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(Replay) Bikies, Domestic Violence and Sex Work: How Nicole Escaped Death
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51:45JOIN THE PATREON: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking By the age of 10, Nicole was already weighing drugs for bikies at clubhouses. She experienced child abuse from a young age and had no family or friends surrounding her. This led Nicole to put her trust in the wrong hands, becoming the victim of a horrific crime in high school. Years later, she …
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When Birth Trauma Leads to Drug Dependence
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37:16Trigger warning: This episode contains discussion of suicide, substance abuse, postnatal depression, and birth trauma. "I was just an average mum from Byron Bay" were the words that Ninny wrote to me in despair. After her second child, postnatal depression, lack of support and two traumatic birth experiences led her down an unexpected path: prescri…
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Yasmine Part One: The Day SWAT Surrounded Me
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39:16JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking Yasmine grew up in a loving home in New Zealand and never really encountered drugs. But even in a great childhood, trauma can exist. In high school, Yasmine was sexually assaulted, an experience that shaped her early choices. In her early to mid-twenties, she moved to Australia with a new part…
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What Lies Beneath Addiction? with Trauma Specialist Drew Wild
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1:00:33Have you ever asked yourself what was really at the core of your addiction? Trauma specialist and co-dependency coach Drew Wild joins me to ask the questions we often avoid.What was my addiction helping me cope with?What came before the substance?How do we start to heal the root cause, not just the behaviour?Many people believe that if they don’t h…
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Abused by His Own Family Before He Could Walk: Tyson
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40:47Tyson was abused by his mother and her partner when he was just 12 months old. The abuse was so severe he had to be resuscitated. After that, he was placed in the care of his maternal grandmother with his older brother, but soon after, child protection separated them. When Tyson was seven, he found his grandmother dead and was once again passed to …
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Sex Work, Cults & Binge Eating: Bianca's Story
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45:20Trigger warning: This episode discusses eating disorders, substance abuse, domestic violence and pregnancy loss. Bianca is a full-service sex worker addicted to feeling good. When she works, the urge for alcohol and drugs disappears, but for as long as she can remember, she has been chasing dopamine through binge eating, ice addiction, or sex. In t…
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Cooper Chapman: Life After a Year Off Alcohol
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41:39He’s an ex–pro surfer. The biggest DJ in the world is in his family. And he’s one of the few people I’ve spoken to who took a full year off drinking… then chose to go back. But that year changed everything for Cooper Chapman. Cooper doesn’t demonise alcohol, he just has a completely different relationship with it now. After losing people close to h…
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Kacey’s Partner Wanted to Kill Her: Surviving Domestic Violence
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39:21Would you recognise the early signs of domestic violence? Kacey Jackson grew up in a lower socioeconomic town with an alcoholic father and was never shown what a healthy relationship or boundaries looked like. After being love bombed by a new partner, she found herself trapped in a violent relationship just three months later. One night, after five…
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How to Help Without Enabling: Addiction Coach Conrad Tracey
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55:01Conrad Tracey joins me again on the podcast, this time in the studio. He’s an addiction coach whose own story of transformation shapes the way he helps others break free from dependency. We talked about what it takes to become an addiction coach, the emotional challenges of working with people in deep addiction, how families can support without e…
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“I Can’t Leave the Kids With You” Justine on OCD, Perimenopause & Sobriety
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50:49For as long as she can remember, Justine Santowiak's OCD was the driving force behind her behaviour. But it wasn’t until she was 45 that she finally got a diagnosis. One day, scrolling through social media, she came across a clip of someone describing their own OCD and emetophobia, and for the first time in her life, she felt seen. After 45 years, …
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Living on the Streets & Sleeping on Trains: Wayne’s Story
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51:30Wayne lost everything to drugs, his home, his family, and almost his mind. Growing up as one of four boys, he prided himself on being the last man standing when it came to drink. But once drugs entered his life, everything changed. He spiralled into psychosis for days, ran through national parks convinced people were after him, spent time in multip…
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Silencing Food Noise and Sugar Addiction with Vanessa Kredler
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40:38Today I’m joined by Vanessa Kredler, a Sydney-based Counsellor and Psychotherapist who specialises in helping adults recover from food and sugar addiction, disordered eating, trauma, and other addictive behaviours. Vanessa combines her own lived experience with clinical expertise to guide people towards lasting recovery. In this conversation, Vanes…
