If early dating feels emotionally exhausting — like every pause, delay, or moment of uncertainty sends you spiraling — this episode is for you.

In this conversation, we talk about why control can start to feel safer than love, especially if your past has taught you that uncertainty usually comes before disappointment. You’ll learn how seeking clarity, reassurance, or certainty can look like emotional maturity — while quietly keeping you stuck in familiar patterns that never lead to the relationship you want. We unpack why “just trusting” doesn’t work, how meaning gets assigned to dating situations without you realizing it, and what actually has to shift so dating doesn’t feel like something that keeps happening to you.

If this episode hit close to home and you’re wondering what’s really keeping you single, take the Why You’re Really Still Single Quiz. It will help you uncover the specific dynamic shaping how you show up in dating — and what needs attention next.