Be Slow, Be Lazy, Be Dumb: Essential Advice for New Therapists
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We explore childhood memories of our elementary school club "The Midnight Players" and share essential advice for new therapists struggling with performance anxiety in clinical sessions.
• Our childhood club "Midnight Players" had airbrushed sweaters, monthly dues, and official roles including a "Sergeant-at-Arms"
• Childhood clubs reveal our deep desire for belonging and community-building from an early age
• Creating a supportive environment at sports tournaments shows how community forms around shared experiences
• Three essential principles for new therapists: Be Slow, Be Lazy, Be Dumb
• Being slow means creating spaciousness in therapy and resisting the urge to rush through client stories
• Being lazy means trusting the therapeutic process rather than forcing predetermined interventions
• Being "dumb" in session (while smart outside session) means approaching clients with genuine curiosity instead of presumed understanding
• New therapists often try too hard to analyze clients rather than being present in the relationship
• The golf lesson analogy: sometimes simpler approaches yield better results than technical overanalysis
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Chapters
1. Be Slow, Be Lazy, Be Dumb: Essential Advice for New Therapists (00:00:00)
2. Welcome Back to the Cast (00:00:16)
3. Midnight Players: Elementary School Club (00:01:06)
4. Airbrushed T-shirts and Childhood Memories (00:05:12)
5. Tournament Preparations and Family Time (00:12:25)
6. Be Slow: Therapeutic Advice (00:14:52)
7. Be Lazy and Be Dumb in Therapy (00:21:12)
8. Practical Therapy vs. Overanalysis (00:37:09)
9. Closing Thoughts and Future Guests (00:42:27)
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