Best Preoccupied Attachment Podcasts (2025)

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How Do I Stop Worrying About What Everyone Else Thinks? 11:51

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6h ago11:51

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Do you ever feel like your whole life is a performance — constantly trying to please others, keep the peace, or avoid judgment? You say yes when you mean no. You hold back what you really think. You feel anxious if someone’s upset with you. Deep down, you’re tired of it — but you don’t know how to stop. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…

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How Do I Know If I'm Abandoning Myself in Marriage? 13:14

2d ago13:14

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”? Maybe you’re always keeping the peace, saying “it’s fine” when it’s not, or pretending your needs don’t matter. That’s not strength — that’s self-abandonment. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down what it really means to lose yourself in …

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Breakups: How Each Attachment Style Handles Splitting Up 30:39

1d ago30:39

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What's up, everyone! Welcome back for episode 6 of The Attachment Confessions! Today's episode centers around one of the questions I get asked most about when it comes to attachment – Breakups. UGH. Breakups. The dreaded B word. Breakups. Are. The. Worst. But just like so many other things when it comes to how we handle the highs and lows of relati…

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Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings? 12:08

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Have you ever tried to share something real with your wife — your loneliness, stress, or sadness — and she just shuts down? Maybe she goes quiet, gets defensive, or seems to disappear emotionally. You’re left standing there, wondering what just happened — and why you feel worse for even trying. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce A…

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Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage? 12:13

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Can a man really be happy in a marriage without sex? Most husbands facing this question feel torn — wanting to stay faithful and kind, but also feeling unseen, rejected, and empty. You’re not broken for wanting intimacy. You’re not selfish for craving connection. You’re human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the s…

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The Earthquake of Abandonment Terror: How Preoccupied People Experience This (and How to Overcome It) 1:04:41

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We continue our series on Abandonment Terror and focus on Preoccupied People experience it. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start-here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Mettagroup was …

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Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success? 14:24

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Do you ever pull away when things finally start to go right? Maybe your marriage starts improving, your business gains traction, or you feel more confident than ever — and then you suddenly check out, pick a fight, or quit. That’s self-sabotage. And it’s more common than you think. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explain…

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Why Fostering Secure Attachment In Our Kids Is So Crucial 23:11

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Hello everybody! Welcome to The Attachment Confessions! Thanks so much for joining me for Episode 5 – Why Fostering Secure Attachment In Our Kids Is So Crucial. In today's episode, we take a deeper dive into one of the early attachment experiments that our guest from episode 4, Brie Neil, mentioned toward the beginning of our conversation – Mary Ai…

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What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy? 15:06

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By M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

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How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex? 14:52

11d ago14:52

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Do you feel resentful toward your wife because of a lack of sex in your marriage? You’re not alone. Many men in sexless or low-sex marriages feel lonely, rejected, and ashamed. Resentment builds — not because you’re bad or broken, but because your deeper pain has gone unspoken. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the …

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Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck 15:56

14d ago15:56

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Do you reach for a drink to take the edge off? Do you tell yourself it’s “just to relax” — but deep down you know it’s about numbing? Many men use alcohol to escape feelings of shame, stress, and loneliness. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explores how alcohol becomes less about celebration and more about self-abandonmen…

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The Earthquake of Abandonment Terror: How Dismissing People Experience This (and How to Overcome It) 51:39

15d ago51:39

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What is this common phenomenon? How does each attachment strategy orient toward abandonment terror? How should you approach overcoming it, based on your attachment strategy? Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly mean…

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Attachment Specialist Brie Neil Joins the Pod! 46:57

15d ago46:57

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What's up, guys?! Happy Wednesday! I am SO incredibly excited to have my VERY FIRST guest on the pod with me today!!! Brie Neil joins The Attachment Confessions to nerd-out with me on all things attachment science! Brie is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in attachment. She is the owner of Thrive Counseling Clinic in Tulsa, Oklahoma, …

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Am I In A Toxic Relationship? 15:48

15d ago15:48

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Are you walking on eggshells in your marriage? Do you feel like nothing you do is ever enough, or that your needs are always dismissed? Many men wonder if they’re simply in a hard season… or if what they’re in has crossed the line into toxic. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares what it means to face the truth about yo…

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Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk 15:24

18d ago15:24

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Many men lose themselves in marriage by always saying yes, avoiding conflict, and ignoring their own needs. They believe self-sacrifice equals love. But over time, this leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. The truth? Putting yourself first does not make you selfish — it makes you honest, present, and stronger for your family. In this ep…

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Am I Sacrificing Authenticity for Attachment? 11:56

