Conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. The scars of childhood trauma don’t fade away. The roots go deep. This trauma can wrap tentacles around every aspect of life, pushing and pulling us according to its will. These stories of harm have been hard wired into our brain. Yet, we don’t see the connection of childhood trauma and current day pain because it has been with us as far back as we can recall. We don’t realize this trauma is the source of our strug ...
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Episode 175 | Where We Find Ourselves | Sher Interviews Kandace
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28:34In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start 2-part series on sharing where they find themselves on their healing journey. Listen in as Sher interviews Kandace on today’s episode. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the success of this po…
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Episode 174 | Attachment Wounding Wrap-Up with Sher
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19:54In today’s solo episode, Sher concludes a series on attachment woundings and our attachment styles. Having earned secure attachments in our life is the goal to flourishing. Listen in and reach out for help if you’re ready to start the healing journey. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. You…
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Episode 173 | The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Wound
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28:00In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their conversation around attachment styles and woundings. The fearful avoidant wounding puts a person in a bind of longing for closeness in the relationship and fearing closeness when it comes. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss their experience with this particular attachment wounding. If you have …
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Episode 172 | Interview with Therapist Lisa on Attachment | Part 2
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21:18In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their interview on attachment with their dear friend Lisa. Lisa is a licensed therapist in the Chicago area. Her understanding of attachment wounds and healing helps has not only brought healing into her own life, but that of her clients. Lisa is available for online clients. If you have a chance, pleas…
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Episode 171 | Interview with Therapist Lisa on Attachment
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20:54In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their dear friend Lisa. Lisa is a licensed therapist in the Chicago area. Her understanding of attachment wounds and healing has not only brought healing into her own life, but that of her clients. Lisa is available for online clients. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your p…
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Episode 170 | Designed For Connection: Anxious Attachment Wound
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24:32In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around attachment wounds that lead us to our attachment styles. Having an anxious attachment wound comes when a child experiences the unpredictability of their needs being met. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss Part 3 of being designed for connection. If you have a chance, please ra…
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Episode 169 | Designed For Connection: Avoidant Attachment Wound
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21:48In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around attachment wounds that lead us to our attachment styles. Having an avoidant attachment wound comes when a child experiences repeated rejection around their needs being met. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discus part two of being designed for connection. If you have a chance, pleas…
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Episode 168 | Designed for Connection: Secure Attachment
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22:34In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher make their way back to one of their favorite topics. Understanding our attachment wounds, how they developed, and how to heal them is changing peoples’ lives every single day. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what it means and feels like to live with a secure attachment. If you have a chance, please rate an…
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Episode 167 | The Brokenhearted - Blessing Our Good Desires
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24:50In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their discussion on the topic of brokenheartedness. Most often, underneath our broken heart is the pain of needs not being met. Listen in as Kandace and Sher explain how blessing our good desires can help us ask for what we need in ways that both protect ourselves and others. If you have a chance, please…
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Episode 166 | The Brokenhearted - Anger & Desire
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22:32In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of brokenheartedness. In a recent experience of brokenheartedness, Kandace processes how anger helped her slow down and listen for what she needed. Listen in as Kandace and Sher explain how working with our parts helps bring relief to the burdens we carry. If you have a…
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Episode 165 | The Brokenheartedness We Carry
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21:36In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a three-part series around the topic of brokenheartedness. Often times in life we experience heartbreak from a very young age, even from the womb. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to care for the parts of us who carry the weight of being brokenhearted. If you have a chance, please rate a…
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Episode 164 | Group Retreat & IFS | Building Relationships
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18:56In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their discussion around the positive impact IFS can have in relationships and group dynamics. When we understand that every person has parts that show up in relationships in different ways, we can be curious and seek to understand more. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss why they love using IFS as a …
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Episode 163 | Group Retreat & IFS | Sher's Experience
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18:55In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process their time together at a recent group retreat. Through the lens of IFS, we can notice when we get triggered and seek the repair we need in order to feel safe again. Listen in as Kandace talks with Sher about Sher’s experience of being triggered during the retreat and the beauty of bringing it to the grou…
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Episode 162 | Group Retreat & IFS | Kandace's Experience
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23:40In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process their time together at a recent group retreat. Through the lens of IFS, we can notice when we get triggered and seek the repair we need in order to feel safe again. Listen in as Sher talks with Kandace about Kandace’s experience of being triggered during the retreat and the beauty of bringing it to the g…
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Episode 161 | The Healing Power of With-ness
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16:11In today’s episode, Sher discusses what with-ness means on this journey of healing from childhood trauma. Listen in and be sure to reach out if you need support to start your own healing journey. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the …
