Learning to Let Go of Expectations
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Expectation is invisible until it breaks.
You think you’re just hoping, planning, preparing — but underneath, you’re building a world that has to go your way in order to feel right. And when it doesn’t, it hurts twice: once for what happened, and again for what you imagined.
In this episode, Kit explores how expectation quietly distorts our lives — in love, in work, in friendship, even in the way we see ourselves. Why we hold others to invisible standards, why we’re crushed when they don’t meet them, and how the Tao teaches balance through restraint.
Lao Tzu wrote, “Better to stop pouring than to fill to the brim.”
That’s the heart of this conversation — learning when to stop pouring, how to release the need for control, and how to meet life without the weight of constant prediction.
This isn’t about lowering your hopes or becoming indifferent.
It’s about holding them lightly — doing your work, showing up fully, and stepping back before it spills.
If you’ve ever found yourself disappointed and couldn’t explain why, this episode might show you where that story really began.
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