Best Carla Shellis Podcasts (2025)

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104: Unlearning Politeness as Survival 25:19

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Nice isn’t kind. Nice keeps you quiet. Nice keeps you invisible. In this episode, Carla Lewis and DocShellie call out politeness for what it often is: emotional crowd control. From “nice as emotional Febreze” to why conflict isn’t the problem (silence is) they break down how being agreeable can cost you your voice, your truth, and yourself. If you’…

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103: You're Not Crazy; You're Conditioned 21:12

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Ever been told you’re too sensitive, too much, or reading into things—and started to believe it? This episode names the real culprit: conditioning disguised as feedback. Carla and DocShellie break down how gaslighting works as a slow drip, how power structures teach us who gets to speak, and why so many capable people second-guess themselves even w…

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102: The Truth You Swallow Eventually Bites Back 25:05

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In classic Rabble-Rouser fashion, this episode dismantles the myth that silence keeps the peace. Spoiler alert: it keeps you small. DocShellie and Carla kick open the door on the feelings we bury to stay likable, safe, or “easy.” Because what you refuse to name doesn’t vanish — it festers, leaks, and eventually demands to be heard. Your voice wasn’…

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101: 3 Secrets to a Juicylicious Life with Dr. Barnsley Brown 45:25

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If your life feels more drained and depleted than juicy and delicious, this episode is your gentle-but-honest wake-up call. Dr. Barnsley Brown joins DocShellie to share three secrets that will change how you think about your life, your work, and your impact: Why “everybody else matters more than me” is the most dangerous myth women are still living…

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100: Recorded on a Cruise: Unapologetically 9:08

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🎉 Episode 100. Recorded. On. A. Cruise.Carla and DocShellie accidentally found themselves surrounded by billion-dollar founders, 15-year podcasting veterans, and a whole tribe of fellow rabble-rousers… all because they said “Sure, why not?” This episode is a celebration, a confessional, and a permission slip — to pivot, to grow, and to take the wil…

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99: The Cost of Self-Silencing 25:34

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Are you protecting your peace… or sabotaging your self-respect? 😳 Shellie and Carla go straight at the sneaky ways we mute ourselves — over-editing emails, apologizing before we speak, nodding along when our whole body is saying “nope.” They talk nervous-system safety, labels like “difficult,” why “nice” got weaponized, and how to start talking lik…

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Amber Duncan: Life After Debt: Empowering Women to Master Money 1:30:55

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Join Amber Duncan, founder of Life After Debt, as she shares her expertise on breaking free from financial struggles and creating lasting financial freedom. In this empowering episode, Amber, Carla, and Michelle have an open conversation about getting out of debt, staying out of debt, and navigating the unique financial challenges women face. We di…

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98: Say The Things 24:53

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Carla and DocShellie explore the quiet truths we swallow—why we don’t say them, what it costs our bodies, relationships, and leadership, and how to speak with courage without blowing up our lives. From “strong/happy one” masks to meetings where energy is manufactured, they offer nervous-system-friendly ways to practice honesty: micro-moments of bra…

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Madison Yezak: Becoming a Wife, Embracing Femininity, and Healing From the Past 1:09:50

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Marriage has opened a new chapter for Madison Yezack, one filled with peace, purpose, and deeper confidence in who she is as a woman. In this heartfelt episode, she reflects on the beauty of embracing her feminine side and the power of no longer accepting what doesn’t align with her worth. This is a conversation about becoming softer without losing…

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97: Stop Being “Digestible” 20:43

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You didn’t lose your voice—you just stopped using it. This episode takes a torch to the self-silencing habit: the apologies, emojis, and disclaimers we use to keep everyone comfy while we disappear. Learn how to trade “digestible” for authentic—one sentence sooner, one notch louder, one brave choice at a time.…

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Jane Gonzalez: Finding Faith and Redefining Femininity After Loss of a Spouse 1:20:22

2M ago1:20:22

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After losing her husband, Jane Gonzalez found herself standing in the middle of heartbreak, faced with the reality of starting over. In this deeply emotional episode, she opens up about her journey through grief, widowhood, and rediscovering her identity as a woman walking through loss. Jane shares how she’s finding peace, purpose, and strength aga…

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96: Take the Crown off the Hustle 24:18

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Ever caught yourself bragging about being “crazy busy”? This one’s for you. 👑 Carla Lewis and DocShellie rip into hustle culture—how we wear exhaustion like credibility, mistake anxiety for ambition, and fear stillness like it’s failure. Get ready to trade burnout for breathing room and remember: you don’t have to earn rest. Permission granted.…

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Alyssa Hidalgo: How to Build Rhythms That Work For You and Your Family 1:34:08

