Best Trace Gaynor Podcasts (2025)

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How to Heal From Your Attachment Trauma Series with Rebecca Prolman PART 1 40:58

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3d ago40:58

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In Part 1 of this 3-episode series, John Kim and licensed therapist Rebecca Prolman break down attachment trauma in clear, human terms. They unpack emotional neglect, nervous-system dysregulation, the NARM approach (NeuroAffective Relational Model), and why so many of us carry shame that isn’t ours. You’ll learn the core dilemma children face (“sta…

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Falling for Your Therapist: Why It Happens & What It Means 42:22

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What happens when therapy becomes personal? In this raw and honest conversation, John Kim talks with licensed therapist Rebecca Prolman about her real-life experience of falling for her therapist — and what it taught her about attachment, shame, and healing. Together they explore the taboo topic of client-therapist attraction, transference and coun…

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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Are You Loving the Wrong Way? 23:39

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In this episode, John dives into some of the most honest, relatable, and raw relationship questions we all face — from managing triggers and attachment styles to knowing when it’s time to let go. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Am I loving the wrong way?” or “How do I know if this relationship is worth it?” — this one’s for you. It’s not about perfe…

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Why Losing Everything Can Lead to Your Most Authentic Self 1:18:29

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In this special episode, John Kim brings together five brilliant voices - Amy Chan, Terri Cole, Dene Logan, Vanessa Bennett, and Daniel Stewart - for a raw and honest conversation about love, grief, codependency, and what it really means to grow. They unpack: Turning loss into a wake-up call 🌿 The biology of heartbreak and trauma bonds ❤️‍🔥 How to …

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Living in Flow: Escaping the Fight-or-Flight Loop 17:38

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In this week’s episode, John Kim shares a real story about risk, fear, and transformation. What started as a property deal in Costa Rica turned into a profound reminder about the power of mindset. When we shift from fear to growth, everything changes - from how we love to how we live. ✨ Episode Highlights: How a 25-year-old inspired a new way to th…

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The Power of Not Giving a F*ck After 40 21:57

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There’s a freedom that comes in your 40s that no one warns you about - because it doesn’t come from achievement or success. It comes from shedding. In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about what it really means to stop giving a f*ck - not in the cynical sense, but in the self-loving one.It’s about choosing your energy wisely, letting go of peopl…

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The Pressure to Make Them Proud: Letting Go of Conditional Love 42:07

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What happens when love feels like pressure - when “I’m proud of you” never came? In this honest conversation, John Kim and John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, talk about growing up with parents who equated love with achievement, and what it takes to finally feel enough on your own terms. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The invisible weight o…

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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Love is Better. Not Harder. 17:37

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In this Q&A, John Kim answers your raw, unfiltered questions about love, attachment, and what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship. From anxious-avoidant dynamics to retroactive jealousy and emotional unavailability — this one gets real. Whether you’re questioning if love should be easy, wondering why your partner won’t commit, or stru…

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I Knew on My Wedding Day He Wasn’t the One 52:41

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By The Angry Therapist

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How I Traded Hollywood Dreams for a Real Life 20:05

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What happens when the blueprint you’ve been chasing - cars, houses, status - no longer fits who you’ve become? In this powerful episode, John Kim shares how he traded Hollywood dreams for a meaningful life in Costa Rica, and how redefining his blueprint transformed everything. In this conversation, you’ll hear about: Why chasing cars, houses, and s…

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Building A Life That Fills You 19:12

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What do you do when life forces you to start over? John Kim shares how he rebuilt his life in Costa Rica - through community, facing fears, daily rituals, and love check-ins. A raw, honest guide to rebuilding with intention. In this episode, you’ll hear about: How community can ground and heal you Facing fears to unlock flow states Shifting fitness…

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No Regrets: The Power of Honest Choices 18:51

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What if there were no “wrong” choices - only honest ones? In this episode, John Kim unpacks how to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting the decisions that truly align with who you are. Instead of chasing the “right” path or playing it safe, John shares how honest choices open doors you never expected, build real self-trust, and help you…

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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Hard Truths on the Couch 20:06

