Everyone has a dream. But sometimes there’s a gap between where we are and where we want to be. True, there are some people who can bridge that gap easily, on their own, but all of us need a little help at some point. A little boost. An accountability partner. A Snooze Squad. In each episode, the Snooze Squad will strategize an action plan for people to face their fears. Guests will transform their own perception of their potential and walk away a few inches closer to who they want to become ...
…
continue reading
Content provided by Peter Alsop. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Peter Alsop or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.
Similar to Peter Alsop‘s SONGS TO CHEW
Are you looking for more happiness, success and vitality in your life? Get inspired each week with wellness and performance expert, Integrative Medicine Fellow, author & keynote speaker, Kristel Bauer. Live Greatly shares empowering conversations and insights about happiness, wellness & success to support your personal and professional development. Kristel talks with top experts, leaders and inspiring individuals to help you embrace a growth mindset and excel in your work/life. Kristel then ...
…
continue reading
Named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation and one of Inc.'s 500 fastest growing companies, Marie Forleo's goal is to help you become the person you most want to be. In this show, Marie and her guests share actionable strategies for greater happiness, success, motivation, creativity, productivity, love, health, contribution and fulfillment — often with a lot of laughs. From business, marketing and career advice, to tackling failure, disappointment and fear, to philanthropy an ...
…
continue reading
Self Improvement Daily is the most consistent and value-packed podcast in the space. Every episode is specifically created to help busy, purpose-driven leaders acquire the ideas, structure, clarity, and perspective they need to maximize their potential and impact. Featuring a new 3-5 minute tip every weekday, biweekly expert interviews, never missing a day for the last 7.5 years, and having earned 21.4 million downloads to date - This is your path toward becoming the successful, impactful, a ...
…
continue reading
An award-winning cannabis podcast for women, by women. Hear joyful stories and useful advice about cannabis for health, well-being, and fun—especially for needs specific to women like stress, sleep, and sex. We cover everything from: What’s the best weed for sex? Can I use CBD for menstrual cramps? What are the effects of the Harlequin strain or Gelato strain? And, why do we prefer to call it “cannabis” instead of “marijuana”? We also hear from you: your first time buying legal weed, and how ...
…
continue reading
Larry Wilson is an Emmy nominated performer, producer, writer, and 2017 Comedy Magician of the Year, who synthesized his long history in show business into a powerful training system called The Wilson Method. As a successful TV Star and Communications Expert, Larry Wilson, shares his secrets to quality & clear communication. Every week a new episode takes the listener into another level of training where he/she can find success in business & relationships through better communication skills.
…
continue reading
You can't save your way to your dream life anymore. The truth is, you’re gonna need to learn to make more money. The Travis Makes Money Podcast is not your typical personal finance show. Rather than shaming you for buying a Starbucks coffee or pressuring you to become a billionaire, we focus on empowering you to make more money so you can enjoy life today while preparing for your future. You don’t have to cut back so much that you miss out on the present, and you don’t need to become the nex ...
…
continue reading
Being positive is up to you. When you understand how your mind works, you really can create the life you desire. The Be Positive Podcast is your weekly reminder that no matter what you're going through, there’s always a reason to stay hopeful, stay focused, and stay positive. Through real talk, uplifting messages, and personal stories from listeners around the world, I'll help you tap into your inner strength, shift your mindset, and see life from a brighter perspective. Whether it’s finding ...
…
continue reading
Welcome to Almost 30—a supportive space to fuel your conscious evolution. Join us, best friends Krista Williams + Lindsey Simcik, for heart-centered, hilarious conversations and raw, impactful interviews with brilliant guests. We dive deep into everything from modern spirituality and health + wellness to self-development, dating, and relationships. With every episode, our mission is to empower you, expand what you think is possible, and make you laugh—a lot. We’re honest, open, and above all ...
…
continue reading
In For Scores, host Jon Burlingame takes listeners on a magical journey into the world of film and television composers, revealing never-before-heard special moments behind many of today's most beloved scores. This season, you'll hear personal stories from the composers of Marvel Studios Avengers and Pixar's Toy Story films, Captain Marvel, Coco, Ralph Breaks the Internet, and so much more!
