In this episode of the Eager to Please podcast we start our deep dive in to our new theme, AVOIDANCE, and you know what that means! A new song! "Stay Busy" written with the infamous Steve Seskin, thoughtfully points out why people stay busy (to avoid pain or dealing with situations they don't want to deal with) but it also calls the listener to act…

In this episode, we reflect on all we’ve talked about as it relates to the “I’m Fine” phrase and why people tend to say it. It starts with emotional wellness and according to Holly & Scott Stoner, licensed marriage and family therapists, we need to start making our emotional wellbeing personal. Ask yourself these questions: Is there a particular em…

Why do we feel the need to tell people we're fine, everything's fine, when it's really not? In this episode we sit down with my sister, Michelle Costa, who has lived out this phrase her entire life. Sharing from personal experiences, she digs into why people do this and why it's so important to listen to your "gut feeling" when things aren't fine. …

Change is never easy. In fact, it's terrifying! But, for the first time in my life, I truly mean it when I say I'm fine. Join me in this episode to find out why! Follow us on Facebook & Instagram @eagertopleasepodcastBy eagertopleasepodcast

Perfect. Balanced. Happy. That's what I used to think Camelot was until I figured out that place does not exist. Sure, it's fun to imagine yourself there, but the reality is that those qualities can't be found externally. In order to find peace, balance and happiness, you have to find that within yourself. You have to learn to love and take care of…

What's up Eager to Pleasers?! Just wanted to check in on you to see how you're doing and to see what you've been up to lately. What changes have you been making to bring yourself closer to finding balance and peace and feeling more in control of your life? Drop us a note on Facebook @eagertopleasepodcast or instagram @eagertopleasepodcast Can't wai…

Change can be scary, but sometimes it's necessary, even essential, if you're just going through the motions, not enjoying what you're doing or how you're living life. And when you've been living your life for everyone else but yourself, it can be confusing knowing where to start. The first step in becoming whole again is getting to know what matter…

As humans, we innately crave connection, belonging and purpose. But when we base our self-worth on outside factors, like productivity, financial success or what others think of us, we quickly lose sight of what truly fulfills us. Join us on this episode as we chat with MaryBeth Hyland, a values-based mindfulness coach, who reminds us that values co…

Setting boundaries can be difficult if you don't know how to set healthy ones or how to communicate them effectively. In this episode, we are blessed to sit down with Grammy-nominated, songwriter-singer and educator, Steve Seskin, as we take a deeper look at why it's important to set boundaries (even for men!) and why we chose to write Boundaries i…

New Month. New Theme. New Song. Let's talk about boundaries! I don't know about you, but I always viewed boundaries as a barrier between two objects, usually put up for safety or establishing lines. In this episode we debunk the common myth that boundaries are a negative thing, rather than a healthy way of communicating and establishing effective, …

Wanting to be perfect goes hand in hand with people-pleasing. Join me in this episode as we take a closer look at advice from Reshma Saujani, founder and CEO of Girls Who Code. In her book "Brave, not Perfect" she shares her journey from being a perfectionist to acceptance of being perfectly imperfect in order to live a more fulfilling, authentic l…

Adulting his hard and complicated; but we are ultimately responsible for holding ourselves accountable for living authentically and by our truest selves. In this episode I am so fortunate to sit down with Nashville-based therapist Megan Flores, to talk more in depth about Where people pleasing comes from; Does your family or the way you were raised…

In this episode, we take a closer look at the story behind "Close to Home" written by Natalie Otto, John Salaway & Nick Serro. Do you feel like you're living in deja vu? Sometimes history does repeat itself; and in my case, it was a marriage that was failing, but sometimes in order to find balance you have to learn to let go of the things that are …

New month - new topic - FAMILY MATTERS! How big of a role does your family play in shaping the person you become as an adult? We take a closer look at family dynamics, relationships and generational influences to answer this question. Huge shout out to Music City Productions for producing this month's theme song, Closer to Home. Written by Natalie …

People pleasers tend to say "yes" even when they mean "no". Learn why the power of saying "no" can help you set healthy boundaries so you can continue to show up for yourself and others at your fullest. Join me in this episode as we take a look at what advice Vanessa Patrick, PhD has to say about the subject in her book "The Power of Saying No". Fo…

When we feel stuck, it's really hard to set yourself in motion to get out of that situation. So, I sat down with my friend, Bill O'Hanlon, a successful psychotherapist and fellow songwriter, to dive deeper into one of his most popular books - "Do One Thing Different" - where he talks about 3 major places we can make changes to see personal growth a…

Being a people pleaser isn't a trait we're born having; it's one we develop over time. Join me in this episode as I share a few experiences of my earliest people pleasing moments and what finally lead to my realization that I had an unhealthy relationship with the word "NO".By eagertopleasepodcast

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Ever wonder why you feel unhappy because you’re consumed with making everything ok for everyone else but yourself? Join us for a deep dive as we explore how family, relationships, social media and social norms make us so eager to please. Listen to some of our guests on why they think you should listen, then follow us on Facebook and Instagram at ea…