Best Desire Discrepancy Podcasts (2025)

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The PGspot - In Your Head, Not in Your Bed: Understanding Sexual Performance Anxiety 21:12

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2h ago21:12

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In this episode, we dive into the physical and psychological factors that can impact male sexual performance, from medical conditions and stress to unrealistic expectations and complex relationship dynamics. Whether you're personally navigating these concerns or supporting someone who is, we’ll share practical strategies to help. We’re also busting…

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What is Embodiment? Why Somatics Are Key to Better Sex and Relationships 31:55

3d ago31:55

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Your body remembers every touch, every rejection, every moment of connection—even when your mind has forgotten. But most of us are living from the neck up, disconnected from our bodies and the wisdom they hold about our desires, boundaries, and authentic selves. In this episode, I'm demystifying embodiment and somatic (body-based) approaches for in…

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Is It Okay to Fantasize During Sex? A Guide to Helpful vs. Unhelpful Mental Erotica 26:31

10d ago26:31

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Many people worry that fantasizing during intimacy means something is wrong with their relationship or attraction to their partner. In this episode, we explore why mental wandering during sex is completely normal and can actually enhance your experience. Learn the difference between healthy fantasy that keeps you present and embodied… versus proble…

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The PGspot: Mix Masters: What Compounding Pharmacists Really Do (with pharmacist Justin Clark) 48:37

8d ago48:37

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Ever wondered what a compounding pharmacist actually does, and why it matters? In this episode, we sit down with pharmacist Justin Clark, the owner of Val Vista compounding pharmacy to explore the world of personalized medicine. From tailoring medications for individual needs to creating solutions when commercial drugs fall short, we dive into how …

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Situationships and Friends with Benefits - What Works and What Doesn't 24:13

17d ago24:13

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Are casual-sex relationships always problematic, or can they actually work for some people? In this episode, we break down the key differences between "friends with benefits" (clear boundaries) and situationships (confusing lack of clarity). Learn why catching feelings during casual sex is completely normal and healthy, when these arrangements can …

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Should I Tell My Partner What Turns Me OFF? 29:05

25d ago29:05

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We're going to get really nitty-gritty here today and give you the full details on why, when and how to tell your partner what turns you off. I'll also give you the important exceptions -- that is, when NOT to frame something as a turn-off. Plus you'll get a step-by-step guide on how to have these conversations -- and my Golden Rule for how to make…

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Can You Really Learn Relationship Skills Through Pleasure? The Science Says Yes 26:23

1M ago26:23

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What if getting better at relationships and intimacy could actually feel amazing? In this episode, we look at the evidence to challenge the assumption that learning relationship skills has to involve painful, difficult conversations or years of heavy therapy. Drawing on science about how our brains learn best, we talk about why pleasure and play ar…

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The PGspot - Different Pages, Same Book: Love and Desire Discrepancy 20:35

1M ago20:35

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What happens when one partner wants sex more...or less often than the other? In this episode, we dive into the complex, often unspoken world of sexual desire discrepancy. From common causes and emotional impacts to communication tips and ways to reconnect, we explore how couples can bridge the gap without blame or shame. Whether you're the higher-d…

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How & Why Your Non-verbal Communication Matters 27:05

1M ago27:05

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Today's episode is all about non-verbal communication, it's role with authenticity and trust, and why it matters so much in romantic and sexual relationships (and all relationships, for that matter). Here's the link for the Hawaii retreat! Don't miss your chance to join us! https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/ Get my free email newsletter with h…

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Why Do I Have Low Desire? 10 Questions to Figure It Out 18:39

2M ago18:39

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Even though nearly everyone will go through periods of low sexual desire in their lifetime, most people have no idea how common it is or that it's solve-able. Sadly, a lot of people feel like there is something wrong with them, or like they are broken. This episode will normalize what you're going through, plus give you 10 important questions to he…

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The PGspot - The Naked Truth: How to Talk About Sex 21:31

2M ago21:31

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Talking about sex with your partner doesn’t have to be awkward, it can actually bring you closer. In this episode, we dive into why open, honest conversations about sex are essential for a healthy relationship. From navigating desires and boundaries to building trust and deeper intimacy, we’re breaking down how to communicate with confidence (and m…

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How To Stop Avoiding Your Own Desires & Figure Out What You Really Want 19:10

2M ago19:10

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Are you secretly scared of your own desires? I see this all the time in my practice – we avoid knowing what we truly want because we're terrified of disappointment. But here's the thing: your desires are there whether you acknowledge them or not, and avoiding them is just quitting in advance (there's no benefit). In this episode, I'm walking you th…