…
continue reading
Player FM - Podcast App
Go offline with the Player FM app!
Go offline with the Player FM app!
))
Lifeline
Manage episode 518665971 series 2860908
Content provided by Peter Alsop. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Peter Alsop or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.
LIFELINE
You carried me, home in your arms G-C-D,G-C-D
You loved me so much, and you kept me from harm
You washed me and fed me, the years how they flew
And now you need my help, and I’ll care for you!
There’s a lifeline that ties me to you, Am-C-G
Life rolls like a wheel through whatever we do
Through all of the hard times and anger we feel G-D9-C-G
The love that we have, well it helps us to heal, G-D9-Am-D
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through! D-D7-G-C-D,G-C-D
You’ve nowhere to go, and you don’t like to lean
At the old people’s home, they’re packed in like sardines,
So the baby can sleep in the crib one more year
Put the kids in together, there’s room for you here!
There’s a lifeline that ties me to you
Overnight power runs out the holes in our shoes
When the looking glass flips, there’s no wrong or right
Do the best we can and hold hands in the fight
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through!
Most of the time now, you’re clear as a bell
But the body you’re using’s not working so well
And I know we get crazy when our patience is gone
Hey, ain’t it amazing, how we hold on,
To that lifeline that ties me to you
Life rolls like a wheel through whatever we do
Through all of the hard times and anger we feel
The love that we have, well it helps us to heal
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through!
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through!
Written by Peter Alsop, ©1983, Moose School Music (BMI)
On Fan Club Favorites and Songs On Loss & Grief
Practicing the art of loving, ... can get us through some of the hardest times we have while we care for our parents. We all have losses to deal with in our lives, but older people often experience losses more frequently. Besides losing family members and friends who have died, there’s the loss of good health and vigor to deal with, ... and loss of time to accomplish dreams that were never realized.
As our own children grow up and begin to go out into the world on their own, many of our parents or older relatives become needful of our help. We then face tough decisions about bringing them back into our own busy lives and home, perhaps acting as their principal caregiver.
My grandmother actually did come to live with us, and it was both difficult and rewarding, as we learned how to get along with each other. In our culture older family members often live by themselves, or in a community of other older people, separate from the younger members of their own families. Many of us Americans grew up in our core nuclear family, without our grandparents in the same house. We didn’t get many real experiences or a clear understanding of how we will age ourselves later in our own lives. So, it was wonderful for my kids to have an older person in our immediate family home.
My dear friend and teacher, Dr. Joseph Cruse talks about a ‘de-cathexis’, ... a letting go that happens within our families. As we children grow up, we need to let go of the expectations that our parents will continue to ‘parent’ us forever. They will always be our parents, but as we become adults and take our own power in the world, their ‘parenting’ behaviors need to transform into a more equal ‘friendship’ type of relationship between equal adults, without the power inequities that happen when children are little and parents are big. We can help to create a healthy balanced relationship with our own aging parents, when we are neither crutches nor burdens to each other.
1980 photo by Ellen Geer of Grandmother, Dad, me, Megan & Willow
I hugged my grandmother often, but I realized one day, ... that it was the only touching that she received. As she depended on us more and more, I was reminded of how like a child she had become, and that little babies get a sense of themselves that is related to how, and how often other people touch them. So I started a program of fifteen-minute foot-rubs for my grandmother, and with her permission, I would turn on a recorder, massage her feet, and ask her pointed questions about her life and our family. We compiled quite an oral history, punctuated with little moans and comments about how good it felt to have some spot on her foot rubbed! She’s say, “Ooooh! That feels sooo good! Are you married?” I’d say“Grandmother! Cut that out!” I have it on tape.
I know she enjoyed the foot-rubs, but she also enjoyed ‘being listened to’ and having someone take time with her, so she felt that she was loved and valued, even though she was unable to help much with the maintenance of our bustling, rushing around young family. It was fulfilling for both of us when she was able to pass on some of her life experiences to me, an interested younger relative. And I got to see some of the family patterns that had echoed down through the generations, and to understand that I was not just a man alone in the world, but also a link in the family chain.
I had the privilege of working with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. She is best known for her work with patients with catastrophic illnesses who were dying. She would say that, “When we can’t increase the quantity of someone’s life, we can increase the quality of it.”
