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The Real Cost of People Pleasing - and How to STOP
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There are very real costs to people-pleasing, and you’re likely living them - the quiet resentment that builds after a hasty yes or the loss of trust that happens when someone can’t deliver on a promise.
People pleasing doesn't please, it erodes: trust, time, and energy.
With a memorable five-year roof story and hard-won lessons from work and relationships, Stephanie and Maren unpack why “just because I can” doesn’t mean “I should” and
- map a practical path out of the “pleasing” loop
- share the four questions to ask before saying yes
- offer a fresh lens on procrastination as misalignment
- talk about human-centered leadership skills to eliminate the “pleasing” disease
- share ways to reset agreements when you’ve already said yes
- invite lighter “yesses”, kinder “nos”, and work that is honored
😣 If you’ve ever stayed too long in a role or relationship because you didn’t want to disappoint
🧐 If you are ready to reduce overcommitment, prevent burnout, and turn uncertainty into useful information
🫣 If you struggle to say no
👉🏻 this conversation - filled with truth, tools, and relief - is for you. 🙌
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Chapters
1. Setting The Bigger Question (00:00:00)
2. Naming People Pleasing (00:00:31)
3. The Culture Of Shoulds (00:01:16)
4. Just Because You Can (00:02:22)
5. The Roof Story: When Yes Fails (00:03:02)
6. Resentment And Procrastination (00:05:16)
7. When Pleasing Pleases No One (00:06:40)
8. Relationships And Staying Too Long (00:07:55)
9. Self-Knowledge As Antidote (00:09:42)
10. Calling Out People Pleasing At Work (00:11:10)
11. A Different Leadership Paradigm (00:12:27)
12. Costs Of Misalignment (00:14:09)
13. Four Questions Before You Say Yes (00:15:31)
14. Trial Periods And Uncertainty (00:17:19)
15. Pause, Alternatives, And Repair (00:18:36)
16. Community, Next Steps, And Closing (00:19:35)
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