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When Touch Feels Off: Why It Happens & How to Fix It 23:44

2M ago23:44

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Have you ever been with someone you love, but their touch just felt... wrong? Or maybe your partner has told you that YOUR touch feels off, and you have no idea what you're doing wrong? I'm diving deep into this incredibly common issue that so many couples face but rarely talk about. First, I want you to know: you're not broken, and neither is your…

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The PG Spot - Breaking the Silence on Painful Sex 27:12

2M ago27:12

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In this episode, we'll explore the physical, emotional, and psychological layers of this experience, bust some harmful myths, and talk about how to start advocating for your body and pleasure. Whether you're personally impacted or supporting someone who is, you'll walk away from this episode with insight, validation, and real tools for healing. Let…

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Spontaneous vs. Scheduled Sex: How Do We Find The (Right) Time? 13:25

2M ago13:25

13:25

It can be hard for couples to find good times to connect sexually. Busy lives or different sleep schedules are just some contributing factors that make finding time for sex especially challenging. Add to that an expectation that sex is "supposed to be spontaneous" and we have a recipe for frustration. Join me for an exploration of where the whole "…

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Are We Just Too Sexually Incompatible? How to Know. 25:05

2M ago25:05

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If you're asking yourself whether you and your partner are just too sexually incompatible for your relationship to work, this episode is for you. (Tip: It's also for people you know who seem to be asking themselves this all the time. Please share it and you could save someone a lot of angst). Join me as we dive into the hidden issues underneath thi…

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The PGspot - What Turns You On? Exploring the Erotic Blueprints 24:21

3M ago24:21

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In this episode, we explore the groundbreaking work of sexologist Miss Jaiya and her Erotic Blueprint framework—a system that helps individuals and couples better understand their unique pathways to arousal, intimacy, and sexual fulfillment. We break down the five Erotic Blueprints—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter—and discuss how…

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What Really Turns Me On? With Danielle Harel, PhD 44:37

3M ago44:37

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Don't miss this important (and fun) conversation with Danielle Harel, PhD, co-founder of the Somatica Institute. We talk all about discovering your deep turn-ons, how to know and ask for what you like, and why everyone's arousal pathway is different. We also flirt and laugh a lot while we demonstrate a mini-conversation to have with your partner. G…

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How Do I Stop Faking Orgasms? 17:24

3M ago17:24

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Join me today as I walk through what's really underneath the tendency and temptation to fake orgasms, and how to stop. You'll learn the hidden costs of this habit to you and your relationship. You'll learn what it is actually all about and how to start creating the safety you need in order to have authentic pleasure, connection and communication. G…

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Helping Men Last Longer with Caitlin V 34:38

3M ago34:38

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Premature ejaculation or "PE" is one of the most widespread challenges for men and couples that include men. There's no special pill being sold on TV. And while it's not quite that easy to find good help -- we got you! There ARE solutions that work way better than trying to think about baseball or frantically masturbating before a date. Join me for…

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The PGspot - Pride: Then, Now, and Always 21:15

3M ago21:15

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In this powerful episode, we journey through the rich and resilient history of Pride; from its radical roots in protest and resistance to its evolution into a global celebration of identity, love, and progress. We explore key moments in LGBTQ+ history, the struggles and triumphs that have shaped the movement, and the legacy of those who fought for …

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The Connection Between Self-Compassion & Great Intimacy (Plus How To Boost Yours) 18:42

3M ago18:42

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It may be surprising, but how we treat ourselves is irrevocably linked to how happy we are in our connections with others. Tune in to this heartfelt episode for shortcuts on how to have a better relationship with yourself, first and foremost. You'll be amazed at how that will transform your relationships with everyone else (and your sex life!) Get …

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Pitfalls of "Polarity:" 5 Rules to Avoid Harming Your Sex Life 25:53

4M ago25:53

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Applying the idea of "polarity" without full knowledge can actually undermine you and harm your sexual connection. So it's best to be informed. Some people act like the idea of "polarity" applied to relationships is some sort of universal truth, but the reality is that it's just a made-up concept that is really only helpful in. I’m going to break d…

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The PGspot - Let's Talk About Sex (With a Pro) - an Interview with Dr. Maureen Ryan 25:57

4M ago25:57

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What happens when partners experience mismatched desire—or when sex starts to feel like just another item on the to-do list? In this insightful episode, I’m joined by Dr. Maureen Ryan, a sexual health counselor, nurse practitioner, and nationally certified health coach, to unpack some common yet often unspoken issues in relationships. We explore ho…