She told me about one patient she was working with, and Elisabeth came into her room and said, “Is there anything I can do for you today?” And the patient said, “Yes Elisabeth, there is.” And Elisabeth said “Oh! What?” And the woman said, “Go away!”
Elisabeth said she went out in the other room, and she felt crushed. She had only wanted to ‘help’ this person. And she said, “Wait a minute! What’s going on here? I asked, and this woman gave me a perfectly ‘okay’ request. Why am I feeling so upset!?” And she thought for a moment and said, “I think I just learned that when I have hurt feelings like this, a little red flag goes up and says to me, ‘Elisabeth, you have some unfinished business to take care of! This person just helped you see that it’s in this area, and you need to take a look at it!”
Like Elisabeth, I think there are lots of those little red flags that come up for us, … especially working in human services, or actually just working with other people who we want to help. Knowing what’s ‘my stuff’, and what’s ‘their stuff’, … is very helpful and important.
Those little red flags come up all the time in our relationships, and that’s where our commitment to self-growth comes in. It helps when we are aware of the opportunities those flags provide for us, so we can say, “I’m gonna take a look at what’s going on here! Even if I have to wait until later today, I want to figure out what’s going on inside of me, because when I do, … I’m better able to be more clear with the people I’m trying to help. I can’t teach what I don’t know!”
Thanks for stopping by. Please share any of my posts that might be helpful to someone you know.
Peter Alsop’s SONGS TO CHEW Audio podcasts
Thanks for reading Peter Alsop’s Substack! This post is public so feel free to share it.
Click here to see All of Peter’s albums!
To send me a comment, you can sign in as a Substack member by clicking the button above. It’s free, but you can always email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! You don’t have to be a ‘paid’ subscriber to get my posts. Everyone gets ‘em, … some folks send in money to support my work. In either case, glad you’re here! Thanks for spreading the word!
Peter’s Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, please consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.
Get full access to Peter Alsop’s Substack at peteralsop.substack.com/subscribe
262 episodes
Share
Manage episode 518665971 series 2860908
Content provided by Peter Alsop. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Peter Alsop or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.
LIFELINE
You carried me, home in your arms G-C-D,G-C-D
You loved me so much, and you kept me from harm
You washed me and fed me, the years how they flew
And now you need my help, and I’ll care for you!
There’s a lifeline that ties me to you, Am-C-G
Life rolls like a wheel through whatever we do
Through all of the hard times and anger we feel G-D9-C-G
The love that we have, well it helps us to heal, G-D9-Am-D
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through! D-D7-G-C-D,G-C-D
You’ve nowhere to go, and you don’t like to lean
At the old people’s home, they’re packed in like sardines,
So the baby can sleep in the crib one more year
Put the kids in together, there’s room for you here!
There’s a lifeline that ties me to you
Overnight power runs out the holes in our shoes
When the looking glass flips, there’s no wrong or right
Do the best we can and hold hands in the fight
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through!
Most of the time now, you’re clear as a bell
But the body you’re using’s not working so well
And I know we get crazy when our patience is gone
Hey, ain’t it amazing, how we hold on,
To that lifeline that ties me to you
Life rolls like a wheel through whatever we do
Through all of the hard times and anger we feel
The love that we have, well it helps us to heal
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through!
Love’s a lifeline that pulls us all through!
Written by Peter Alsop, ©1983, Moose School Music (BMI)
On Fan Club Favorites and Songs On Loss & Grief
Practicing the art of loving, ... can get us through some of the hardest times we have while we care for our parents. We all have losses to deal with in our lives, but older people often experience losses more frequently. Besides losing family members and friends who have died, there’s the loss of good health and vigor to deal with, ... and loss of time to accomplish dreams that were never realized.
As our own children grow up and begin to go out into the world on their own, many of our parents or older relatives become needful of our help. We then face tough decisions about bringing them back into our own busy lives and home, perhaps acting as their principal caregiver.
My grandmother actually did come to live with us, and it was both difficult and rewarding, as we learned how to get along with each other. In our culture older family members often live by themselves, or in a community of other older people, separate from the younger members of their own families. Many of us Americans grew up in our core nuclear family, without our grandparents in the same house. We didn’t get many real experiences or a clear understanding of how we will age ourselves later in our own lives. So, it was wonderful for my kids to have an older person in our immediate family home.
