21 - Let's Get Physical: The Art Of Escalation Dads Dating After Divorce podcast

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21 - Let's Get Physical: The Art Of Escalation

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If touch has felt confusing after divorce—too fast, too formal, or just plain awkward—this conversation gives you a clear path from grounded presence to real chemistry. Jude and Dallas unpack the missing link many men never learned: how to make physical contact a normal, human bridge to connection long before it turns romantic. You’ll hear why American men often oversexualize touch, how to rebuild it as a confident, everyday skill, and how that foundation makes dates feel safer, smoother, and far more attractive.
We dive into the two pillars that change everything: physical certainty and emotional certainty. Physical certainty comes from living in your body—sports, drills, hard training, and experiences that teach control and power. Emotional certainty is steadiness under pressure: the ability to hold your own desire without needing immediate validation. Together, they create the calm energy that signals safety and leadership, whether you’re offering a first hug, guiding through a crowd, or placing a steady hand on a forearm to anchor a point.
From there, we shift into arousal with clarity. No sneaking, no mixed messages. Learn how transparent intent turns “creepy” into compelling, why consent is the floor and mutual desire is the goal, and how to read the simple metric behind all cues: is she leaning in or leaning away? We cover pacing (planting seeds and letting anticipation work), using statements instead of permission-seeking questions, and the classic 90% lean that invites her last 10%. You’ll also get practical lines and moves—like closing the gap with a playful “You’re a little too far away”—plus how to treat every cool reaction as feedback, not failure.
If you’ve wondered when to escalate, how to avoid overthinking consent, or how to build attraction without alcohol and awkwardness, this episode lays out the steps. Practice nonsexual touch daily, show up grounded on dates, signal desire openly, and escalate with care and courage. Want to go deeper and practice in real life? Join Dallas’s field work sessions or connect with Jude for post-divorce coaching. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more dads find their footing and their spark.

Chapters

1. 21 - Let's Get Physical: The Art Of Escalation (00:00:00)

2. Setting The Stage: Touch Matters (00:00:39)

3. Why Men Struggle With Nonsexual Touch (00:01:50)

4. Practicing Presence With Other Men (00:09:29)

5. Safety, Certainty, And First-Date Touch (00:18:15)

6. Physical And Emotional Certainty Explained (00:28:39)

7. Everyday Practice Amid Busy Lives (00:39:54)

8. From Safety To Arousal: Intentional Escalation (00:48:20)

9. Reading Cues: Encourage Or Discourage (00:59:04)

10. Words, Tension, And Timing (01:07:14)

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