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Kind Boundaries & Building Secure Attachment: A Guide 25:50

4M ago25:50

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This episode will walk you through how to have boundaries that feel great. Good boundaries feel like a big hug for you, rather than a barbed-wire fence to control others. We'll also cover why kind boundaries are critical to creating secure attachment. Don't miss this one! Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding …

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Giving and Receiving Oral & Troubleshooting (Plus: Why People Often Dislike 69) 19:27

4M ago19:27

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Today we're talking about common challenges & solutions for giving and receiving oral sex. Plus, since this is episode 69, I'm celebrating with some cautionary tales around 69, and I'll cover why so many people just don't like it (plus what to do instead). Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Tur…

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The PGspot: Self-Love Season: Celebrating Masturbation May 18:43

4M ago18:43

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In this special Masturbation May episode, we journey through the rich (and often misunderstood) history of self-pleasure. From historical attitudes toward erotic autonomy to the invention of the first vibrator, we explore how solo sex has evolved - and how it's been shaped by science, stigma, and shifting societal norms. We'll examine the lasting i…

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Claim Your Agency or Create Helplessness: You Choose 15:50

4M ago15:50

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If you're feeling like change is impossible, you may be falling into a sneaky self-undermining habit. Instead of imagining your worst beliefs are true, take a listen to this empowering episode. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.co…

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The PGspot - The Pleasure Alphabet: It's Not Just About the "G" 19:47

5M ago19:47

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For most vulva owners, sexual pleasure isn't just about penis in vagina sex. In this episode, we will discuss the multitude of erogenous zones and how they were discovered. So, whether you’re looking to level up your solo game, spark new things with a partner, or just get to know your body better, it’s time to unlock the whole pleasure spectrum -on…

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The PGspot - Personal Introduction 19:24

5M ago19:24

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In this episode, I would like to introduce myself and explain how I got where I am in both my career and my journey in sexual health. Join me as I discuss my background, experience and what inspired me to specialize in female sexual dysfunction. I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you wo…

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Is It So Bad To Be A Tease? Redefining & Reclaiming Play 21:23

5M ago21:23

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Ever wish you had more make out sessions with your partner(s)? Ever wish you felt 100% allowed to just flirt or kiss and then . . . stop? Do you ever wish you could get physical affection without feeling like you're on the hook for getting your partner to orgasm? If so, this episode is for you! It's also for anyone who notices their partner avoidin…

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Monogamy, Non-Monogamy & Choosing Your Relationship Structure on Purpose 26:42

5M ago26:42

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Both monogamy and non-monogamy are valid choices, but a lot of people default into the modern-day societal norm without even fully discussing it or considering the options that best align with us. This episode provides an introduction to the different choices for relationship structures available. Whatever you choose, I encourage you to make it an …

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Big Picture Know-How For Great Sex & Relationships 26:37

5M ago26:37

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This episode gives you the bird's-eye view of what we all need to know and understand in order to have our best sex life and best relationships. You might want a pencil and paper for this one! Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com…

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Hidden Intimacy Challenges for Over-Achievers & What to Do About Them 26:01

5M ago26:01

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I'm breaking down the special challenges that over-achievers tend to have with intimacy, sex, and relationships today. I'm also going to tell you exactly how to overcome those challenges. If you're a person who's afraid of failing in relationships and intimacy, or frustrated that other humans and our own bodies don't come with better manuals -- I'v…

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Want Better Sex & Relationships? Practice This. 26:16

5M ago26:16

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A lot of people want great relationships and sex lives. Not a lot of people are doing anything useful to get there. Today's episode will walk you through a super common trap most people are stuck in -- and show you how to get out of it. I will explain exactly what you need to start practicing to get what you want. Get my free email newsletter with …

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Welcome to the PGspot 1:47

6M ago1:47

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I would love to hear your feedback about today's episode, as well as any questions or topics that you would like addressed in future episodes. Although "Fanmail" doesn't allow for me to respond back directly, I am happy to address any questions in upcoming episodes. Thank you for listening and taking the time to message The PGspot through Fanmail! …

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Which Comes First for You: Physical or Emotional Connection? 13:34

6M ago13:34

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People have different ways of getting to connection. Some people find emotional connection necessary before they feel safe to connect physically. Some people want physical intimacy in order to access emotional connection. If you are different than your partner in this, it can cause a lot of strife. This episode unpacks this common issue and helps y…

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Saying No Without Guilt in Relationships & Sex...and everywhere else too 17:28