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Episode 160 | Interview With Laurie Proctor | IFS & Integration
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25:20In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their friend and mentor Laurie Proctor. Laurie is trained and certified in many different modalities, but in these next few episodes, we will be discussing how IFS helps us heal and unburden the pain we’ve lived in that stems from childhood wounds. In this episode, we discuss what it means to heal and …
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Episode 159 | Interview With Laurie Proctor | IFS & Coping Behavior Patterns
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36:36In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their friend and mentor Laurie Proctor. Laurie is trained and certified in many different modalities, but in these next few episodes, we will be discussing how IFS helps us heal and unburden the pain we’ve lived in that stems from childhood wounds. In this episode, Laurie leads us into a powerful discu…
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Episode 158 | Interview With Laurie Proctor | IFS Therapy
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29:56In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their friend and mentor Laurie Proctor. Laurie is trained and certified in many different modalities, but in these next few episodes, we will be discussing how IFS helps us heal and unburden the pain we’ve lived in that stems from childhood wounds. Listen in as Kandace and Sher take part in this beauti…
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Episode 157 | Beyond the Shame: Rediscovering Me | Part Two
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21:50In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a two-part series focusing on discovering who we are as the layers of shame are pealed back, and we begin to see and believe who we are in our God-created image. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss their journeys of living a life free of the shame that binds us to old patterns. If you have a chance, pl…
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Episode 156 | Beyond the Shame: Rediscovering Me | Part One
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19:06In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a two-part series focusing on discovering who we are as the layers of shame are pealed back, and we begin to see and believe who we are in our God-created image. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss their journeys of living a life free of the shame that blinds us to old patterns. If you have a chance, ple…
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Episode 155 | River of Desire: With You Now
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16:44In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss Kandace’s experience with the shame of believing something was wrong with her in her teenage years. Understanding our stories as a child can help us have compassionate understanding of how we showed up in the world as a teenager. Listen in as Sher is with Kandace as she processes her relationship to sham…
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Episode 154 | River of Desire: Overcoming Shame
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19:12In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to know that we have everything we need to be okay. If we can just imagine ourselves in a river of desire where all we need is contained within the banks of the river, we can rest. Listen in as Kandace and Sher bring more light to the goodness of our desires. If you have a chance, please ra…
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Episode 153 | When Shame Brings Dysregulation | Interview with Coach Patria
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29:39In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of shame. Join Kandace and Sher is their Coach Patria Diehl Rector with The Broken and Beautiful. Listen in to this compassionate and thoughtful discussion about shame and how we heal. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming…
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Episode 152 | A War On Shame | Interview with Coach Patria
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24:01In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of shame. Join Kandace and Sher is their Coach Patria Diehl Rector with The Broken and Beautiful. Listen in to this compassionate and thoughtful discussion about shame and how we heal. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming…
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Episode 151 | How Shame Lies To Us And the Truth Sets Us Free
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22:42In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series of war on shame. When the lies of shame come into the light through the power of real love, freedom comes to our souls. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss their journey out of shame and into freedom. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming se…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussions focused on a war on shame. With a desire to heal shame, we have to be able to locate it in our stories and our bodies. Listen in as Kandace engages Sher’s story of how shame came up for her in a group setting, and how the response of those in the group brought more healing to her soul.…
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Episode 149 | How Shame Feels In Our Bodies
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20:45In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a series of discussions focused on a war on shame. With a desire to heal shame, we have to be able to locate it in our stories and our bodies. Listen in as Kandace and Sher process how shame feels in the body and how love is the antidote. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your pr…
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Episode 148 | Freedom From the Grips of Shame
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23:50In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher revisit the topic of shame. Can you recall the first time you experienced feelings of being bad, or that something was wrong with you? Listen in as Kandace and Sher cast a vision of what it would be like to live in a body free of shame. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred …
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Episode 147 | Reflections On Being A Woman Of Desire
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22:24In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap of their series on being women of desire. Healing from childhood trauma means connecting with our good desires for our own life and the lives of others. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss their thoughts on this important topic! If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred s…
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Episode 146 | Women of Desire: Question Three - Kandace's Answer
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20:12In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we end up in an internal war with our desires. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss the answers to Sher’s third question in this series around desire. If y…
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Episode 145 | Women of Desire: Question Three - Sher's Answer
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25:30In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we end up in an internal war with our desires. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss the answers to Sher’s third question in this series around desire. If y…
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Episode 144 | Women of Desire: Question Two
