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How to Stop Being Defensive in Your Relationship: Couples Therapist Strategies for Better Communication
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Defensiveness is one of the most common reasons couples get stuck in repetitive fights — but few people understand what’s actually driving it. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explains the psychology of defensiveness, how shame and fear of rejection play a role, and the proven tools that help couples communicate without walls going up. Learn how to respond without reacting, build emotional safety, and start creating the kind of connection you really want.
Keywords: how to stop being defensive, couples communication skills, marriage advice podcast, defensiveness and shame, Gottman four horsemen, relationship repair, therapist tips for couples.
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198 episodes
Manage episode 514502376 series 2670106
Defensiveness is one of the most common reasons couples get stuck in repetitive fights — but few people understand what’s actually driving it. In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explains the psychology of defensiveness, how shame and fear of rejection play a role, and the proven tools that help couples communicate without walls going up. Learn how to respond without reacting, build emotional safety, and start creating the kind of connection you really want.
Keywords: how to stop being defensive, couples communication skills, marriage advice podcast, defensiveness and shame, Gottman four horsemen, relationship repair, therapist tips for couples.
Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! You, Your Husband, and His Mother
RESOURCES:
Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!
Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here
Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions
Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge
LINKS:
Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy
KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com
Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY
K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY
Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY
Branch Basics: Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit
Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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