Breaking the Trance of Unworthiness with Monica Rodgers
This conversation with Monica Rodgers cracked something open in me, and I have a feeling it’s going to do the same for you.
Monica is a mentor, catalyst, and art-loving creatrix who talks about something she calls the “trance of unworthiness”—and wow, did I feel it in my body when she named it. We’re talking about all the tiny messages we get as girls and women that slowly teach us to doubt ourselves, shrink, and disconnect from our own truth.
We also talk a lot about breath, the body, and how to start giving ourselves actual approval instead of waiting for it from everyone else.
In this episode, we chat about:
- What the trance of unworthiness is and how it can feel like “death by a thousand paper cuts”
- How many of us were raised by wounded maidens (mothers who never got to fully become themselves)
- Why girls often start dimming their light around ages 10–14 and what we can do differently now
- The difference between keeping the peace and making peace (and why Monica loves irreverent, “oh hell no” women)
- A super simple way to “microdose worthiness” with the phrases:
“Thank you. It’s true.”
“I approve.”
- How to notice when you’ve literally stopped breathing freely, and what that says about your sense of safety
- What it looks like to raise daughters (and sons) who trust themselves, even when it’s inconvenient for us as parents 🙃

Your Next Empowering Action:

Put your hand on your heart and say:
“I approve.”
Even if you snapped this morning. Even if you didn’t get everything done. Even if you feel messy.
Notice your breath.
Are you breathing? Like really breathing? If not, can you soften your shoulders, unclench your jaw, and let a deeper breath in?
These tiny moments are how we start to step out of the trance and back into our own lives.
Mentioned in this episode:
Monica’s Women’s Bill of Rights
You can download it (and write your own) at: jointherevelation.com

After you listen, send me a note and tell me:
Where are you ready to stop living in the trance of unworthiness and start practicing “I approve”? 💛