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Trafficking, Death & Fugitive Life: Braiden Tonks
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1:07:25Braiden Tonks grew up in his father’s shadow, carrying a reputation for violence and anger. He leaned into that image to start selling party drugs in his hometown in Tasmania. After trying ice at an after-party, he quickly escalated to smuggling it across the Tasmania to Melbourne border. On one return trip, he was caught with $40k in cash on his b…
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How an App Helped Adriana Finally Quit Drinking
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31:15Adriana’s life has been shaped by alcohol since before she was born. Growing up with an alcoholic father who abused her mother, she always knew something was wrong, but it wasn’t until she confronted her parents that she discovered the full truth about her family. Her own drinking went unchecked for years, hidden behind constant travel and a busy l…
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Jeremy Donovan Grew Up With the Wrong Identity
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47:55Jeremy Donovan spent his whole life believing he was Māori. Orphaned young, he was whāngai’d (fostered) into a Māori family. But a court appearance for graffiti charges revealed the truth: he is Aboriginal. Suddenly, everything shifted. Who am I? Where do I belong? Especially when the only images of Aboriginal people in the media are negative? This…
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JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking Marni’s earliest memory is knowing she wasn’t in the right body. Born male and adopted from Ethiopia, she spent her childhood feeling like a stranger to herself. At 18, Marni had bottom surgery, transitioning from a man to a woman- believing it would finally make her feel complete. But the reli…
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Davey Lloyd: Straight off a Bender to The Bachelorette
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41:07JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking What happens when a party boy struggling with addiction goes on reality TV? Davey Lloyd was on Season One of The Bachelorette with Sam Frost — and in true Davey style, he showed up straight off a bender, going on to become one of the biggest kooks in Australia. Always feeling like he was living…
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Forced to Inhale Glen 20 Spray While Pregnant: Tracey-Lee
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55:12Tracey-Lee was only four years old when a male family member abused her. Throughout her childhood, the trauma was compounded by denial: She was told a version of events that didn’t match the truth she felt in her body. This rewriting of her reality left a deep and lasting fracture in her sense of self. By the time she reached adulthood, this broken…
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Shelley Was Brutally Attacked by a Stranger (Part 1)
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28:44JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking I don’t say this lightly, but this is one of those stories that stays with you for days, maybe even weeks. We begin with Shelley as a child, witnessing her older brother accidentally take his own life while they were playing. But somehow, that’s not the most traumatic part of her story. Shelley…
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Breaking the Cycle of Alcoholic Fathers: Zac Swanton
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41:05All Zac ever wanted was to be his dad’s best friend. As a kid, he longed for the kind of closeness he saw between his friends and their own fathers, but his own reality couldn’t have been more different. Zac was known as the outgoing, loveable party boy — traits that gave his addiction a nod of approval to continue. After eight overdoses, toxic rel…
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JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking Child sexual abuse has been touched on in a few of my past episodes, but in Manda’s story, it stretches across generations. For Manda, she was sexually abused at just five years old, at the hands of someone known to the family. Years later, she would face the unimaginable: walking in on her own…
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Tegan De Vil: Loving Your Partner in Addiction
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54:45When I sit across from my guests, they often share the darkest chapters of their past. But for Tegan, she’s living through it right now — in real time. Tegan and Jax are widely known for their hilarious, comedic videos that have earned them hundreds of thousands of followers across social media. So when Tegan posted a raw, emotional video — alone a…
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Taylor started sleeping with men when she was just 16 years old. From a young age, she was hanging around older boys for drugs and what began as one man to fund her addiction quickly escalated to posting herself on a sugar baby website. Taylor lives with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and currently has two parents in recovery. She hopes shar…
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Michael Lappin: The Comeback After Relapse
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35:16I've been following Michael Lappin on social media for a while now and even reached out to him when Soberly Speaking first launched, hoping to have him on as one of my guests. Weeks passed without a reply—until I came across a video where he shared he had relapsed. Michael's story, and this interview, really show how messy and non-linear addiction …
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How One Year Without Alcohol Changed Julia Vogl’s Life