6M ago17:28

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Saying yes to things you don't want to do is not helping your relationships. It's not being "nice" either. Today's episode will help free you from guilt that keeps you from showing up authentically and saying no when you want to. Learn how and why your "no" can be a gift to others, and why it can really liberate your relationship from hidden...or n…

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Kissing: Challenges, Explorations & Tips 20:26

6M ago20:26

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This episode dives into all things Kissing. We'll cover basic Do's and Don'ts, and unpack common concerns about this very common activity. Many couples communicate pretty poorly if at all about their desires and preferences around kissing, which makes it very hard to get what you want. I'll help you get free of that and understand how to improve yo…

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Christina & Brooke Share Wisdom from the Middle of the Change Process 36:56

6M ago36:56

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Sometimes at the end of the journey it can be hard to even remember what it was like to be in the middle. Listen in to my interview with a wonderful couple of humans, Christina and Brooke, who are currently working with me. They openly share how they started out disconnected with lots of resentment. They discuss what they've learned so far and how …

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How People-Pleasing Kills Intimacy & What to Do About It 15:45

7M ago15:45

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There are 3 things I really want you to know about people-pleasing and intimacy. When you're a people-pleaser, you'll often feel like you're doing things to make others happy or doing things out of obligation. You'll also often feel like you're not getting the appreciation you want, like you don't have space and time for yourself, and/or like you a…

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Three-somes & Group Sex: Fantasy, Reality & Avoiding Pitfalls 29:28

7M ago29:28

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Lots of folks fantasize about threesomes or group sex, and some of us decide to try it for real. Both can be fun. This episode will guide you through how to have more fun with fantasy and how to make real-life group sex a good experience for everyone. Plus, I'll give you my best tips on how to find other partners and deal with the logistics of sett…

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Paths to Sexual Confidence: Real vs. Fake Confidence or Arrogance 34:47

7M ago34:47

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A lot of people want more confidence but are afraid of fake confidence and arrogance. You’re right to be wary of that. It’s not helpful to be falsely confident or arrogant in intimate relationships and sexuality. Today we're going to talk about why, how to avoid fake confidence or arrogance, and how to build real confidence and empowerment instead.…

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Curing the Libido Mismatch Blues 38:40

7M ago38:40

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If Libidio Mismatch is something you struggle with – you know it can be super hard on relationships. It is very stressful and disconnecting. If it feels like a big deal, it is. Research shows that most of our happiness is tied to how we feel about our relationships – so stress in a primary partnership is devastating to quality of life. It's smart t…

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Busting 7 Myths That Make It Hard to Ask for What You Want in Bed 23:35

8M ago23:35

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Today we're making it easier for you to ask for what you want in your intimate relationships by busting common myths that hold us back. Make your life easier by listening in. Special Event Links: Libido Mismatch Clarity Hour: walk away feeling better about your capacity to reconcile a libido mismatch in your relationship Free 1-hour FAQ and Ask the…

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Sexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame 35:46

8M ago35:46

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This episode takes you inside a transformative conversation about sexual confidence and body trust. My former client Kama shares her raw experience of moving from sexual shame and orgasm challenges to deep embodied wisdom. This conversation goes beyond typical success stories, diving deep into how sexual healing catalyzes growth in all areas of lif…

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4 Steps to Confidence & Comfort in Intimacy 27:09

8M ago27:09

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These are the steps to confidence and comfort that work. Tune in to learn the 4 key steps that will take you from anxious and underconfident to a true, deep, felt sense of comfort and capability in sex and intimacy. Frankly, they are not all easy, though some are surprisingly fun. These steps are what my practice is based on and why it's been so ef…

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The Biggest Thing You Can Do To Feel More Sexual Empowerment This Year (and it's FREE) 23:25

8M ago23:25

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This episode will explain the best, biggest thing you can do to improve your relationship with your own sexuality this year AND your intimacy with a partner. This is the one thing most people are NOT doing – and it is FREE. That’s right, people will spend loads of money this year trying to spice things up by buying stuff: lingerie, sex toys, vacati…

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The Most Powerful Step 23:32

9M ago23:32

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Today I’m going to tell you a really personal story of how I almost quit on my marriage. I’m also going to share one of the most powerful ideas in the world for changing your life and your relationships. That sounds like a giant claim, and it is, but it is also really simple. If you look at the most joyful people who are living the lives they want …

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Liberation from Religious Shame & Repression: an interview with Lisa 38:17

9M ago38:17

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So many people feel disconnected from their authentic sexuality due to a history of religious repression and shaming. In an ideal world, religion would be universally supportive and comforting. Unfortunately, so many people have had the opposite experience, and wound up with decades of harmful ideas about themselves and their sexuality that they st…