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More Like You is One!

October is a milestone month: I turned 51, More Like You turned one, and my memoir Girl in the Spotlight turned two.

In this birthday-themed episode, author Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming joins me to reframe birthdays as a personal holiday—a spiritual, reflective day that belongs to you.

Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming is the author of How to Have a Happy Birthday, an award-winning book and companion workbook, and a birthday coach. If you love your birthday, dread it, or feel complicated about it, this conversation offers a grounded way to plan a day that’s meaningful and designed just for you.

What we cover:

• Birthdays as a personal new year and a spiritual day that’s truly yours
• The difference between outsourcing birthday joy vs. taking ownership
• “Birthday Eve,” simple spiritual rituals, and creating a birthday altar
• Navigating expectations, surprises, and party pressure (including guest lists)
• Helping kids choose celebrations that fit their personalities
• What to do when your birthday falls on a holiday
• Aging, visibility, and shifting the cultural narrative around getting older
• Grief, heavy seasons, and how to honor your day when life is complicated
• Planning ahead for your birthday (like a real holiday) without over-engineering the joy

Timestamps:

• 00:00 Tamar’s opening reflection: why birthdays are spiritual
• 00:21 Angie’s milestone month + why this episode matters
• 03:11 From forgotten birthdays to taking charge of the day
• 07:27 What makes a birthday “spiritual” (signs, alignment, reflection)
• 13:17 Party pressure, social dynamics, and receiving vs. hosting
• 17:05 Self-sabotage, mixed signals, and owning what you want
• 20:22 Rituals: Birthday Eve, altars, morning grounding
• 23:50 Aging with pride; shifting the narrative
• 25:20 Asking for what you want (and still leaving room for surprise)
• 36:34 Holiday birthdays and carving out space
• 38:52 The workbook, deeper questions, and treating your day as a portal
• 40:39 Where to find Tamar + her resources

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You can learn more about Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming and find her book at howtohaveahappybirthday.com

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