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47:38Julia Vogl never identified with having a drinking problem, but she realised alcohol was holding her back and capping her potential. It’s a story so many can relate to, knowing something isn’t good for you, not being addicted to, yet continuously crawling back to it. Growing up confused about her sexuality and living with internalised homophobia, s…
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Fearing Sobriety More Than Death with Patrick Kennedy
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44:12Patrick’s struggle wasn’t just with alcohol and drugs, they were symptoms of a much deeper issue: his inability to sit with discomfort. For years, he convinced himself that, “Once my mental health is under control, I’ll stop drinking.” A lie I’m sure we’ve all told ourselves at some point. In the beginning, alcohol seemed like the solution, the onl…
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Join The Unspoken HERE: https://www.patreon.com/c/soberlyspeaking This is my most controversial episode to date — and it’s now live on The Unspoken, Soberly Speaking’s new membership on Patreon. After being abused by a family member as a child, Zoe’s life was chaos from early childhood. She fell into addiction young and remained trapped in a cycle …
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Andrew Moses grew up as a closeted Jewish gay boy, feeling immense pressure to be academically successful, marry a Jewish woman, and have Jewish children, all while battling the belief that something was fundamentally wrong with him. To fit in, he started using party drugs, masking his true identity and trying to convince everyone, including himsel…
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These are the stories people don’t believe until they hear them. The unimaginable lives. Told with courage, by some of the most resilient humans I’ve ever sat across from. This is The Unspoken. Starting this Thursday, 5th June, Thursday episodes become The Unspoken — and will live on Patreon. This isn’t about gatekeeping. It’s about survival. It’s …
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Last week, we heard from Tiana Wadsworth, and throughout her story, there was one name that kept coming up. Today, we meet him. As a kid, Klayton was infatuated with the drug addicts who hung around his local train station. While other kids looked away, Klayton felt drawn in. To him, they looked like his people. Mirroring someone close to him, Klay…
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Jacintha Survived 15 Years of DV, Now She Heals Families
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34:57Jacintha Field spent 15 years in a violent relationship, an experience that shaped her into the healer she is today. Her story is one so many can relate to, growing up feeling unseen and unheard, carrying deep-seated low self-worth into adulthood, and seeking escape in toxic relationships and substances. A recovering people-pleaser, she once tried …
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For Dean, addiction has always been about seeking pleasure, whether through sex, drugs, or alcohol. But it wasn’t until he quit alcohol and drugs that he and his therapist realised that sex was his primary addiction all along. His journey has been about breaking free from the need to constantly feel good, and today, he’s found peace in genuinely li…
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At just twenty years old, Molly is the youngest guest I’ve had on the show. She grew up in a stable home, surrounded by a loving family and parents who adored her. But everything shifted in high school; she started having sex, smoking weed daily, and taking Xanax regularly. On her 17th birthday, Molly urgently needed money to fund her new habit. A …
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For Ash Butterss, addiction was a constant pursuit of more: more thrill, more chaos, more ways to avoid the emptiness. It started with sugar in childhood, then alcohol at 12, and drugs by 14. She moved from one addiction to another, telling herself she didn’t have a problem as long as she had periods of sobriety. On the outside, her life looked imp…
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Escaping Prison Through a Skylight: Kyle Quilausing
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43:28Once dubbed Hawaii’s most wanted criminal, Kyle Quilausing was a golf prodigy by age 10, competing on the PGA World Tours alongside Tiger Woods. He had a full ride to America’s most prestigious colleges. But one split-second decision changed the course of his life. Addiction. Crime. A high-profile prison escape. Then, three years alone in solitary …
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Kate Forster on Losing a Parent to Alcoholism
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43:57You might know Kate Forster for her sharp TikTok opinions, but who was she before becoming a popular author and our favourite fashion critic? In this episode, we revisit Kate’s childhood, growing up with a father battling severe alcoholism. She shares how his struggles led to a suicide attempt, one she witnessed firsthand, and how alcohol ultimatel…
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Glen Fisher Was Abused and Abandoned (Part 2)
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27:23Welcome back to part two of Glen’s story. If you haven’t listened to part one yet, go back and catch up now. In today’s episode, we follow Glen as his girlfriend’s murder sends him spiralling into a 35-year heroin addiction. He tries to end his life—twice— and hear how jail, against all odds, became the best thing that ever happened to him. Today, …
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Glen Fisher Was Abused and Abandoned (Part 1)
