Best Preoccupied Attachment Podcasts (2025)

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Anxious Preoccupied Attachment: Play As the Portal for Attachment Repair 42:18

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1d ago42:18

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What qualities define this attachment style (helplessness, etc) and how does this impede on your ability to play and have fun? What's the greater impact on your life? What's the path for healing, and how does play factor into this? 👉🏼 Join us LIVE for our Family Archaeology Half-Day retreat ⁠ Home for the Holidays from the Attachment Perspective⁠ W…

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10 Traits of Avoidant Attachment Wives (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 38:03

18h ago38:03

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This episode explains why your wife pulls away when you reach for closeness. I break down 10 clear traits of avoidant attachment and show simple ways to respond with calm, respect, and strength. You will learn how to stop chasing, reduce pressure, and build safety without losing yourself. Who This Helps: - Married men who feel invisible or shut out…

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The Narcissist / Codependent Toxic Relationship Dynamic 34:39

8h ago34:39

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What's up, everyone! Welcome to The Attachment Confessions! We've made it to episode 10 – double digits, baby! Today we are taking our previous discussion on narcissism a step further and examining the most painful duo that exists – the narcissist / codependent toxic relationship dynamic. From an attachment lens, the codependent partner subconsciou…

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Anxious Attachment & Self-Worth (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 25:59

4d ago25:59

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This episode explains why you look confident on the outside but still do not feel “enough” at home. I show how a hidden worth wound drives chasing, fixing, people-pleasing, and fear of conflict. You will learn simple steps to calm your body, keep your truth, and build real safety with your wife without begging for approval. What You’ll Learn: How a…

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Where Metta practice and Attachment Repair meet 59:47

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How does Metta practice support attachment repair? How does this fit within the greater Mettagroup Method approach? Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start…

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Be Emotionally Safe For Her Without Becoming Smaller For Her (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 29:28

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You do not create safety by shrinking. You create safety by staying rooted. This episode is for anxious or preoccupied men who feel they must keep the peace at all costs. You try to fix her mood. You say you are fine when you are not. You over-apologize and over-give. You disappear to avoid conflict. This does not build trust. It builds pressure. I…

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Sex: The Battle of Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 32:23

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Sex fights often are not about sex. They are about safety. If you have anxious attachment and your wife leans avoidant, your needs and her needs clash. You reach for closeness to feel calm. She steps back to feel safe. This episode explains why that happens and what to do instead. You will learn how to bring calm, invite freedom, and rebuild desire…

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Attachment vs Narcissism 25:09

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Hey Hey, everybody! Welcome to episode 9 of The Attachment Confessions! On today’s episode, we're doing a deep dive into a topic that a number of you have asked me about – narcissists. Particularly, where does narcissism fall on the attachment spectrum? When it comes to how the two of these coincide, there actually is no correlation at all whatsoev…

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10 Ways You Accidentally Push an Avoidant Wife Further Away (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 28:00

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If you keep trying harder in your marriage and she keeps pulling away, you’re not crazy — and you’re not failing. You may just be anxious attached, and she may be avoidant attached. That means the way you try to connect may feel like pressure to her, even if your heart is in the right place. This episode breaks down 10 common things anxious husband…

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Anxious Attachment - 10 Truths (Attachment Styles Podcast Series) 25:31

6d ago25:31

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Do you feel anxious when your wife pulls away or goes quiet? Do you replay conversations and overanalyze every text? You’re not weak—you’re just carrying an anxious attachment style. This episode breaks down 10 clear truths about anxious attachment and how to find calm, strength, and security in love. You’ll hear real stories, simple examples, and …

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Repairing Through Relationship 55:20

7d ago55:20

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Why attachment wounds heal best in safe relational contexts (mentorship, IPF, romantic, community), not in isolation and how it plays out. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…

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Break Up or Make Up: How To Know If Things Are Salvageable 32:57

9d ago32:57

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What’s up, everybody! Welcome to EPISODE 8 of The Attachment Confessions!! Guys – We’ve hit a milestone making it this far. Fun fact – 90% of podcasts don’t make it past episode 7, which is B-A-N-A-N-A-S. But here we are, episode 8 baby! Thank you so much for giving me space in your life and joining me on this attachment healing adventure! It serio…

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When Neediness Destroys Attraction 24:52

14d ago24:52

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Do you try harder and feel her pull away? This episode explains why neediness kills attraction and how you can shift into calm, steady leadership. You will learn clear steps to stop people-pleasing, hold your frame, and rebuild trust and desire. What you’ll learn: What neediness is and how it shows up Why pressure destroys safety and desire How to …