19d ago11:56

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Many husbands silence their truth to keep the peace. They say yes when they mean no. They laugh off painful comments. They hold back needs to avoid conflict. Over time, this quiet self-betrayal leaves them empty, resentful, and unsure of who they really are. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott unpacks why men trade authentic…

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Attachment in Spiritual Practice: Transference, Projection & the Teacher Relationship 55:37

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George addresses how attachment styles shape how we relate to spiritual teachers, mentors, and even the “Self”—a nuanced look at attachment in dharma contexts. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. G…

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Financial Stress Is Affecting My Marriage 16:27

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Financial stress can shake more than your bank account — it can shake the foundation of your marriage. When money feels tight, many men stop feeling like husbands and start feeling like failures. But the truth is, financial stress is about more than numbers. It touches safety, control, shame, and identity. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podc…

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My Attachment Red Flags 29:08

23d ago29:08

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Hello Hello!! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! I'm so grateful to have you here for episode 3 – My Attachment Red Flags. Guys, I may end up regretting this, but today I'm spilling some tea on a few of the Fearful Avoidant red flags I've experienced in my past relationships. A couple stories are sins of my exes, a couple stories star your…

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How Do I Stop Questioning if I Am Man Enough? 17:38

24d ago17:38

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Do you ever catch yourself asking, “Am I man enough?” Maybe your wife is distant, critical, or cold, and every interaction leaves you doubting yourself. Maybe you’re working hard to provide, lead, and love your family, but no matter what you do — you still feel like you’re failing. That weight eats at your confidence and leaves you wondering if you…

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Why Do I Always Second-Guess Myself? 13:49

26d ago13:49

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Do you feel like you’re always second-guessing yourself in your marriage? You walk away from conversations wondering if you said the wrong thing, set the wrong boundary, or made the wrong choice. Over time, that constant doubt makes you feel smaller, weaker, and disconnected from the man you want to be. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…

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Working with Disorganized Attachment: The Push-Pull Cycle 49:56

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We focus on the complex and painful inner conflict of disorganized attachment—wanting closeness but fearing it—and how mindfulness can support regulation. Looking to dive deeper into your own attachment journey? Join our Meditation x Attachment Level One online course beginning on September 13th. Sign up at ⁠⁠mettagroup.org/meditation-x-attachment-…

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I Feel Broken In My Marriage 15:32

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If you’ve ever said, “I feel broken in my marriage,” you’re not alone. Many men carry the weight of providing, protecting, and holding the family together — all while quietly falling apart inside. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares why this happens, how one of his coaching clients rebuilt from rock bottom, and how yo…

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The Fearful Avoidant: How I Got Here 34:09

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**Disclaimer: In this episode, I make references to mental illness and ideations of self-harm, so listener discretion is advised. What's up, guys?! I'm so glad you are here for episode 2 of The Attachment Confessions – The Fearful Avoidant: How I Got Here. We start episode 2 by doing a quick recap of the 4 attachment styles (Anxious Preoccupied, Di…

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My Wife Doesn't Understand Me - What Now? 14:24

1M ago14:24

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Many husbands feel like their wives don’t understand them — and the pain runs deep. You try to explain yourself, but she misreads your tone, gets defensive, or shuts down. You feel invisible, frustrated, and alone. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why this happens, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and …

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I Had No idea I Struggled With Self-Worth 17:13

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Most men don’t realize they struggle with self-worth — until their marriage starts falling apart. You might not feel unworthy, but the patterns give it away: people-pleasing, shutting down, overreacting, craving validation, or collapsing when your wife pulls away. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down how hidden be…

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Don't Make Your Wife Your Therapist 17:43

1M ago17:43

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Your wife is your partner — not your therapist. Too many men put the weight of their healing on their wives, expecting comfort, validation, or emotional guidance. This creates pressure, kills attraction, and leads to distance instead of connection. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why making your wife your therap…

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Real Change Requires Action, Not Just Information 15:14

1M ago15:14

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You know the language of healing — triggers, emotional safety, nervous system. But here’s the truth: if you’re still stuck, it’s not because you don’t know enough. It’s because knowledge alone doesn’t change your life. Action does. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott ex…

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The Attachment Theory DL 45:24

1M ago45:24

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What's up y'all?! I'm Chelsea, and I am SO excited that you are here for my VERY FIRST EPISODE of The Attachment Confessions!! Attachment science changed my life...for real, you guys. "Hey Chels – what the heck is attachment science??" GREAT QUESTION! In episode 1, I'm giving you all the DL on attachment theory. Who came up with it, when it was int…

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Stop Doing Things In Secret (Practicing Integrity) 12:32

