Best Desire Discrepancy Podcasts (2026)

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The 10 biggest mistakes people make with desire discrepancies 1:00:23

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14d ago1:00:23

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This is THE episode to share. After 100 episodes and years of working with couples on mismatched desire, I'm breaking down the 10 mistakes that keep you stuck—from obligation sex and taking rejection personally, to making every touch sexual and believing someone is broken. These patterns make total sense, but they backfire hard. If you or someone y…

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Why do I want sex so much (or so little)? Understanding your desires 45:42

5h ago45:42

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If you're dealing with a desire discrepancy, you probably think you know what you want: more sex, or less sex. But what I've learned is this: there's always more under the surface. And that information is gold for figuring out the way forward together. If you're the higher-desire partner, what are you actually seeking when you want sex? Is it valid…

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The PGspot - Sex Tech: Trauma-Informed Innovations and Ethics 28:09

23h ago28:09

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In this episode, we explore the rapidly evolving world of sex technology through a trauma-informed and ethical lens. From apps and wearables designed to support sexual wellness and recovery to AI-driven platforms that promise personalization and connection, sex tech holds both exciting potential and serious responsibilities. We discuss how these in…

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Perek 105 27:53

12h ago27:53

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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AI and your sex life: when it helps & when it causes more harm 36:18

7d ago36:18

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Thinking about asking ChatGPT about your desire gap at 2am? You're not alone—lots of people are turning to AI for relationship help. And I get it. It's free, private, and you don't have to admit to another human that you're struggling. But here's what you need to know: AI can be genuinely helpful for some things—like understanding new concepts, nor…

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S3Bonus Episode: Dr. Jenni and Daniel Debrief Season One 33:35

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Producer Kim Kaplan interviews Jenni and Daniel on their experience hosting the first season of Sex and the Psyche, and take a look back at some of their favorite episodes and what they've learned in the process. They also give a glimpse of what to expect in Season Two. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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S3E14: Bonus Episode: Andy Returns 3 Months Later 27:33

7d ago27:33

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Previously on Sex and the Psyche, Dr. Jenni and Daniel interviewed a male guest named Andy (Episode 5- The Irony of Sexual Selfishness). Andy is back to report on his progress after three months, and brings along his wife for a fun surprise! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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The PGspot - Turning Feedback into Connection: Sex Talk Scripts 22:16

10d ago22:16

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In this episode, we explore how sexual feedback (so often a source of tension or defensiveness) can become a pathway to deeper intimacy. You’ll learn when and where these conversations flow most naturally, how to express desires and needs without triggering shame or shutdown, and why timing and tone matter just as much as the words themselves. We'l…

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What to do when depression & antidepressants kill your libido: real talk & my story 24:05

22d ago24:05

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Depression tanks your libido. Then you finally get help with antidepressants—and your sex drive tanks even more. If this is you, you're not broken. You're dealing with a real, common side effect that nobody wants to talk about. In this episode, I break down the double whammy of depression and SSRIs on your sex life: how depression shuts down motiva…

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S3E13: Bonus Episode: Buzzing About Sex Toys-Behind the Scenes with Adam and Eve 32:59

24d ago32:59

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel learn about how sex toys are chosen and produced at America’s largest sex toy company, Adam and Eve. Guest colleague, Ginger Vickery “sells smiles and pleasure products”. She discusses the company’s best sellers and how to shop whether you are a beginner or advanced user of the pleasure products! See omnystudio.com/listener for…

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When holiday stress kills desire (your sex life doesn't need to be a Hallmark movie) 39:36

29d ago39:36

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If you're not tearing each other's matching pajamas off for holiday romance, you're not broken - you're normal. The holidays come with dreamy visions of mistletoe magic, but the reality is stress, family drama, overbooked schedules, and exhaustion. In this episode, we tackle: Why holiday pressure kills intimacy The common patterns that widen desire…

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Overcoming Silence: World AIDS Day Remembrance 24:41

1M ago24:41

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World AIDS Day is a moment to remember, reflect, and recommit. In Overcoming Silence, we revisit the early days of the AIDS epidemic, an era marked by fear, misinformation, and heartbreaking silence. From uncertainty and stigma to advocacy and progress, this episode honors those we lost, uplifts the communities who fought back, and reminds us that …

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What you're really working toward with mismatched libidos 41:14

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Most people think the goal with mismatched libidos is making the lower-desire partner want more of the sex you've been having—or making the higher-desire partner want less. But that's not it. And it wouldn't work anyway. I walk through the actual goals when you're healing a desire gap. They boil down to maximizing sexual compatibility, emotional co…

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S3Bonus: Commodification of Sex 7:19

29d ago7:19

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel continue their conversation on the Commodification of Sex in this Bonus Episode that provides suggestions for creating deeper connections within sexual relationships in the Gen Z era. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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S3E12: GEN Z and the Commodification of Sex 35:27

30d ago35:27

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Jenni and Daniel respond to a listener question from a mom with two Gen-Z kids who is wondering why her 20-something children don’t pursue relationships or sex. Jenni and Daniel unpack this conundrum as they explore factors such as screens, social media, cultural narratives, and, how intimacy has become commodified. See omnystudio.com/listener for …

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You DO have options: what higher-desire partners can actually do 42:27

1M ago42:27

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Feeling stuck, powerless, and like your needs don't matter? This episode is for you. A listener wrote: "I feel like you only talk about what the low-libido partner needs. What about me?" He's right—I needed to address this more directly. In this episode, I break down the "power imbalance" myth, clarify what you can reasonably expect in a monogamous…

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S3E11: The Male Low Sex Drive: Americas Biggest Sex Secret 38:13

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Jenni and Daniel read 3 listener questions from women who have male partners with low sex drive. Learn what depletes the male drive, even when testosterone is healthy or high. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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Why obligation sex destroys desire (and what works better) 29:30

2M ago29:30

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You think having sex when you don't really want to will keep your partner happy. But obligation sex actually destroys desire—and doesn't help either of you in the long run. Research shows that when you cross your own boundaries repeatedly this way, your desire drops even further. Resentment builds. And your partner can wind up feeling even more unw…

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Perek 104 22:19

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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The PGspot - Top 10 Ways to Keep Sex Spicy 35:05

2M ago35:05

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Is your sex life feeling a little routine or predictable? In this episode, we dive into the top 10 ways to reignite passion, deepen intimacy, and bring excitement back into the bedroom. From playful communication and exploring novelty to building emotional connection and prioritizing pleasure, you’ll learn simple, research-backed strategies to help…

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S3NeuroSexy Bonus: Resentment Only Hurts Yourself 27:39

1M ago27:39

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Jenni and Daniel continue the conversation with colleague and friend, Michelle Miscione. They dive deeper into how resentment erodes relationships, and how laughter and personal responsibility are essential antidotes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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S3E10: NeuroSexy & the Art of Explicitness 33:32

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Jenni and Daniel sit down with couples therapist colleague, Michelle Miscione, to discuss a case study on sexuality and neurodivergence. Michelle talks about "Eli and Marcus", who navigate ADHD and autism traits and how they successfully have made sex and intimacy work for them. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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S3E9: Delayed Ejaculation Bonus: Jenni and Daniel Find Common Ground 19:35

2M ago19:35

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel resolve their marital tension on this bonus episode that follows Delayed Ejaculation: Jenni vs Daniel. They explore differences in their styles of thinking, and differences in how they approach sex therapy. Listen as they find common ground- as a couple and as colleagues. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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Perek 103 15:11

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Your brain is keeping you stuck in a desire gap (here's how to override it) 44:59

2M ago44:59

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You know your desire discrepancy is a problem. You've known for months, maybe years. So why haven't you done anything about it? It's not laziness or lack of care—it's your brain doing exactly what evolution designed it to do. Here's how to override it. This episode helps you understand the neuroscience of "the comfortable pain trap," the real cost …

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S3E9: Delayed Ejaculation: Jenni VS Daniel 34:44

2M ago34:44

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel explore delayed ejaculation, teasing out their different approaches to this topic. Listeners get to peek into real-time conversations between Jenni and Daniel, witnessing their marital conversations and disagreements around sex therapy. They define the Arousal Spectrum and why it's so important to work with this in your body to…

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ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 1: High libido, low libido, or sometimes both 33:51

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If you have ADHD and your sex life feels challenging, you're not broken - your brain just works differently. Maybe you have super high libido and use sex or masturbation to feel at home in your body. Or maybe your libido is low because sex hasn't been working for your body or you're stuck in your head and you don't know why or how to fix it. Or may…

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The PGspot - Top Five Hormone Misconceptions Debunked 21:38

2M ago21:38

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Hormones play a vital role in how we feel, think, and function, but misinformation about them is everywhere. In this episode, we’re cutting through the confusion and tackling the top five hormone misconceptions I hear most often from patients. From the truth about hormone therapy and breast cancer risk to why vaginal estrogen isn’t just for people …

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S3E8: The New Rules of Dating: Let's Be picky Together 25:42

2M ago25:42

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel chat with sexuality journalist, and Lifestyle editor for the New York Post, Fabiana Buontempo about her experiences in the dating world professionally and personally. The stakes are higher for men as women create autonomous and lucrative careers; while other women are taking a "pseudo"-celibacy approach to their dating game. Je…

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Perek 102 16:53

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 101 5:32

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 100 9:15

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 99 6:33

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 98 7:00

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 97 9:36

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 96 7:29

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 95 11:22

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 94 14:14

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 93 5:03

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 92 10:40

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 91 8:30

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 90 11:20

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 89 27:24

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 88 9:22

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 87 4:58

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 86 11:09

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 85 11:02

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 84 9:22

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 83 4:38

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…

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Perek 82 4:58

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Presenting these lectures is Rebbetzin Leah Donner, who resides with her husband and family in Geula, Jerusalem, Israel. Inspired by her students and Rabbaim, she shares these transformative teachings of Bitachon and Knowing Hashem Yisborach. Rebbetzin Donner received blessings from HaGaon HaRav Yacov Moshe Hillel, world-renowned Rosh Yeshiva of Ah…