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When Sex Becomes About Control, Not Connection 20:42

13d ago20:42

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Do you push for sex to feel wanted, but still feel empty after? This episode explains why sex can turn into control, not connection. You will learn how to stop chasing validation and start building real safety, trust, and closeness. What you’ll learn (clear and simple): Why chasing sex often hides a need for validation How fear and shame turn desir…

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When You Feel Retaliated Against After Couples Counseling 11:38

22d ago11:38

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Have you ever left a couples counseling session feeling punished for being honest? Maybe you opened up, shared something vulnerable, and instead of connection — you got silence, coldness, or distance. You start thinking, “Why did I even bother saying anything?” You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. And you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of T…

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Getting Your Needs Met: How does each attachment strategy navigate needs? 1:02:51

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How do different Attachment strategies go about getting their needs met? Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start-here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Mettagroup was founded by George…

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My Needs Feel Like a Burden to My Wife 12:04

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Have you ever calmly expressed your needs to your wife — only for her to be annoyed, angry, or shut down? You’re not yelling. You’re not blaming. You’re finally speaking with emotional maturity… and yet, she still treats your needs like they’re too much. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down what’s really happening…

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Breakup Pro Tip for Every Attachment Style: The No-Contact Rule 23:11

25d ago23:11

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What's up, guys! Thanks so much for stopping by for episode 7 of The Attachment Confessions! Today we're continuing our breakup series with an episode featuring some sure-fire ways to stay strong during the dreadful post-breakup season, including a spotlight on one pro tip in particular that has gained massive popularity over the last few years amo…

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How Do I Break Generational Patterns? 11:56

18d ago11:56

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Do you ever catch yourself saying something to your wife or kids and think, “ugh… that sounded just like my dad”? No matter how hard you try to be different, you keep falling into the same emotional patterns — anger, withdrawal, people-pleasing, shame, or silence. And deep down, you worry you’ll pass it all down to your kids too. In this episode of…

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How Can I Stop Overthinking Every Little Thing? 11:21

21d ago11:21

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Do you feel like your brain never stops? Like you’re constantly replaying conversations, analyzing your wife’s tone, or second-guessing everything you said? Overthinking can drain your energy, destroy your peace, and make your marriage feel heavier than it already is. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott walks you through why…

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The Earthquake of Abandonment Terror: How Disorganized People Experience This (and How to Overcome It) 51:38

30d ago51:38

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We continue our series on Abandonment Terror and focus on Disorganized People experience it. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start-here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Mettagroup w…

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How Do I Stop Worrying About What Everyone Else Thinks? 11:51

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Do you ever feel like your whole life is a performance — constantly trying to please others, keep the peace, or avoid judgment? You say yes when you mean no. You hold back what you really think. You feel anxious if someone’s upset with you. Deep down, you’re tired of it — but you don’t know how to stop. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…

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How Do I Know If I'm Abandoning Myself in Marriage? 13:14

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”? Maybe you’re always keeping the peace, saying “it’s fine” when it’s not, or pretending your needs don’t matter. That’s not strength — that’s self-abandonment. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down what it really means to lose yourself in …

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Breakups: How Each Attachment Style Handles Splitting Up 30:39

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What's up, everyone! Welcome back for episode 6 of The Attachment Confessions! Today's episode centers around one of the questions I get asked most about when it comes to attachment – Breakups. UGH. Breakups. The dreaded B word. Breakups. Are. The. Worst. But just like so many other things when it comes to how we handle the highs and lows of relati…

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Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings? 12:08

1M ago12:08

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Have you ever tried to share something real with your wife — your loneliness, stress, or sadness — and she just shuts down? Maybe she goes quiet, gets defensive, or seems to disappear emotionally. You’re left standing there, wondering what just happened — and why you feel worse for even trying. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce A…

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Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage? 12:13

29d ago12:13

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Can a man really be happy in a marriage without sex? Most husbands facing this question feel torn — wanting to stay faithful and kind, but also feeling unseen, rejected, and empty. You’re not broken for wanting intimacy. You’re not selfish for craving connection. You’re human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the s…

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The Earthquake of Abandonment Terror: How Preoccupied People Experience This (and How to Overcome It) 1:04:41

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We continue our series on Abandonment Terror and focus on Preoccupied People experience it. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start-here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Mettagroup was …

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Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success? 14:24

1M ago14:24

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Do you ever pull away when things finally start to go right? Maybe your marriage starts improving, your business gains traction, or you feel more confident than ever — and then you suddenly check out, pick a fight, or quit. That’s self-sabotage. And it’s more common than you think. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explain…