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20:36In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we end up in an internal war with our desires. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss the answers to Sher’s second question in this series around desire. If …
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Episode 143 | Women of Desire: Question One
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23:58In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we end up in an internal war with our desires. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss the answers to Sher’s second question in this series around desire. If you…
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Episode 142 | On Desire: Needy Women - Pt. 2
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15:27In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a discussion on what it means to be a woman of desire. Before we can know what we desire, we have to come to terms with the truth that have needs beyond survival. Listen in as Kandace and Sher invite their listeners to one of their favorite topics! If you have a chance, please rate and review this podca…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher begin a series of discussions on what it means to be a woman of desire. Before we can know what we desire, we have to come to terms with the truth that have needs beyond survival. Listen in as Kandace and Sher invite their listeners to one of their favorite topics! If you have a chance, please rate and review th…
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Episode 140 | On Being Connected To Our Body | Part Three
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19:03On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher bring their final episode in a three-part series on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we can become disconnected from the messages of our body in order to survive. Listen in as Kandace and Sher introduce a topic that is gaining more needed attention in o…
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Episode 139 | On Being Connected To Our Body | Part Two
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18:00On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher bring part two on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we can become disconnected from the messages of our body in order to survive. Listen in as Kandace and Sher introduce a topic that is gaining more needed attention in our culture. If you have a chance, …
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Episode 138 | On Being Connected To Our Body
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18:21On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a three-part series on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we can become disconnected from the messages of our body in order to survive. Listen in as Kandace and Sher introduce a topic that is gaining more needed attention in our culture. If you have…
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Episode 137 | Invitation To Wild Womanhood
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16:10In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start off the New Year (And Sher’s birthday) with big hope to lean into what it means to be a wild woman in the year 2025 and beyond. You don’t want to miss this beautiful invitation to embrace the glory of who you are and what it means to live your life wild and free. If you have a chance, please rate and revie…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up 2024 talking about dreaming. The more we heal, the more we dream. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what they are dreaming about as they also invite their listeners to dream as well. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extrem…
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In today’s episode Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of grieving as they close out the year 2024. Facing our grief, feeling our grief, and releasing our grief is our pathway to healing and receiving the comfort we need. Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about their own grief journeys and the beauty of having others be with us in our grief. If you…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to release those things in our lives that no longer reflect the truth of who we are. As 2025 approaches, listen in and use these three questions as a means to your growth, transformation, and ongoing freedom! If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred stream…
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Episode 133 | End of the Year: Reflections
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20:07In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a 4-part end of the year series focusing on different topics and questions to take you into the new year. Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about the importance of talking the time to reflect on where you’ve been and how far you’ve come along on your healing journey. If you have a chance, please rate and …
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher carve out time to express what they are currently grateful for. Going into the holidays usually holds a mix of emotions for most people, but holding onto what we are grateful for is one way we can be kind to ourselves and our communities. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferre…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss a recent group retreat they attended in Omaha, Nebraska. Though most people start their healing journey with one on one care, Kandace and Sher talk about the power of having many voices speak into your life, helping you see the beauty of who you are. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podc…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their group discussion around the topic of self-contempt. Self-contempt is a painful emotion where we turn against ourselves and struggle to know our worth. Listen in and hear how the power of kindness disrupts our healing journey so we can finally learn to love ourselves. If you have a chance, please r…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a group discussion around the topic of trauma bounds. Understanding the nature of our connections with others can help us know if there are changes we want to move towards. Listen in as more clarity is brought to what we can do if we find ourselves in a trauma bond. If you have a chance, please rate and…
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In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher have the privilege of interviewing three women who are on a mission to help other women heal from childhood trauma, and current-day trauma. Understanding differentiation will be helpful in accessing the health of your most intimate relationships. Listen in to this insightful conversation from women who are heali…
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Episode 127 | How We Heal Generational Trauma
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18:46In today’s episode, Kandace interviews Sher about her journey of the healing generational trauma from childhood abuse. Sharing our stories of harm with safe people who can give us the care we need is essential when healing from childhood trauma. Listen in as Sher allows us to hear more about her healing journey. If you have a chance, please rate an…
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Episode 126 | Why We Heal Generational Trauma
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20:19In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of healing generational trauma. The courage it’s takes to tell the truth is a gift we can give to future generations. Listen in as Kandace and Sher give hope to those who are on the healing journey. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming servi…
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