In this episode, Lexy brings on, Ben, also known as "The Fear Guy." Ben's mission is to help people befriend and snuggle fear instead of simply overcoming or fighting it. They discuss the process of moving through fear and how it's something we all go through. Ben also shares his journey and what sparked his passion for fear. He touches on how fear showed up with his wife and fatherhood. Tune in to learn how to embrace and snuggle fear in your own life.

Golden Nuggets From This Episode:

✨"I'm fear snuggler."

✨"Once you do the thing you're afraid of, that's when you become free."

✨"We see all these people facing their fears. And I got this and you go to do it. And then you fail. And they're like, see, I can't do this. And you just do the story. And o I love that like inch by inch is definitely the way and just being bringing that compassion because the fear really needs your own compassion."

✨"This is the complete opposite of just being messed up in the head versus being so embodied."

✨"There's all these little things that you might be doing that you don't even realize like, that's contributing because I'm afraid of being seen like fully seen for like who I am."

✨"And the intuition is soft, it's peaceful, it's safe, but it can still be exciting. It can be expansive, it can be opening of the heart versus fear"

✨"Each unique love is its own piece of art and it's not gonna look the same. It's not like, if you feel this, that means that it's like you really have to tap into your own body, like you're saying and navigate and discover. And honestly, most of the times we're not even familiar with, is this fear or is this my intuition? And, is this person actually bad for me? Or am I just trying to run away? And I like how you said that, is exciting."

✨"And that's what how I reparent myself again, how my son's helped me by validating his emotions so I can validate my own, it's cool how through parenting, we can reparent."

✨ You don't have to wait. If you're a dad or soon to be dad or will be a dad in the future of, you don't have to wait until to get involved."

✨"Because you love this person so much. You literally abandon yourself, right? That's even biologically right is like you will give your life for this little human, which is amazing."

✨"So when you jump in, it's like immediately the gift is there. I get why I had this desire and why I want this. So I love that."

Connect More with Ben Harris:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/the.fear.guy/

Website: https://www.feeling-free.com/fear-alchemy

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheFearGuy

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Timestamps from episode:

• 01:30 Overcoming fear by befriending it
• 04:41 Fear fighters and personal
• 05:21 Embrace fear, don't avoid it.growth
• 07:03 Sharing your true self
• 12:09 Opening up in relationships
• 14:12 Fear of commitment in relationships
• 16:30 Importance of self-love and awareness
• 18:09 Fear of intimacy and self-sabotage
• 19:15 Retreat Ad
• 21:04 Trauma's influence on relationships
• 25:28 More freedom in commitment
• 27:03 Importance of vulnerability in relationships
• 28:46 Choosing unavailable partners for freedom
• 31:18 Parenting is a transformative experience
• 32:02 Becoming dads and feeling useless
• 36:27 Parenting and personal growth
• 39:41 Holding space and trauma response
• 42:57 Quitting a job to pursue dreams