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In this Q&A episode, we dive into your unfiltered questions about heartbreak, dating, relationships, and therapy. From moving on after betrayal to navigating compatibility and attachment, we explore the messy, honest realities of love - and the ways we can grow through them. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John…

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Can Trauma Become Your Superpower? | Sheree’s Story of Healing & Resilience 38:49

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Can trauma become your superpower? In this powerful conversation, John Kim sits down with author and ghostwriter Sheree Medeiros to explore how the deepest wounds can lead to resilience, healing, and even purpose. Sheree shares her journey - growing up with an absent father, surviving sexual assault, battling illness, and ultimately discovering tha…

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Unscripting Your Limiting Beliefs: Rewrite Your Narrative 19:46

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Do you ever feel like an invisible script is controlling your life, dictating what you can and can't achieve? What if I told you that script was written by *you*, and you have the power to rewrite every single line? In this episode, licensed therapist - John Kim will reveal how to identify those hidden limiting beliefs and transform your narrative …

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Two Therapists in Bed: Can You Really Make a Marriage Bulletproof? 40:55

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In this episode, John and Vanessa dive into one of their most personal conversations yet: Can you make a marriage bulletproof? What starts with a casual coffee shop chat about Costa Rica being a place where marriages “come to die” spirals into a raw, honest discussion about trust, romance, fear, and what truly keeps a relationship alive. They debat…

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3 Hidden Signs Your Therapist Is Taking Sides 22:38

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Ever felt ganged up on in therapy? We explore how bias “leaks,” how to ask for fairness, and three tools you can also use when giving relationship advice to a friend - so you support without picking sides. Learn to hold space (not control outcomes) and keep growth honest - even when it’s messy. What you’ll learn: How “leaking bias” erodes trust - a…

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Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | Love Is Messy. Here’s The Truth. 21:53

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In today’s episode, John Kim answers your most vulnerable questions about relationships - from surviving infidelity and messy breakups, to knowing when it’s time to try again (or walk away), to managing jealousy, triggers, and control. Raw, honest, and unfiltered — this is the conversation we all need about love, loss, and everything in between. Or…

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Fasting Without Fasting: The Shortcut That Changes Everything 40:15

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In this episode, John Kim sits down with Dr. Chris Rhodes, a nutritional biochemist and biohacking pioneer, to uncover the truth about fasting—and a revolutionary shortcut that could change everything. From the myths of intermittent fasting to the hidden benefits of extended fasts, Dr. Rhodes shares his research, self-experiments, and the breakthro…

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Do You Ever Carry Someone You Couldn't Save? 22:57

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In today’s deeply moving episode, John shares a story most therapists would never dare reveal - the client who still haunts him years later. This isn’t about clinical textbooks or success stories. It’s about the raw, unfiltered truth of what happens when therapy collides with real life, addiction, and the weight of responsibility no one prepares yo…

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Two Therapists in Bed Talk: Can Men Say No to Casual Sex? (And Other Big Questions We Avoid) 26:04

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From sex myths to second chances, safe choices to stuck seasons - John and Vanessa answer real listener questions from bed. You’ll hear why gendered scripts about sex don’t serve us, what really matters before getting back with an ex, how to choose the “risky” path without regret, and why feeling unmotivated can be a necessary pause - not a persona…

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Why Your World Feels Small (and How to Redefine Life Before It’s Too Late) 15:20

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Sometimes life forces you to hit reset. For me, it was losing my house. For you, it might be a breakup, a career shift, or just that nagging feeling that life is smaller than it should be. In this walk-and-talk episode from Costa Rica, I share how I’ve been redefining everything: happiness, relationships, play, even what “success” means. The truth …

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Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | Heartbreak Hurts Here's Why 23:11

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In today’s episode, John Kim takes on your raw, unfiltered questions about love — from the heartbreak of seeing an ex with someone new, to the chaos of dating in your 40s, to navigating loneliness, trauma, and self-worth. It’s the real talk you’ve been craving: messy, honest, and maybe the perspective you need to keep moving forward. Order John's n…

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When You Shut the Door on Miracles 20:34

