You say you want a healthy, godly love… but part of you still expects to be abandoned.
That’s your trauma identity—the version of you that learned love through pain.
Your God-given identity already knows you’re chosen, covered, and complete.

In this episode, I’m walking you through how to recognize the difference and start shifting today:

✨ What the trauma identity sounds like (fear, control, over-giving)
✨ What your identity in Christ actually says about you
✨ 4 practical steps to start walking in your true identity:
1️⃣ Ask ChatGPT to pull 10 Bible verses on your identity in Christ → read them in your Bible
2️⃣ Memorize 2–3 and speak them out loud daily
3️⃣ Invite Jesus in: “Lord, help me see myself the way You see me”
4️⃣ Audit your love-life behaviors → where are you settling, performing, or negotiating your worth?
Then pray, breathe, and let Him meet you in the moment.

When you stop living from the trauma identity and start living from your God-given identity, everything in your love life changes—because you finally stop fighting to be chosen and start living like you already are.

Scriptures Referenced: John 10:10 | 2 Corinthians 5:17 | 1 Peter 2:9 | Romans 12:2 | 1 John 4:19

NEXT STEP:
Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women trade the trauma identity for their God-given one—so they can experience love that’s safe, secure, and Spirit-led.

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