1M ago12:32

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Many men hide small things in their marriage — a deleted message, a hidden receipt, or avoiding a hard truth. You tell yourself, “It’s harmless” or “She’d overreact.” But here’s the truth: secrecy is not safety. It’s a prison. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why secrecy destroys self-respect, damages trust, and …

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Stop Beating Yourself Up 12:48

1M ago12:48

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So many good men punish themselves with self-blame. You think being hard on yourself makes you stronger. But the truth is, beating yourself up keeps you stuck in shame, fear, and disconnection. Healing doesn’t come from self-punishment. It comes from self-compassion, truth, and grounded leadership. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bru…

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How Avoidantly Attached People Experience Intimacy 46:49

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We unpack the shutdown, distance, and “flight” strategies avoidant people use—plus how to build safe emotional intimacy without overwhelm. Looking to dive deeper into your own attachment journey? Join our Meditation x Attachment Level One online course beginning on September 13th. Sign up at ⁠⁠mettagroup.org/meditation-x-attachment-level-one ⁠⁠. Tr…

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Practice Gratitude as A Pathway To Strength and Healing 13:18

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Gratitude is more than a cliché—it’s a lifeline for men who feel unseen, disconnected, or stuck in their marriage. You don’t heal by ignoring your pain. You heal by grounding yourself in truth. Gratitude isn’t about pretending things are fine. It’s about learning to see what is good while still being honest about what hurts. In this episode of The …

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Letting People Help You (A Response to the Previous Podcast About Asking for Help) 10:57

1M ago10:57

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Most men are good at giving—but freeze when it comes to receiving. You’ll support others, carry the load, and stay strong for everyone else… but when someone tries to help you? You brush it off, deflect, or say, “I’m fine.” Even when you’re not. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why letting people help you is not …

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Reaching Out For Help Is Not Weakness 9:56

2M ago9:56

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Most men were never taught how to ask for help. Instead, you were told to “man up,” push through, and figure it out on your own. But carrying pain in silence doesn’t make you strong—it makes you isolated. And isolation slowly destroys your marriage, your peace, and your sense of self. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott brea…

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It's OK To Say No 13:07

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Most good men struggle to say “no” in their marriage. You want to keep the peace. You don’t want to be seen as selfish, cold, or unloving. But every time you say “yes” when your gut is screaming “no,” you abandon yourself—and that kills intimacy. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why saying “no” is not rejection, …

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Attachment and Dependency: What’s the Difference? 54:05

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George explores the fine line between healthy interdependence and codependency, especially for anxious types seeking closeness and discusses how codependency emerges. Looking to dive deeper into your own attachment journey? Join our Meditation x Attachment Level One online course beginning on September 13th. Sign up at ⁠mettagroup.org/meditation-x-…

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Speak Up For Your Needs 12:42

2M ago12:42

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Do you struggle to ask for what you really want in your marriage? Maybe you stay silent, hint, or hope your wife will notice—but it only leads to resentment and disconnection. Speaking your needs calmly and clearly is not weakness. It’s leadership. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shows you how to break free from silence,…

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Action Leads To Courage 13:00

2M ago13:00

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Do you wait to feel “ready” before you take action in your marriage? Do you hold back, hoping the fear will go away first? The truth is, courage doesn’t come before action—it’s built by taking action, even when you’re afraid. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why waiting for fear to leave keeps you stuck, and how …

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Being Present In Your Marriage 15:50

2M ago15:50

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Do you feel like you check out when things get hard in your marriage? Maybe you zone out, distract yourself, or shut down when your wife pulls away. You’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means your body and mind are trying to protect you. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why presence—not control…

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Healing in A Sexless Marriage 15:53

2M ago15:53

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A sexless marriage is one of the deepest wounds a man can carry. It leaves you feeling unwanted, unseen, and rejected. But you are not broken for wanting sex. You are not wrong for craving connection. You are human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we walk step by step through The Secure Husband Process to help you heal, reclaim your …

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Inner Child Work with the Mettagroup Method 45:16

2M ago45:16

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George discusses techniques for inner child work within the context of the Mettagroup Method, including visualization meditation, Metta practice, Ideal Parent Figure meditation, and journaling prompts tailored to each attachment style. Why is it vital to connect with one's inner child / inner children? What alternate language is used in Mettagroup …

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Understanding False Core Beliefs and Where They Come From 12:59

2M ago12:59

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False core beliefs are the silent drivers that shape how you think, feel, and respond in marriage. They were formed in childhood, often from painful experiences, and they still influence your relationships today. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we uncover what false core beliefs are, where they come from, and how to break free from t…