My dear friend and teacher, Dr. Joseph Cruse talks about a ‘de-cathexis’, ... a letting go that happens within our families. As we children grow up, we need to let go of the expectations that our parents will continue to ‘parent’ us forever. They will always be our parents, but as we become adults and take our own power in the world, their ‘parenting’ behaviors need to transform into a more equal ‘friendship’ type of relationship between equal adults, without the power inequities that happen when children are little and parents are big. We can help to create a healthy balanced relationship with our own aging parents, when we are neither crutches nor burdens to each other.
1980 photo by Ellen Geer of Grandmother, Dad, me, Megan & Willow
I hugged my grandmother often, but I realized one day, ... that it was the only touching that she received. As she depended on us more and more, I was reminded of how like a child she had become, and that little babies get a sense of themselves that is related to how, and how often other people touch them. So I started a program of fifteen-minute foot-rubs for my grandmother, and with her permission, I would turn on a recorder, massage her feet, and ask her pointed questions about her life and our family. We compiled quite an oral history, punctuated with little moans and comments about how good it felt to have some spot on her foot rubbed! She’s say, “Ooooh! That feels sooo good! Are you married?” I’d say“Grandmother! Cut that out!” I have it on tape.
I know she enjoyed the foot-rubs, but she also enjoyed ‘being listened to’ and having someone take time with her, so she felt that she was loved and valued, even though she was unable to help much with the maintenance of our bustling, rushing around young family. It was fulfilling for both of us when she was able to pass on some of her life experiences to me, an interested younger relative. And I got to see some of the family patterns that had echoed down through the generations, and to understand that I was not just a man alone in the world, but also a link in the family chain.
I had the privilege of working with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. She is best known for her work with patients with catastrophic illnesses who were dying. She would say that, “When we can’t increase the quantity of someone’s life, we can increase the quality of it.”
She told me about one patient she was working with, and Elisabeth came into her room and said, “Is there anything I can do for you today?” And the patient said, “Yes Elisabeth, there is.” And Elisabeth said “Oh! What?” And the woman said, “Go away!”
Elisabeth said she went out in the other room, and she felt crushed. She had only wanted to ‘help’ this person. And she said, “Wait a minute! What’s going on here? I asked, and this woman gave me a perfectly ‘okay’ request. Why am I feeling so upset!?” And she thought for a moment and said, “I think I just learned that when I have hurt feelings like this, a little red flag goes up and says to me, ‘Elisabeth, you have some unfinished business to take care of! This person just helped you see that it’s in this area, and you need to take a look at it!”
Like Elisabeth, I think there are lots of those little red flags that come up for us, … especially working in human services, or actually just working with other people who we want to help. Knowing what’s ‘my stuff’, and what’s ‘their stuff’, … is very helpful and important.
Those little red flags come up all the time in our relationships, and that’s where our commitment to self-growth comes in. It helps when we are aware of the opportunities those flags provide for us, so we can say, “I’m gonna take a look at what’s going on here! Even if I have to wait until later today, I want to figure out what’s going on inside of me, because when I do, … I’m better able to be more clear with the people I’m trying to help. I can’t teach what I don’t know!”
Thanks for stopping by. Please share any of my posts that might be helpful to someone you know.
Peter Alsop’s SONGS TO CHEW Audio podcasts
Thanks for reading Peter Alsop’s Substack! This post is public so feel free to share it.
Click here to see All of Peter’s albums!
To send me a comment, you can sign in as a Substack member by clicking the button above. It’s free, but you can always email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you! You don’t have to be a ‘paid’ subscriber to get my posts. Everyone gets ‘em, … some folks send in money to support my work. In either case, glad you’re here! Thanks for spreading the word!
Peter’s Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, please consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.
Get full access to Peter Alsop’s Substack at peteralsop.substack.com/subscribe
262 episodes
All episodes
×
Welcome to Player FM!
Player FM is scanning the web for high-quality podcasts for you to enjoy right now. It's the best podcast app and works on Android, iPhone, and the web. Signup to sync subscriptions across devices.