2M ago1:34:08

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Life with ADHD, homeschooling, and healthy living isn’t about perfection— it’s about rhythm. Alyssa Hidalgo shares her journey and the simple systems that help her family flourish. With her Spark Program, a 7-step rhythm for moms craving peace, purpose, and community, Alyssa brings honest stories, helpful routines, and hope to every episode. Whethe…

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95: Your Exit Wounds are Not Personality Traits 16:58

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Ever call yourself a “control freak” or “introvert” when really you’re just protecting old scars? This raw, funny, truth-telling convo between Carla and DocShellie flips the script on coping mechanisms—and reminds you that your wounds aren’t who you are. They were just the armor that got you here. 💥By Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth

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Dr. Doug Weiss: Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity and Addiction 1:18:51

2M ago1:18:51

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On this episode of The Really Feminine Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Doug Weiss, a renowned Licensed Psychologist, relationship expert, and Executive Director of Heart-to-Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, to discuss the challenging yet transformative topics of infidelity, addiction, betrayal recovery, marriage counseling, and emotional h…

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94: The Unapologetic Glory of the Middle 23:26

2M ago23:26

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Ever feel like you’re stuck in life’s waiting room—no longer who you were, but not yet who you’re becoming? Before you call it failure, listen up. This episode reveals why the messy middle is actually sacred ground for transformation, how to stop decorating your waiting room, and how to build the wings you’ll need to fly. It’s not a breakdown—it’s …

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Laura Lentz: Rebuilding with Intention After Infidelity and Addiction 1:30:22

3M ago1:30:22

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In this emotional and inspiring podcast episode, Laura Lentz shares her powerful story of rebuilding her life after infidelity, betrayal, and addiction. She opens up about the pain of broken trust, the challenges of walking through addiction recovery, and the courage it takes to create a life rooted in healing, self-discovery, and intention. Laura’…

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93: Unapologetically Worthy, Without Proof 18:14

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Stop hustling for permission. You don’t have to earn your worth — you already have it. In this raw and real episode, Carla and Shellie burn down the myth that you have to prove yourself to deserve a seat at the table. From over-explaining to overworking, they expose the subtle ways we betray our own worth — and offer a grounded, soulful reminder: y…

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92: Burn the Backup Plan 17:27

3M ago17:27

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Hey rabble-rousers, welcome back! In Episode 91, we talked about that "waiting room" where you feel stuck between what was and what’s next. Well, today we’re lighting a match to get you out of there! We’re talking about Plan B—and why it’s a plan for failure. It's that anchor holding you back, that open hatch stealing the oxygen from your dream. We…

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91: The Waiting Room: Surviving the Messy Middle 18:30

3M ago18:30

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Feeling stuck, drained, or like you’re spinning your wheels? You might just be living in The Waiting Room. 🚪 In this candid conversation, Carla Lewis and DocShellie crack open why change feels so heavy, how to tell if you’re “decorating” your waiting room, and the sneaky ways our brains keep us safe (but stuck). If you’ve been looping, over-plannin…

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90: Confusion is Fear in Disguise 18:33

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🚨 Confusion isn’t what you think it is—it’s fear wearing a mask. 🚨 Carla Lewis and DocShellie pull back the curtain on the “I don’t know” swirl and show how to name fear, untangle chaos, and reclaim your permission to want what you want. This episode is part gut punch, part pep talk, and 100% clarity fuel.…

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89: You Asked for a Sign and Got One! Now What?? 24:03

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Ever asked for a sign from the universe and then freaked out when you got one? You're not alone. We've all been there—freezing up when clarity strikes, second-guessing the obvious, or worse, ignoring the signs because they're not what we wanted to hear. This episode is your wake-up call to stop waiting for the burning bush and start listening to yo…

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88: When the Mirror Becomes the Minefield 22:01

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👉 You know your patterns. You’ve done the work. And yet—you’re still tripping yourself up. Why? In this brutally honest conversation, Carla and DocShellie go toe-to-toe with the sneaky ways fear of success and self-sabotage creep in, even when we “know better.” If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thrown rocks at your own reflection, this episod…

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87: The Silence Between you and the Crossroads 16:30

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That voice inside you? It’s not broken—it’s just been silenced. In this soul-baring episode, Carla and Shellie rip the gag off the inner knowing we’ve buried under fear, “shoulds,” and status quo survival. One powerful story. One radical truth. One question: What are YOU not saying that’s already making the decision?…

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86: Rebooting at the Crossroads 20:11

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Ever feel like you’re a Ferrari engine stuck in neutral, dragging a brick building behind you? Carla & DocShellie rip open the myths about “starting over” — showing how a reboot isn’t a restart, it’s an upgrade. Whether your crossroads is a career shake-up, a personal shift, or something as simple as picking up a pickleball paddle, this episode wil…

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12, The Feminine Guide to Boundaries: Tech, Family & Toxicity 45:55

