When we don’t feel good inside, often our first instinct is to try to change what’s happening on the outside. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. We can never solve the problems we feel within ourselves by manipulating external effects. When we try to, it makes us upside down. Things get worse instead of better as we repeat the same old patterns that don’t work, but more desperately each time around. To heal, we must first identify where the true problem lies, then address it from within.