear of motherhood in a chat spurred by last week’s interview with feminist critic Sop…

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Why Do I Still Feel Stuck (Even Though I Know What Happened)? 14:08

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You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, even named the patterns — gaslighting, trauma bonding, narcissism. You understand what happened. So why do you still feel stuck? In this episode of AwakenHer, we explore the disconnect that so many trauma survivors experience between intellectual awareness and embodied healing. …

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76: How porn went mainstream and changed everything w/ Sophie Gilbert 1:17:32

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*Support the show by copping the If I Speak Baggu bag – it’s ethically made, comes in two colours and is available from shop.novaramedia.com* Ash and Moya talk to Sophie Gilbert about the pornification of the ’90s and ’00s – an era when riot grrl gave way to girl power, the supermodel was replaced by the waif, and feminist solidarity battled agains…

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75: The world needs more flirting. Here’s how 1:11:22

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*Support the show by copping the If I Speak Baggu bag – it’s ethically made, comes in two colours and is available from shop.novaramedia.com* Moya and Ash tackle a topic that turns up in the If I Speak mailbox every week: how can we get better at flirting IRL – and coping with rejection? Plus, how to process a failed friendship. Warning: Contains m…

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Protecting Your Peace or Pushing People Away? The Real Power of ‘The Let Them Theory’ 14:39

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In today’s episode of AwakenHer, I’m unpacking the widely shared “Let Them” theory—popularized by Mel Robbins—and exploring how this seemingly empowering phrase can sometimes be misunderstood or misused, especially when we’re still healing from relational trauma. We’ll look at what it really means to let someone be who they are from a trauma-inform…

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74: Can your racial identity change over time? 1:15:13

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*Flag your Special One status with the If I Speak Baggu bag – it’s ethically made, comes in two colours and is available now from shop.novaramedia.com* Ash has noticed that neither she nor Moya is white and urgently needs to talk about it. Has her sense of her racial identity changed over time? And where does it come from – their shade, their commu…

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73: Where did it all go wrong on the dancefloor? 1:07:59

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*Flag your Special One status with the If I Speak Baggu bag – it’s ethically made, comes in two colours and is available now from shop.novaramedia.com* Having rekindled her appetite for fun, Ash now has a five-point plan to improve dancefloors. Plus, advice for a special one whose boyfriend isn’t weird or jealous – and that’s the problem. Send us y…

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How to Fall Apart (and Why It’s the Key to Finding Yourself) with Judy Greenfeld 50:17

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In this deeply moving episode of AwakenHer, host Corissa Stepp welcomes Rabbi Cantor Judy Greenfeld for an honest and soul-stirring conversation about transforming pain into strength and finding true purpose through life’s harshest challenges. Judy—an author, spiritual leader, and founder of the Nachshon Minyan in Texas—brings powerful insights on …

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72: Why does it always have to be me taking responsibility? 1:07:20

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*We’ve got merch! The If I Speak Baggu bag is ethically made, comes in two colours and is available now from shop.novaramedia.com* Ash and Moya descend into the guilt vortex for a conversation about family, responsibility, and parents who need to be parented. Plus: advice for a special one with a workplace crush. Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@nov…

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Why Am I So Angry? Finding Healing and Compassion Beneath the Rage 11:22

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If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why am I so angry all the time?” — this episode is for you. Host Corissa Stepp explores how anger shows up as a trauma response after narcissistic abuse, how it functions as a protector part through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), and why you might be snapping at the people you love. Tune in to lear…

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The Crash That Almost Killed Me 43:19

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Send us a text If you're stuck in performance mode, afraid to slow down, or constantly wondering, “Why do I feel this way when nothing looks wrong?” — this is your episode. In this second part of my story, I go deeper into what it actually takes to break free from the patterns that keep high-achieving men stuck in limbo. A life where, on the surfac…

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71: If I’m so angry then why am I crying?! 1:00:12

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*We’ve got merch! The If I Speak Baggu bag is ethically made, comes in two colours and is available now from shop.novaramedia.com. Support the show and find fellow Special Ones.* On this episode, Moya presents an intrusive thought from a Special One about why some women struggle to express their anger. Should our ‘outlaw emotions’ be brought to the…

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Men on Autopilot: The Hidden Trauma Behind Stress, Success & Sleepwalking 24:16

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Send us a text This episode is for the high-achieving man who feels lost behind the mask. I share the untold story of my journey through trauma, addiction, and emotional shutdown—and how hidden Shadow Scars™ kept me sleepwalking through life on autopilot. I talk about being bullied, sexually abused, struggling with anxiety and PTSD, and how it all …

