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Can Couples Actually Survive Infidelity? (From Our 5 Years Of Healing)

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In this urgent conversation, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle an email that made them immediately stop everything and record: a woman whose husband has had over 200+ sexual encounters with prostitutes, massage parlors, and emotional affairs—yet he's calling HER controlling for asking him to stop chatting with younger women at the gym. Drawing from their own five years of rebuilding trust after infidelity, they expose the dangerous pattern that destroys second chances: the betrayer who refuses to see what's obvious. Carl reveals why any man who's broken his marriage vows cannot ask anything "outrageous" from his wife ("You could ask me to build a papier-mâché dragon and I'm doing it"), while Laura opens up about the exhausting reality of being told you're crazy when your intuition was right all along. They demolish the myth that boundaries after betrayal are "controlling" when the brutal truth is: if you cheated, you created this—every single boundary she asks for is sacred, not crazy. From why "I'm just being friendly" is the most dangerous phrase a cheating husband can say, to the therapist who tricked Carl into humility by making him assume everything he heard was right for one week, this episode validates every betrayed partner who's been gaslit into thinking their needs are unreasonable. They reveal why the betrayed person gets to be "selfish" for a season (and why that season might be 10 years), how tolerance is conditioned over time starting way before marriage, and why Carl still reports when there's a woman receptionist at his doctor's office five years later. The frame that changes everything: You can't rebuild trust while the behaviors that broke it are still being defended. And if you're the one who cheated and you're sitting there thinking "but she's being unreasonable" while defending your right to talk to other women, this conversation exposes why you're not ready to change and what that means for your marriage. Warning: This episode will challenge men who think they've apologized enough and may trigger those who've weaponized the word "controlling" to avoid accountability for their betrayal.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 - Urgent Pod: The Email That Made Us Record Immediately

03:33 - 200+ Affairs And He Says She's Being Ridiculous

07:16 - Nothing You're Asked Is Outrageous After Betrayal

11:48 - You Created This Pattern Over Hundreds Of Decisions

15:00 - The Receptionist Story: Why Carl Still Reports Everything

17:09 - You Can't Rebuild Trust While Defending Old Behaviors

22:00 - "I'm Just Being Friendly" Is Feeding An Old System

27:40 - Controlling vs. Protecting: How To Know The Difference

32:14 - Shaming vs. Setting Boundaries: The Dignity Question

36:07 - What You Tolerate: Trauma, Fear, And Fatigue

40:43 - What Pattern Of Mine Keeps Me Stuck In Their Pattern?

43:19 - The College Boyfriend Story: How Tolerance Gets Conditioned

45:40 - If Love Costs You Peace, Is It Love?

47:21 - The Question Every Husband Should Ask About Boundaries

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