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What if it’s not the big traumas that hold us back, but the tiny cracks in how we think each day? In this episode, John Kim and Vanessa unpack how we unconsciously block miracles - through catastrophizing, over-stimulation, and self-protection - and how small shifts in mindset can open the door to flow, joy, and unexpected magic. If this helped, hi…

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Still Stuck on Your Ex | This is Why 15:49

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Closure isn’t a door you wait to have slammed shut - it’s a bridge you build. In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim breaks the biggest “closure” myths and shows you how to move forward without an apology, a perfect explanation, or one last text. If you’ve felt stuck in relationship residue, this is your map. In this episode, you’ll learn: Wh…

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Stop Guessing Their Love: Say What Lands 26:08

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A 30-second, playful moment sparked this episode - and a reminder: love isn’t generic. We break down how to speak love so it lands without abandoning yourself, especially when partners differ. What you’ll learn (10 takeaways): Love isn’t generic - different emotional blueprints How to avoid the “I’m giving everything, it’s still not enough” trap Bu…

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From Nauseous Nights to Perfect Mornings | Life in Costa Rica 16:12

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In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim takes you inside his personal journey of building a new life in Costa Rica - the highs, the lows, and the unexpected lessons about presence, clarity, and decision-making. From nausea-inducing dirt roads to perfect mornings surfing in Costa Rica, John unpacks how life-changing decisions aren’t made in one…

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Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | The Truth About Breakups 18:18

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In today’s episode, John Kim answers raw, unfiltered listener questions on the theme of breakups and divorce — the things you’d never dare ask your therapist. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠…

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Loving Without Losing Me: Healing the Mother Wound 23:06

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In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim gets personal about the mother wound - how it quietly shapes our self-worth, love life, and sense of safety. From a surprising MDMA journey insight to stories about his Korean-American upbringing, John unpacks what it’s like to grow up without emotional warmth from mom - and how this absence leaves lasti…

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The Lie We Tell Men About Strength 25:27

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In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks the father wound - how it silently shapes our self-worth, relationships, and ideas of masculinity. Through raw personal stories and practical, street-level insights, he explores what it means to grow up with a “ghost father” and how both men and women can begin to heal. You’ll learn: Why the fath…

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Two Therapists in Bed Talk Breakups, Healing, and OnlyFans 25:06

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In this episode, licensed therapists John Kim and Vanessa Bennett dive deep into healing, heartbreak, attachment styles, and codependency - all from the comfort of their bed. With real-life stories, practical insights, and the lens of depth psychology, they unpack what it really means to "heal" and why the journey is anything but linear. You’ll lea…

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Love Doesn’t Kill Jealousy - It Listens to It 25:04

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In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks jealousy through raw personal stories and powerful insights. He dives into the emotional roots of jealousy, including insecurity, fear of abandonment, and core wounds — and offers real, practical tools to navigate it with compassion and clarity. You’ll learn: How jealousy actually protects us (un…

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My F*cking Feelings: An "Unproductive" Day 20:42

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Today, John shares a personal take on creativity, productivity, and the pressures they carry. He explores how AI is reshaping the creative process, the quiet power of everyday moments, and why it's worth challenging traditional ideas of success. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app…

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You're Not Too Much — They Just Weren't Equipped 24:04

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Today, John unpacks how childhood experiences shape our ability to express emotions and why traits often seen as flaws can actually be powerful strengths. He also highlights the importance of reframing our emotional narratives, building a strong support system, and embracing the messy—but meaningful—journey toward authenticity. Order John's new boo…

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Why We Keep Chasing the Same Kind of Love 22:40

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Today, John unpacks the complex layers of attraction, emotional wiring, and how our childhood shapes the way we love as adults. He dives into the connection between self-worth and the partners we choose, and why so many of us find ourselves settling—in both relationships and careers. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump i…

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One Month in Costa Rica: The Good, the Bad, and Could This Be Our New Home? 31:36

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Today, John reflects on his first month living in Costa Rica—what's surprised him, what’s challenged him, and what’s changed him. He opens up about the warmth of the people, unexpected joy of slowing down, highs, lows, and lessons of this major lifestyle shift. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On…

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I Feel Lost. What's the First Step to Changing My Life? 27:52