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Why Blaming the Narcissist Is Holding You Back (And What To Do Instead) 30:16

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Welcome to another empowering episode of AwakenHer with Corissa Stepp! In this transformative episode, Corissa explores how women can break the cycle of blame, release the weight of past trauma, and step confidently into healing after experiencing narcissistic abuse. Episode Highlights: Understanding Victimhood After Narcissistic Abuse: Corissa exp…

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70: Can you ever change what you want? 1:10:33

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*We’ve got merch! The If I Speak Baggu is ethically made, comes in two colours and is available now from shop.novaramedia.com. Support the show and send a signal to fellow Special Ones.* In this episode, Moya and Ash talk about what to do with their impossible desires. Plus: Britain’s drinking problems, and and advice for a gay man whose female bes…

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69: Is marriage a hard border? w/ Jeremy Atherton Lin 1:00:39

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Is marriage like an island, or more of an open house? Ash talks about state-sanctioned relationships with memoirist Jeremy Atherton Lin, whose new book Deep House: The Gayest Love Story Ever Told, is out now. Plus, advice for a listener whose money worries aren’t shared by her partner. Are you in big trouble? Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaram…

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Reclaiming Joy Without Guilt: How to Overcome People-Pleasing, Heal Childhood Wounds, and Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse 14:19

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This week on AwakenHer, host Corissa Stepp dives into the transformative topic of experiencing guilt-free joy—especially in the small, everyday moments. Sparked by a heartfelt listener message, Corissa explores why so many women struggle with feelings of guilt when prioritizing themselves and feeling joy, and how these patterns often begin in child…

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68: Help! My housemate is a pig 1:10:02

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Moya and Ash deal with your dilemmas, including a daughter who wants to give away her inheritance, a scared mum facing up to her prejudice, a singleton wondering if moving home was a mistake, and a renter whose housemate is a total pig. Are you in big trouble? Email us: [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.…

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67: What’s up with Generation Alpha? 56:05

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Moya and Ash wonder what’s up with kids these days, thinking about parenting, advertising, social media and anxiety. Plus, advice for a bereaved listener who’s furious with her stepmum. Send your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.By Novara Media

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Are You Building a Life or Sleepwalking on Autopilot? 34:25

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Send us a text Are You Building or Drifting? From Sleepwalker to Architect Do you feel like you're drifting through life—going through the motions without direction, stuck in patterns you can't break? This episode is your wake-up call. Join Andy as he dives deep into the transformative journey from being a Sleepwalker—someone who passively drifts t…

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66: I’m right, you’re wrong, end of! 58:43

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Moya has an intrusive thought about our need for certainty and Ash responds with an idea about how the internet has polarised our thinking. Plus, advice for a singleton with avoidant tendencies. Send your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.By Novara Media

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65: Has your smartphone broken your brain? 54:36

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Ash and Moya face up to all the ways their smartphone has warped their minds. Plus, advice for a trans woman struggling to interact with the world in the wake of the Supreme Court ruling. Come and see If I Speak in London on 21st May! Final tickets are available now from Dice. Send your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.…

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Transforming Ancestral Trauma: Healing Generational Wounds with Edit B. Kiss 46:37

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Are you feeling stuck in your healing journey, despite doing all “the work”? Do you sense patterns, limiting beliefs, or traumas surfacing—ones that don’t seem entirely your own? On this transformative episode of AwakenHer, host Corissa Stepp sits down with holistic mentor, bestselling author, and energy healer Edit B. Kiss. Together, they unravel …

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64: What is the female gaze? 57:29

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What do straight women find attractive? Too many men think the answer is ‘big muscles’ says Ash, who has a big theory about sensuality. Plus: what to do when your boss is a bigot. Come and see If I Speak LIVE in London on 21st May! Join Ash, Moya and special guest Monica Heisey – comedian and author of Really, Good Actually – at EartH in East Londo…

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63: Do people just want to be told what to do? 1:02:14

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Moya has a big theory and you’re not going to like it: most of us would rather be told how to live our lives by someone else than work it out ourselves. Could it be? Plus, advice for a broken-hearted student. Seats for our live show in London are going fast! Join Ash, Moya and special guest Monica Heisey – comedian and author of Really, Good Actual…

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Why My Hustle Left Me Empty (And What Changed) 22:26

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Send us a text Always busy but never at peace? Can’t stop scrolling? Always pushing but never arriving? This episode is for you. Andy exposes the inner slave driver - a relentless voice born from your earliest wounds, now driving your overworking, overthinking, and overstimulation. This is more than burnout. It’s a Shadow Scar- and it’s running you…