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This week on Really Feminine, we’re talking about how to stay gracious and poised even when life gets messy. From practicing proper technology etiquette in a world that’s always online, to our Tea Time chats about the sting of not being invited to a family wedding, handling an overbearing grandmother with a newborn, and learning how to level your e…

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85: Emotional Gaslighting: When You Minimize Your Own Story 18:33

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Ever told yourself, ‘It wasn’t that bad… I’m just being dramatic’? Welcome to the quiet art of emotional gaslighting — self-inflicted. In this episode, Carla and DocShellie torch the toxic habit of minimizing our struggles and achievements, revealing why your messy, resilient story deserves a standing ovation — not silence.…

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84: Glitter on a Bullet Wound 18:31

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✨ When life sucker-punches you, do you reach for glitter… or grit? This isn’t just about “good vibes only” — it’s about the damage done when we force positivity in the face of real pain. From Pickleball meltdowns to workplace shutdowns, Carla, Doc Shelley, and Michelle Seyfarth rip the sparkle off the bullet wound and get honest. Feel this one.…

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11, Graceful Entrances, Elegant Exits & Escaping Pit Dwellers 54:00

5M ago54:00

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In this episode of Really Feminine, Carla and Michelle share the art of arriving at and leaving a party in a way that leaves a lasting, graceful impression. They’ll also unpack how to spot the “pit dwellers” in your life, the people who pull you into negativity, and how to step away without guilt. Finally, join them for Tea Time, where they answer …

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10, Manners, Marriage & Mindset Shifts 51:09

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In Etiquette, we’re talking restaurant manners, how to dine with dignity, handle the check like a pro, and tip with confidence. In Tea Time, Carla dives into two raw and real struggles: the ache of a wife who feels invisible in her own home, and a woman exhausted from always saying yes.. And in Emotional Etiquette, it’s time to stop reliving the pa…

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83: Rage in the Margins: Where Are We Allowed to Be Angry? 13:54

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🔥 Ever swallowed your anger so long it exploded in your steering wheel or your soul? This episode is your permission slip: 👉 Your fire is not the problem. 👉 It’s proof something sacred has been crossed. Let’s talk rage, justice, and the double standards that silence women and marginalized voices. Warning: truth bombs ahead. 💣…

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9 , Buds in the Ground & Boundaries in the Room 1:03:53

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This week on Freedom Formula, we dig into how to stop repeating the same toxic cycles in relationshps. In Tea Time, Carla shares her advice on dealing with a difficult mother-in-law, and the freedom found in boundaries. This weeks Etiquette segment, focusing on how to introduce yourself with confidence, maintain composure, and build strong, gracefu…

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82: From Raw to Regret: The Emotional Hangover Episode 27:12

5M ago27:12

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You know that post-convo cringe? The one where you replay everything you said and wish you could take it back? Yeah, we went there. This episode is for anyone who's ever vent-dumped, overshared, or emotionally exploded on someone who wasn’t quite ready for it. (Oops.) Whether you were the Spewer or the Spew-ee, we’re breaking down the WHY, the WTF,…

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8, Let It Marinate: Presence, Poise & Professionalism 47:18

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Just like a good recipe, life requires time to marinate. The Freedom Formula invites you to slow down and absorb truth. In Tea Time, we reflect on presence and preparation. Then, in Etiquette, we explore poise in professional settings, maintaining femininity in authority, and setting boundaries at work. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochy…

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81: The Armor You Didn't Know You were Wearing 17:30

6M ago17:30

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What if your “personality” is just armor you’ve worn so long you forgot how to take it off? In this candid conversation, Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth expose the roles we play to feel safe, look strong, or seem in control—and what it costs us when we never take the mask off.By Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth

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7, Breaking Free from the Trap of Offense + The Art of Being a Gracious Guest 42:14

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This week, Freedom Formula explores “Skandalon”—the ancient word for offense and how it keeps us stuck. During Tea Time, Carla sips through insights on emotional freedom. In Etiquette, we define what makes a perfect guest, what to bring as a hostess gift, and why these small gestures carry deep meaning. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochy…

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80: Stuck in Self-Awareness: The Self-Awareness Trap 22:46

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🚨 PSA: Self-awareness is not the destination. It might be the trap. 😳 Ever gotten stuck in “knowing better” but still not changing? Carla and Shellie are naming the stall tactics, the neurochemical addiction to insight, and what it actually takes to stop admiring the problem and start shifting it. Prepare for some uncomfortable truth bombs—and the …

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6, Travel, Tension & Togetherness: Navigating Life with Grace 42:30

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Ever feel like your relationships are out of sync? Freedom Formula discusses attempts to balance imbalanced connections. Tea Time centers around travel and adaptability. And in Etiquette, we cover global and cultural etiquette, how to be a respectful guest, and how to manage shared travel gracefully—even under stress. To support the mission of Boch…

