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Why We Date The Same Type Again
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Ever catch yourself describing a new partner and hear echoes of your ex? We dive into why dating déjà vu happens and how to change it for good, blending psychology, brain science, and the realities of modern apps to map a path toward healthier love.
We start with attachment theory—the blueprint formed in early caregiving that shapes how we seek closeness, handle conflict, and read signals of safety. From there, we unpack repetition compulsion and the familiarity principle, revealing how the mind prefers known dynamics, even when they hurt. Cognitive biases like confirmation and optimism bias quietly steer us back to the same traits, while the brain’s drive for efficiency keeps us on autopilot. That “this feels like home” sensation can be a cue that you’re stepping into an old script, not a sign of true compatibility.
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Chapters
1. Realizing The Dating Déjà Vu (00:00:00)
2. Attachment Theory As The Blueprint (00:00:31)
3. Repetition Compulsion Explained (00:01:10)
4. Familiarity Principle And Biases (00:02:06)
5. Evolution And The App Algorithm Trap (00:03:22)
6. Steps To Break The Cycle (00:04:36)
7. Core Takeaways And Next Moves (00:05:30)
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