Stacy sits down with licensed depth therapist and author of the new book, The Motherhood Myth, Vanessa Bennett, to unpack why so many women feel overwhelmed, overextended, and exhausted by unseen emotional labor. Through the lens of depth psychology, they explore the “have it all” trap, the inner patriarchy, self-abandonment, inherited power systems, and the cultural scripts still shaping modern motherhood and partnership. From modeling conflict for our kids to untangling the sister wound and reclaiming our needs, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path toward finally stepping off the hamster wheel.

• 0:00 | Vanessa Bennett & depth psychology
• 2:00 | Feminism, equality & the “have it all” trap
• 6:30 | Emotional labor, burnout & the hamster wheel
• 10:00 | Modeling conflict & repair for our kids
• 12:45 | Inner patriarchy & self-abandonment
• 16:00 | Power systems we inherit without realizing
• 18:30 | Marriage roles & old scripts that linger
• 22:00 | Sex, needs & emotional outsourcing
• 27:00 | Sister wound, witch wound & lost community
• 32:00 | Emotional intelligence as “both/and”
• 35:00 | Practical steps to stop self-abandoning
• 39:00 | Where to find Vanessa’s work

See complete show notes and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠realeverything.com⁠⁠!

Find Vanessa:

• vanessabennett.com
• instagram.com/vanessasbennett
• https://www.vanessabennett.com/books

Find Stacy:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠realeverything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/realstacytoth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠missionmakersart.com⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠missionalchemists.com⁠

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices