What happens when you discover that the "maybe" you've been holding onto for years is actually the thing keeping you small in every area of your life?
In this deeply vulnerable solo episode, host Chloé Cofresí shares one of the most significant perspective shifts of her life: the decision to definitively say no to motherhood—not from fear, but from alignment with her optimal design.
Through muscle testing work with her practitioner Ana, Chloé discovered she was one of the 80% not optimally designed for parenthood. But more importantly, she realized that waiting to "no longer be alone" and holding space for the possibility of motherhood was keeping her from fully stepping into her writing, her business, her art, and even her readiness for the sacred partnership she desires.
This episode chronicles Chloé's complex journey—from teenage observations of exhausted parents, through a marriage where she adopted someone else's reasons, to tying her tubes out of fear after divorce, to reversing that surgery, to finally arriving at a choice made from knowing rather than fear.
Key Moments
The Revelation - How muscle testing revealed that waiting for partnership before taking action was keeping Chloé small in her writing, performing, and business
The Maybe That Was Killing Her - Realizing that the uncertainty around motherhood was affecting every other area of life and ambition
The 20% Concept - Understanding that only 20% of people are optimally designed for parenthood, and what that means for individuals and communities
Joey's Wisdom - Her cousin's profound insight after watching her play: "You already answered this seven years ago. You're a storyteller. Be the mama to everybody by telling the stories."
The Unlocking - How making a definitive choice opened up her business (after 2 years of struggling), her writing, and her entire life path
From Fear to Alignment - The difference between decisions made from trauma and PTSD versus decisions made from optimal design
About the Host
Chloé Cofresí is a storyteller, playwright, Brazilian lymphatic drainage practitioner, and the creator of BEAM&Flow—a framework for aligning Body, Energy, Awareness, and Movement. She's the writer and star of "La hija del pirata/The Pirate's Daughter," a play about five generations of women descended from Roberto Cofresí, the famous Puerto Rican pirate. After years in New York, she now lives in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains in Seneca, South Carolina, where she's building her online coaching practice teaching women hormone optimization, lymphatic drainage, and nervous system work.
Content Note: This episode discusses the deeply personal decision not to have children, tubal ligation and reversal, divorce, childhood trauma, and complex feelings around motherhood. Chloé shares with tremendous vulnerability and invites listeners into their own exploration of optimal design.
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