E431 INNER VOICE – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan In this powerful and emotional episode, Dr. Foojan Zane sits down with Pamela Henry, author of Soul Custody: Sparing Children from Divorce, to explore the truths no one tells parents about divorce, its lifelong impact on children, the hidden wounds that follow families for years, and the spiritual and emotional awakening that emerged from Pamela’s own regrets. Pamela opens up about her experience as a supervised visitation expert, a mother, and a woman healing from childhood trauma and a painful divorce. Together, they uncover the deep psychological, emotional, and spiritual layers behind escapist marriages, generational trauma, co-parenting mistakes, spiritual awakening, and accountability after divorce. Whether you’re navigating marriage, divorce, parenting, or emotional healing, this episode offers raw insight, compassion, and profound guidance for anyone seeking truth, clarity, and hope. ⏱️ CLICKABLE TIMESTAMPS (Curated from the Transcript) 00:00 – Welcome to Inner Voice with Dr. Foojan 00:39 – Introducing Pamela Henry & Soul Custody 02:10 – How Pamela’s divorce sparked her book 05:14 – Staying “for the kids” vs. creating a toxic home 08:45 – Emotional affairs, escapist marriage & hidden pain 11:58 – Divorce regret & how it impacts children long-term 14:42 – Supervised visitation: what children really experience 17:15 – Anxiety, sadness & the emotional cost of back-and-forth custody 20:22 – Childhood trauma research & Judith Wallerstein’s findings 22:40 – Faith, spiritual awakening & turning to God through pain 26:02 – Infidelity, accountability & the absence of spiritual grounding 29:13 – The role of friends: learning marriage vs. learning divorce 31:20 – Why parents overlook the child’s emotional attachment to BOTH parents 34:05 – Toxic divorce cases Pamela witnessed in visitation work 36:30 – The universal emotional impact on children—no matter the severity 38:10 – How regret transformed into healing & the writing of Soul Custody 40:12 – Can rushed divorces be avoided? Instagram illusions of “better lives” 42:20 – Childhood wounds married into adult relationships 44:00 – Forgiveness from her daughters & ex-husband 45:25 – Realizing she expected her spouse to do what only God or inner work could 47:08 – Faith, self-accountability & healing without religion 48:10 – Advice to parents: Examine your past before choosing divorce 49:20 – Where to find Pamela Henry & SoulCustody.com 49:55 – Closing message from Dr. Foojan 💬 EPISODE SUMMARY – In this intimate and deeply revealing conversation, Dr. Foojan and Pamela Henry dive into the emotional and spiritual realities of divorce that most parents only recognize too late. Pamela shares her painful journey—from childhood abuse and emotional wounds to infidelity, escapist marriage, and the grief of realizing her divorce caused emotional harm to her children. They explore how divorce affects kids regardless of age or circumstance, including anxiety, sadness, divided loyalty, time loss, and the burden of going back and forth between homes. Drawing on her work in supervised visitation, Pamela explains how even in dangerous or toxic marriages, children still grieve the absence of a parent and carry long-term emotional scars. Dr. Foojan expands the conversation to include both spiritual healing and psychological self-examination, highlighting how unhealed trauma, unmet expectations, and lack of accountability often drive couples to divorce instead of growth. They discuss how surrounding yourself with the right role models—those who repaired their marriages, not just those who left—shapes the path you take. Pamela describes her spiritual awakening during divorce, realizing she never brought God—or any form of higher accountability—into her marriage. She shares how writing Soul Custody allowed her to heal, reconnect with her daughters, and even receive unexpected forgiveness from her ex-husband. This episode is a powerful guide for anyone facing marital struggles, healing childhood wounds, or seeking to spare their children from avoidable trauma. It is filled with truth, vulnerability, and the wisdom gained from looking deeply within. 🔖 HASHTAGS & KEYWORDS #DivorceHealing #CoParenting #SoulCustody #PamelaHenry #DrFoojan #InnerVoicePodcast #ChildhoodTrauma #SupervisedVisitation #MarriageAdvice #FaithAndHealing #ParentingThroughDivorce #EmotionalHealing #FamilyTherapy #AwarenessIntegration #DivorceRegret