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Why Fostering Secure Attachment In Our Kids Is So Crucial 23:11

1M ago23:11

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Hello everybody! Welcome to The Attachment Confessions! Thanks so much for joining me for Episode 5 – Why Fostering Secure Attachment In Our Kids Is So Crucial. In today's episode, we take a deeper dive into one of the early attachment experiments that our guest from episode 4, Brie Neil, mentioned toward the beginning of our conversation – Mary Ai…

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What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy? 15:06

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By M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

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How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex? 14:52

1M ago14:52

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Do you feel resentful toward your wife because of a lack of sex in your marriage? You’re not alone. Many men in sexless or low-sex marriages feel lonely, rejected, and ashamed. Resentment builds — not because you’re bad or broken, but because your deeper pain has gone unspoken. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the …

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Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck 15:56

1M ago15:56

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Do you reach for a drink to take the edge off? Do you tell yourself it’s “just to relax” — but deep down you know it’s about numbing? Many men use alcohol to escape feelings of shame, stress, and loneliness. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explores how alcohol becomes less about celebration and more about self-abandonmen…

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The Earthquake of Abandonment Terror: How Dismissing People Experience This (and How to Overcome It) 51:39

1M ago51:39

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What is this common phenomenon? How does each attachment strategy orient toward abandonment terror? How should you approach overcoming it, based on your attachment strategy? Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly mean…

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Attachment Specialist Brie Neil Joins the Pod! 46:57

2M ago46:57

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What's up, guys?! Happy Wednesday! I am SO incredibly excited to have my VERY FIRST guest on the pod with me today!!! Brie Neil joins The Attachment Confessions to nerd-out with me on all things attachment science! Brie is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in attachment. She is the owner of Thrive Counseling Clinic in Tulsa, Oklahoma, …

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Am I In A Toxic Relationship? 15:48

2M ago15:48

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Are you walking on eggshells in your marriage? Do you feel like nothing you do is ever enough, or that your needs are always dismissed? Many men wonder if they’re simply in a hard season… or if what they’re in has crossed the line into toxic. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares what it means to face the truth about yo…

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Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk 15:24

2M ago15:24

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Many men lose themselves in marriage by always saying yes, avoiding conflict, and ignoring their own needs. They believe self-sacrifice equals love. But over time, this leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. The truth? Putting yourself first does not make you selfish — it makes you honest, present, and stronger for your family. In this ep…

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Am I Sacrificing Authenticity for Attachment? 11:56

2M ago11:56

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Many husbands silence their truth to keep the peace. They say yes when they mean no. They laugh off painful comments. They hold back needs to avoid conflict. Over time, this quiet self-betrayal leaves them empty, resentful, and unsure of who they really are. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott unpacks why men trade authentic…

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Attachment in Spiritual Practice: Transference, Projection & the Teacher Relationship 55:37

2M ago55:37

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George addresses how attachment styles shape how we relate to spiritual teachers, mentors, and even the “Self”—a nuanced look at attachment in dharma contexts. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. G…

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Financial Stress Is Affecting My Marriage 16:27

2M ago16:27

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Financial stress can shake more than your bank account — it can shake the foundation of your marriage. When money feels tight, many men stop feeling like husbands and start feeling like failures. But the truth is, financial stress is about more than numbers. It touches safety, control, shame, and identity. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podc…

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My Attachment Red Flags 29:08

2M ago29:08

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Hello Hello!! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! I'm so grateful to have you here for episode 3 – My Attachment Red Flags. Guys, I may end up regretting this, but today I'm spilling some tea on a few of the Fearful Avoidant red flags I've experienced in my past relationships. A couple stories are sins of my exes, a couple stories star your…

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How Do I Stop Questioning if I Am Man Enough? 17:38

2M ago17:38

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Do you ever catch yourself asking, “Am I man enough?” Maybe your wife is distant, critical, or cold, and every interaction leaves you doubting yourself. Maybe you’re working hard to provide, lead, and love your family, but no matter what you do — you still feel like you’re failing. That weight eats at your confidence and leaves you wondering if you…

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Why Do I Always Second-Guess Myself? 13:49

2M ago13:49

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Do you feel like you’re always second-guessing yourself in your marriage? You walk away from conversations wondering if you said the wrong thing, set the wrong boundary, or made the wrong choice. Over time, that constant doubt makes you feel smaller, weaker, and disconnected from the man you want to be. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…