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79: Emotional Constipation: Unblocking Your Feelings 25:38

6M ago25:38

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🚨 Feelings aren’t flaws. They’re data. This one’s for every strong-silent-type who was told “don’t cry,” “don’t celebrate too loud,” or “don’t lose it.” Carla and Shellie get hilariously honest about emotional constipation, Olympic-level stuffing, and why it’s time to digest your damn feelings before they turn into toxicity in your body (and your l…

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ADHD as a Superpower: Michael Shellis on School Struggles, Strengths & Self-Acceptance 1:18:11

6M ago1:18:11

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In this powerful episode, Michael Shellis opens up about his journey with ADHD, from the challenges he faced in school to discovering how it became one of his greatest strengths. If you or someone you love has ever felt “too much” or misunderstood, this conversation will encourage you to reframe that narrative. Michael shares how Attention Deficit …

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78: Feel Guilty When You're Not Doing Something? You Need This! 19:24

6M ago19:24

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If you secretly panic at the idea of slowing down—or feel like dropping one ball means you’ve failed—this episode is your wake-up call. Carla and Shellie unpack the addiction to being busy, the quiet fears that drive over-functioning, and why sometimes… the most powerful thing you can do is nothing.By Carla Lewis and Shellie Seyfarth

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5, The Power of Gratitude: Perspective, Presence & Politeness 50:17

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This episode’s Freedom Formula is all about shifting your perspective. In Tea Time, Carla opens up about practicing gratitude in daily life. Our Etiquette segment focuses on intentional thankfulness—from writing heartfelt notes to the right way to respond to thoughtful gifts and gestures. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochys.org (https://…

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77: Addicted to Achieving? This One is For You! 24:14

6M ago24:14

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What happens when the trophies stop? When the job title fades? When no one’s clapping? If you’ve ever felt like your worth is measured in wins—or felt invisible without them—this episode is your mirror. Carla Lewis and DocShellie get raw about the identity crisis lurking beneath our hustle culture. High-achievers, beware: this one’s a gut check wra…

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4, Activating Your Feminine Fibers: Relationships, Respect, and Radiance 51:23

7M ago51:23

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How do you embody and activate your feminine fibers? Freedom Formula breaks it down. Tea Time offers Carla and Michelle’s thoughts on dealing with controlling mom friends and strained Mother, Daughter relationships. In Etiquette, we explore how dressing reflects self-respect, guidelines for formal and casual events, and being feminine and modest. T…

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76: Boundaries or Brick Walls? 23:08

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🧱 Are you setting boundaries—or hiding behind brick walls? If you’ve ever said, “I don’t need anyone,” or found yourself shutting people out before they disappoint you… this episode is for you. Carla and Shellie crack open the emotional fortress to reveal how we mistake walls for wisdom—and what it really takes to feel safe without staying stuck. S…

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3, Holding Space & Holding Boundaries: A Conversation on Family, Etiquette, and Emotions 47:37

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Freedom Formula introduces the Hula Hoop Magnetic Field, a tool for understanding your emotional boundaries. In Tea Time, Carla and Michelle answer listener questions on family members asking what a listeners inheritance from his father is and another listener asks about what to do about a daughter in law that only wants to spend time with her side…

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4, Trusting God’s Plan: Overcoming Challenges & Embracing Faith 1:03:40

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In this heartfelt and spirit-led session, we begin with a prayer of gratitude and surrender—inviting God to lead, speak, and move in our hearts. Together, we dive into the story of the fall of Jericho from the Book of Joshua, unpacking how God’s plans often look nothing like ours—but are always filled with purpose, power, and victory. Through perso…

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3, Overcoming Inner Strongholds: Biblical Lessons and Personal Growth 59:50

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In this heartfelt and deeply spiritual session, we begin with a prayer of gratitude and seek divine guidance. The focus is on understanding and applying biblical teachings to overcome personal and spiritual strongholds. Key scripture readings from Deuteronomy and Joshua illustrate the importance of faith, patience, and trust in God's plan. Detailed…

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75: Letting Go, Unapologetically 21:23

7M ago21:23

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👀 Still stuck where you don’t belong? In this punch-to-the-gut episode, Carla and Shellie get real about the emotional trench warfare of staying too long. Whether it’s a soul-sucking job, a lopsided friendship, or a role that’s outgrown you, this convo dives deep into the guilt, grief, and glorified martyrdom that keep us hanging on—and what finall…

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2, From Friendships to Flatware: Navigating Relationships and the Dinner Table 47:55

7M ago47:55

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This week’s Freedom Formula unpacks the levels of friendship, how to recognize them, and why they matter. During Tea Time, Carla and Michelle share their thoughts on listener questions. The Etiquette segment walks through formal dining basics: which utensil to use, BMW, and napkin etiquette. To support the mission of Bochy’s Org.- Bochys.org (www.b…