Summary:

In this powerful episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives deep into the connection between self-abandonment and financial freedom. She challenges listeners to recognize the ways they undervalue themselves, overcommit, and tolerate scarcity—whether in their finances, relationships, or daily lives. Rita shares practical tools to shift from scarcity thinking to abundance, explaining how structural tension plays a key role in breaking cycles of under-earning and over-giving.

If you've ever struggled with undercharging, over-delivering, or feeling stuck in financial struggle, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your worth and step into abundance.

Key Topics & Takeaways:

• Self-Abandonment & Scarcity: How self-betrayal leads to financial struggle and lack in other areas of life.
• The Difference Between Tolerance & Acceptance: Learning to set boundaries instead of tolerating things that drain you.
• Structural Tension & The Gap: Understanding the space between where you are and where you want to be—and why that discomfort is key to transformation.
• The Holding Frequency of Money: How unconscious beliefs shape how much money you hold onto or let slip away.
• Breaking Scarcity Cycles: Shifting from over-giving, undercharging, and fearing rejection to confidently owning your value.
• Tools for Rewiring Scarcity Thinking:
  1. Radical self-honesty: Identifying where you're tolerating lack.
  2. Stopping over-giving and learning to receive.
  3. Mindfulness in catching scarcity thoughts.
  4. Holding frequency: Getting comfortable with wealth.
  5. Leaning into tension instead of running from it.

Timestamps:

• 00:32 – Introduction: Self-abandonment and financial freedom
• 03:00 – Episode Affirmation
• 11:45 – Why tolerating something is not the same as accepting it
• 15:20 – Structural tension: The key to shifting from scarcity to abundance
• 20:10 – The holding frequency of money: Why money seems to disappear
• 25:45 – Signs of being stuck in a scarcity cycle
• 31:20 – Five tools to break free from self-abandonment and step into abundance
• 38:55 – Closing thoughts: One action step to shift your financial reality today

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