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Today, John explores the idea of rebirth and redefining happiness. He emphasizes the importance of pulling from personal truth, recognizing when you're in survival mode, and taking actionable steps towards authenticity and fulfillment. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Fol…

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The Race Was Never Real: Notes on Slowing Down Without Falling Behind 21:58

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Today, John discusses the importance of embracing change, practicing mindfulness through surfing, and the significance of detachment from societal pressures. He also reflects on redefining success, finding joy in simplicity, and experiencing life in vibrant color. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On…

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Nightcap, Costa Rica Edition: Burning Down Old Blueprints & Redefining Happy 32:59

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Today, John reflects on the rapid changes in his life, the cultural adjustments he faces, and the importance of community and authentic relationships. He discusses the shedding of old blueprints and the creation of a new life that feels more honest and fulfilling. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your rel…

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Morning Coffee in the Jungle: Day in the Life & New Mindset Change 39:57

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Today, John discusses the significance of family, the creative process of documenting life, and the concept of life as an act break. Throughout, he emphasizes the value of intentional living and how it shapes daily routines and interactions. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself…

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How Life Transitions Impact Relationships. 31:38

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Today, John and Vanessa discuss their experiences and challenges after moving to Costa Rica. They explore themes of cultural adjustment, language barriers, relationship dynamics, community connection, and the impact of motherhood on their lives. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with your…

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Costa Rica: Week One 31:59

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Today, John discusses the challenges and joys of relocating, the importance of community, and the lifestyle changes that come with living in a new country. He reflects on the beauty of the beach life, the culinary delights of Costa Rican food, and the fears he faces about the future. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to…

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The Myth of ‘The One’: Why Soulmates Are Built, Not Found 22:51

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Today, John unpacks the modern myth of the soulmate — and flips it on its head. Instead of chasing “the one,” he invites us to rethink soulmates as built, not found— and explores how true connection comes not from perfection, but from shared growth, challenges, and the courage to repair after rupture. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A …

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RE-RELEASE: Resting B*tch Face 13:37

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Today, John talks about the transformative power of honesty. Reflecting on past relationships and personal beliefs, he explores the courage it takes to confront self-deception and encourages listeners to examine where they may be out of alignment. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yours…

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Night Cap. Ramblings and Revelations (First One Since the Fire) 40:51

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Today, John opens up about letting go of his former life and embracing new possibilities, including a bold move to Costa Rica. He shares insights on personal evolution, the changing landscape of entertainment in the digital age, and redefines love as a state of being. ⁠Single On Purpose School⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your re…

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You Don’t Need a Perfect Life. You Just Need This 30:20

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Today, John redefines happiness — not as a far-off destination, but as a daily practice rooted in intention. He unpacks the myth of “arrival,” urging us to stop waiting for external circumstances to shift and instead cultivate joy from within. Single On Purpose School starts July 9th! A 6-week program to transform your relationship with yourself an…

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What is Healthy & Unhealthy Love? 15:26

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Today, John explores the difference between healthy and unhealthy love — what each looks like, how they show up, and why the distinction matters. He unpacks the power of repair in relationships and how conscious effort is key to cultivating connection. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HER…

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Finding Joy After Fundamentalism with Heather McGinley 51:57

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Today, John speaks with Heather McGinley about the complexities of her relationship with her father, the weight of growing up in a large, tightly controlled family, and the delayed realizations of trauma that surfaced later in life. Heather shares how becoming a mother reshaped her understanding of consent, boundaries, and forgiveness — and how the…

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Your 5 Most Asked Questions Answered 22:54

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Today, John answers five of the most common questions about relationships and emotional well-being, from daily reminders for self-healing to why we attract emotionally unavailable partners, the difference between love and attachment, and how to spot settling. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose …

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After the Fire Series: My Last Day in LA 19:59

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Today, John opens up about the emotional complexity of leaving Los Angeles for a new chapter in Costa Rica. He delves into the ideas of the "remembering self" and the "experiencing self," revealing how our memories often shape — and sometimes distort — the way we make decisions. I'm running a 7-Day "Done with the Bullsh*t" Detox — this isn't the ki…