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The Surprising Link Between Trauma and Gut Health (And How to Heal It!) with Cristina Calvi 53:17

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In this transformative episode of AwakenHer, Corissa is joined by Cristina Calvi, a certified herbalist, Nutrition & Health Coach, for a deep-dive conversation into the powerful, often overlooked connection between trauma and gut health. Together, they explore how trauma—especially chronic or relational trauma—disrupts the gut-brain connection, imp…

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62: I’m not sure I want to call myself a feminist anymore… 56:40

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Ash and Moya confront their feelings after a bad fortnight for feminism, from Katy Perry in space to the Supreme Court’s anti-trans ruling. Plus: advice on divorcing parents and compulsive exercising. PSA: We’re going live at EartH in London on 21st May! Special guest TBA! Tickets are available from Dice. Send your dilemmas to ifispeak@novaramedia.…

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Why Most Men Stay Boys — And What It Really Takes to Grow the F*ck Up 40:08

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Send us a text Know you’re capable of more — but can't quite access 'it'? In this raw, real episode, our host Andy breaks down why so many high-performing men hit a hidden ceiling. He unpacks how "Boy Psychology" holds even the most driven men back from their next evolution — and what it takes to step fully into leadership, purpose, and power. If y…

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You’re Not Crazy: How Trauma & Narcissistic Abuse Disrupt Memory 17:45

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Have you ever struggled to remember details from your past—and wondered if something was wrong with you? You’re not alone. And no—you’re not crazy. In this heartfelt episode, Corissa gets personal about how trauma impacted her ability to recall memories and tell stories, and why this is especially common for survivors of narcissistic abuse. She unp…

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61: Can friendships cross class lines? w/ Natasha Brown 56:02

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Ash speaks to author Natasha Brown about the big questions raised by her acclaimed second novel Universality, a ‘whydunnit’ mystery about identity, class and how we (re)invent ourselves. Plus: a dilemma about selling your soul. PSA: We’re going live at EartH in London on 21st May! Tickets are available from Dice. Send your dilemmas to ifispeak@nova…

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60: Are we too addicted to convenience? 51:43

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Ash and Moya answer a mystery question and wonder if our quest for a life of convenience was a mistake. Plus: advice for a listener dating a much, much older man. PSA: We’re going live at EartH in London on 21st May! Stay tuned for tickets next week. Music by Matt Huxley.By Novara Media

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59: Does my ex owe me money for the house we renovated? 1:01:16

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Moya and Ash offer advice to a special one who’s lost everything after renovating a house with their ex. Plus: what if some of us are ‘relationship people’ while the rest are better off alone? We’re now yapping on TikTok! Follow us @ifispeakpod. Send your dilemmas to [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.…

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Is It Necessary to Forgive a Narcissist? 21:37

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In this episode, Corissa, your host, explores the complex relationship between forgiveness and narcissism. She discusses the importance of understanding forgiveness as a personal choice and practice, emphasizing that it is ultimately for one's own healing. The conversation delves into the necessity of compassion, both for oneself and for those who …

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58: I want to be fun again. Help! 57:01

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Ash has an intrusive thought that she thinks Moya can help with: make me fun again! Plus advice for a listener navigating the identity politics of the student council. We’re now yapping on TikTok! Follow us @ifispeakpod Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.By Novara Media

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57: Do you really want to know about your partner’s past mistakes? 1:09:39

8M ago1:09:39

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Nicola Dinan returns to the show to talk about her second novel, Disappoint Me, and respond to Moya’s question about how to deal with a partner’s past mistakes. Plus, dilemmas about lip filler and bottom surgery. CW: Contains discussion of sexual assault. We’re now yapping on TikTok! Follow us @ifispeakpod Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedi…

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56: The one where Moya grills Ash on her new book 1:03:11

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[Updated audio! Please refresh, redownload and/or clear your cookies for fixed version] Moya has a bone to pick with Ash about Minority Rule and the conversations sparked by her book tour, while posing the big question: why is it so hard to form your own opinions? Plus: what to do when a newly sober friend starts drifting away. We’re now yapping on…

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55: Joy is an act of resistance… right? 1:02:54

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Moya and Ash discuss the uses and abuses of self-care culture and its roots in Black feminism. Plus: how to get over homesickness. Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.By Novara Media

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54: Forget the boycott, gimme that brand deal 53:37

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Why did Stormzy delete his pro-Palestine posts just before unveiling a Happy Meal tie-in with McDonald’s? Ash asks Moya if big artists are all just businesses in the end. Plus: how to deal with a delusional friend. Send us your dilemmas: [email protected] Music by Matt Huxley.By Novara Media