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Trailblazers in Love: Understanding & Advocating for the LGBTQ+ Community with Jeff Lutes – Replay – (286)
Manage episode 522249226 series 2450169
A replay episode from our powerful interview with Jeff Lutes, this discussion dives into raising families, the evolution of the community, allyship, gender, and the importance of advocacy.
Click Here to View the Original Episode Shownotes
“There are a lot of therapists that see themselves as affirming, but I think you have to get actively involved in
order to be an ally.” – Jeff Lutes
Time Stamps for Advocating for the LGBTQ+ Community
2:00 – Jeff’s anecdotes about religion and sexuality
11:18 – How advocacy can be a thankless job
12:00 – Introduction to the Contemporary Relationships Conference
14:34 – The difference between being trained in accepting versus educated
16:48 – The importance of knowing the correct terminology
20:39 – What we can learn from the polyamorous community
22:58 – Definition of queer and who that represents
24:37 – Let’s talk about pronouns
31:21 – Explanation of dead naming and why it is wrong
42:15 – Conversion therapy research and findings
47:00: Trailblazers in Love, Jeff’s book
Resources for today’s episode Advocating for the LGBTQ+ Community
Jeff Lute’s Website – Information, credentials, presentations and publications
Contemporary Relationships Conference – Conference information and proposals
Get your copy of his book, Trailblazers in Love, here!!
About our Guest – Jeff Lutes, LPC
Jeff specializes in creating collaborative conversations with clients that generate new possibilities for change. Using a postmodern approach, he listens carefully to each client’s story and strives to understand how they might make meaning of themselves, others, and the world around them. He founded the Contemporary Relationships Conference and has presented to audiences around the country, including the American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy, the American Family Therapy Academy, the American Counseling Association, and the Texas Psychological Association. He is also the author of Trailblazers In Love, as well as chapters in three counseling textbooks. Lutes also wrote a children’s book about adoption, deaf culture, and non-traditional families and has been a contributing writer at Bilerico and Therapy Matters.
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Manage episode 522249226 series 2450169
A replay episode from our powerful interview with Jeff Lutes, this discussion dives into raising families, the evolution of the community, allyship, gender, and the importance of advocacy.
Click Here to View the Original Episode Shownotes
“There are a lot of therapists that see themselves as affirming, but I think you have to get actively involved in
order to be an ally.” – Jeff Lutes
Time Stamps for Advocating for the LGBTQ+ Community
2:00 – Jeff’s anecdotes about religion and sexuality
11:18 – How advocacy can be a thankless job
12:00 – Introduction to the Contemporary Relationships Conference
14:34 – The difference between being trained in accepting versus educated
16:48 – The importance of knowing the correct terminology
20:39 – What we can learn from the polyamorous community
22:58 – Definition of queer and who that represents
24:37 – Let’s talk about pronouns
31:21 – Explanation of dead naming and why it is wrong
42:15 – Conversion therapy research and findings
47:00: Trailblazers in Love, Jeff’s book
Resources for today’s episode Advocating for the LGBTQ+ Community
Jeff Lute’s Website – Information, credentials, presentations and publications
Contemporary Relationships Conference – Conference information and proposals
Get your copy of his book, Trailblazers in Love, here!!
About our Guest – Jeff Lutes, LPC
Jeff specializes in creating collaborative conversations with clients that generate new possibilities for change. Using a postmodern approach, he listens carefully to each client’s story and strives to understand how they might make meaning of themselves, others, and the world around them. He founded the Contemporary Relationships Conference and has presented to audiences around the country, including the American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy, the American Family Therapy Academy, the American Counseling Association, and the Texas Psychological Association. He is also the author of Trailblazers In Love, as well as chapters in three counseling textbooks. Lutes also wrote a children’s book about adoption, deaf culture, and non-traditional families and has been a contributing writer at Bilerico and Therapy Matters.
Beyond Attachment Styles course is available NOW!
Learn how your nervous system, your mind, and your relationships work together in a fascinating dance, shaping
who you are and how you connect with others.
Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A’s – Next one is January 23rd!
Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout
As a listener of this podcast, use code BAS15 for a limited-time discount.
Get your copy of Secure Relating here!!
You are invited!
Join our exclusive community to get early access and discounts to things we produce, plus an ad-free, private feed. In addition, receive exclusive episodes recorded just for you. Sign up for our premium Neuronerd plan!! Click here!!
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