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31:20Glen’s childhood was something no one should ever have to experience. His father was a predator, and his mother a heroin addict who later turned to alcohol. Throughout this two part interview you'll hear Glen be abused by many people- the first was being raped by a close family friend at just nine years old. one year later, he was already trying to…
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Affairs, Debt & Losing Her Home: Dionne’s Story
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41:03Dionne’s life was shaped by chaos from the start. She grew up with a father who drank heavily and cheated on her mother, and she was forced to move schools after relentless bullying. She was desperate to be loved by the time she met her ex-husband, He battled his own addictions, and together, their lives unraveled. Dionne lost her home in a fire, d…
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Jane Left Her Unhappy Marriage After Sobriety
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29:08Jane had the picture-perfect life—married, two kids, a white picket fence, and a home in a nice suburb. But behind closed doors, she was stuck in an unhappy marriage and secretly drowning in alcohol addiction, blacking out every night after finishing breastfeeding her youngest. Despite seeking help through therapy and AA, the cravings were relentle…
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David’s Manic Episode Led to $3 Million in Damages
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41:04I came across David on TikTok, where he’s known as Bipolarguylovinglife and he instantly caught my attention. Sitting in his car, talking to the camera about his ex-cocaine dealer, who he moved into his spare bedroom in hopes of getting a discount. I was hooked. For the first 27 years of his life, David’s world looked very different. He didn’t drin…
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Kara’s earliest memory is of her father’s addiction and the police at their home, trying to restore order. As she grew older, she found herself caught in a similar cycle; Xanax consuming her life, self-harm becoming routine, and her mother quietly preparing for her funeral. But everything changed the night she was sexually assaulted on a beach and …
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Dominique Elissa Plans to Be a Sober Bride
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35:22If you’ve been sitting on the fence about giving up alcohol, or even just taking an extended break, then this is the episode for you. Dominique Ellisa is going alcohol-free for 2025, and trust me, her energy around it is contagious. Going into this interview, I knew two things—Dom is a stunning model, and she’s committing to a year without alcohol.…
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Alcohol Kept Casey in a Codependent Relationship
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41:25Casey, a proud Aboriginal woman, used alcohol to mask her ADHD and autism, hiding her creative and quirky side for years. In this episode, she opens up about how alcohol became the foundation of her long-term, codependent relationship, which began to fall apart after a traumatic assault. She also shares a mind-blowing rule she set for herself aroun…
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Richard Galvan grew up in LA, born into a world of substance abuse, violence, selling drugs and gangs. He became an alcoholic at just 12 years old, which quickly spiralled into a heroin addiction before he understood the gravity of his situation. Richard experienced a sliding doors moment on Skid Row whilst doing crack cocaine, he chose to detox in…
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Maxi Shield is a Sober Drag Queen: The Untold Story
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41:35Maxi Shield has been a drag queen since the 90s, a true Sydney icon. You might’ve seen him perform on Oxford Street or caught him on RuPaul’s Drag Race Down Under. But in today’s episode, I want to introduce you to the unknown Maxi, the one who grew up with 12 siblings, lost his mum at just 10 years old, and endured regular beatings from a step-par…
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Alice Stole from Work to Fund Her Drinking
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32:47Alice openly shares her experience of applying for bankruptcy at just 20 years old, drowning in debt, and stealing from multiple jobs to fund her party lifestyle. After an abusive relationship and an unplanned pregnancy from a one-night stand, she then went on to meet her now partner, who gave her a final ultimatum. It was then that she finally beg…
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Working in construction can come with a heavy drinking culture, but for Liam, the pressure to drink was just one layer of his young life so far. In this episode, he opens up about his complicated relationship with his mother, experiencing homelessness, struggling with body image issues, and how he's finally found a sense of belonging at the gym. Ab…
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Who Am I Without Drinking? with Addiction Coach Conrad Tracey
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46:23I can't express how important this episode with Conrad Tracey is, an addiction coach, consultant, and mentor. But most importantly, Conrad is a former drug addict who speaks from experience. I ask Conrad some of the big questions around addiction and sobriety: Who am I without drinking? How can you approach a loved one struggling with drug or alcoh…
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Jade Was 21 When She Slipped into Drug-Induced Psychosis
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41:10Imagine this: you're 21 years old at kick-ons, surrounded by friends, music, and drinks. You're offered a line of white powder, which you snort, only to accidentally slip into drug-induced psychosis. You hear voices, can't leave your house, can't go to work and are overwhelmed by an unbearable urge to tear your skin off. This was Jade's real-life n…
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