Similar to Peter Alsop‘s SONGS TO CHEW
Everyone has a dream. But sometimes there’s a gap between where we are and where we want to be. True, there are some people who can bridge that gap easily, on their own, but all of us need a little help at some point. A little boost. An accountability partner. A Snooze Squad. In each episode, the Snooze Squad will strategize an action plan for people to face their fears. Guests will transform their own perception of their potential and walk away a few inches closer to who they want to become ...
…
continue reading
Are you looking for more happiness, success and vitality in your life? Get inspired each week with wellness and performance expert, Integrative Medicine Fellow, author & keynote speaker, Kristel Bauer. Live Greatly shares empowering conversations and insights about happiness, wellness & success to support your personal and professional development. Kristel talks with top experts, leaders and inspiring individuals to help you embrace a growth mindset and excel in your work/life. Kristel then ...
…
continue reading
Named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation and one of Inc.'s 500 fastest growing companies, Marie Forleo's goal is to help you become the person you most want to be. In this show, Marie and her guests share actionable strategies for greater happiness, success, motivation, creativity, productivity, love, health, contribution and fulfillment — often with a lot of laughs. From business, marketing and career advice, to tackling failure, disappointment and fear, to philanthropy an ...
…
continue reading
Self Improvement Daily is the most consistent and value-packed podcast in the space. Every episode is specifically created to help busy, purpose-driven leaders acquire the ideas, structure, clarity, and perspective they need to maximize their potential and impact. Featuring a new 3-5 minute tip every weekday, biweekly expert interviews, never missing a day for the last 7.5 years, and having earned 21.4 million downloads to date - This is your path toward becoming the successful, impactful, a ...
…
continue reading
An award-winning cannabis podcast for women, by women. Hear joyful stories and useful advice about cannabis for health, well-being, and fun—especially for needs specific to women like stress, sleep, and sex. We cover everything from: What’s the best weed for sex? Can I use CBD for menstrual cramps? What are the effects of the Harlequin strain or Gelato strain? And, why do we prefer to call it “cannabis” instead of “marijuana”? We also hear from you: your first time buying legal weed, and how ...
…
continue reading
Larry Wilson is an Emmy nominated performer, producer, writer, and 2017 Comedy Magician of the Year, who synthesized his long history in show business into a powerful training system called The Wilson Method. As a successful TV Star and Communications Expert, Larry Wilson, shares his secrets to quality & clear communication. Every week a new episode takes the listener into another level of training where he/she can find success in business & relationships through better communication skills.
…
continue reading
You can't save your way to your dream life anymore. The truth is, you’re gonna need to learn to make more money. The Travis Makes Money Podcast is not your typical personal finance show. Rather than shaming you for buying a Starbucks coffee or pressuring you to become a billionaire, we focus on empowering you to make more money so you can enjoy life today while preparing for your future. You don’t have to cut back so much that you miss out on the present, and you don’t need to become the nex ...
…
continue reading
Being positive is up to you. When you understand how your mind works, you really can create the life you desire. The Be Positive Podcast is your weekly reminder that no matter what you're going through, there’s always a reason to stay hopeful, stay focused, and stay positive. Through real talk, uplifting messages, and personal stories from listeners around the world, I'll help you tap into your inner strength, shift your mindset, and see life from a brighter perspective. Whether it’s finding ...
…
continue reading
Welcome to Almost 30—a supportive space to fuel your conscious evolution. Join us, best friends Krista Williams + Lindsey Simcik, for heart-centered, hilarious conversations and raw, impactful interviews with brilliant guests. We dive deep into everything from modern spirituality and health + wellness to self-development, dating, and relationships. With every episode, our mission is to empower you, expand what you think is possible, and make you laugh—a lot. We’re honest, open, and above all ...
…
continue reading
In For Scores, host Jon Burlingame takes listeners on a magical journey into the world of film and television composers, revealing never-before-heard special moments behind many of today's most beloved scores. This season, you'll hear personal stories from the composers of Marvel Studios Avengers and Pixar's Toy Story films, Captain Marvel, Coco, Ralph Breaks the Internet, and so much more!
…
continue reading
Player FM - Podcast App
Go offline with the Player FM app!
Go offline with the Player FM app!
