Best Jordan Gonsalves Podcasts (2025)

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"The girl in the mirror was finally looking back at me" One trans woman's journey. 33:21

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The moment Christina saw a woman looking back at her in the mirror changed everything. "I can't really describe the euphoria," she reveals. "It was like finding something I didn't know was missing." Christina's journey began with childhood signs that went unrecognised. Growing up in the 1990s, she always gravitated toward traditionally feminine act…

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Finding Pride in Barbados: Patrick's Journey Through Sexuality, Gender, and Dementia 33:57

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When Patrick Kitana Ettenes bluntly told his father "I suck dick, daddy" at 15 years old, it marked just one turning point in a life brimming with extraordinary challenges and triumphs. Born in Barbados in 1983 to a Dutch father and Trinidadian mother, Patrick's childhood was a paradox of privilege and pain—his father's high-profile security work w…

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Born This Way: A Life Reclaimed After 60 Years of Silence 35:34

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What happens when you've spent nearly seven decades hiding your true self? Wendy Cole's story is a testament to courage, resilience, and the transformative power of authenticity. Born in the late 1940s, Wendy knew from age three that she was a girl, despite being assigned male at birth. At ten years old, she bravely dressed in her mother's clothes …

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We're back! Season six is on the way! 5:24

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Welcome back to Coming Out Stories after our six-month hiatus! As our seventh year begins, there have been moments when giving up seemed tempting. But looking at the increasingly hostile world around us, it's clear that now is precisely the time these stories need to be heard. Season Six arrives during a critical period for LGBTQ+ communities world…

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Scream 11:53

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Louder is better, but why? And how do you make sure they're not faking it? What do you do if you bring home a screamer? What noise-cancelling technology does every relationship need? These questions AND MORE 'answered' in this thrilling episode! YouTube version: https://youtu.be/HqW4F64jzcs — Probably True - Stories of queer life and even queer-er …

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Gut (with Matt Baume) 36:31

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Learning to listen to your gut takes time, practice, and accidentally starring in a very 'niche' sort of porn film. No, more niche than that. Like, REALLY specialised. If you've ever found yourself going along with something and REALLY wondering why you didn't just say 'no thanks!' and run away screaming, then Matt Baume's story might resonate. Buy…

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Ruling 11:57

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A reaction to the (nonsensical, transphobic) April 2025 Supreme Court Ruling on 'biological sex'. Not my best work - apologies for the iffy audio and wonky camera; I didn't have acces to my usual recording setup. Done is better than perfect. YouTube version: https://youtu.be/TT1iQWnSBrA — Probably True - Stories of queer life and even queer-er sex.…

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Dare (with Sean Hemeon) 41:26

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As a teenager, Sean Hemeon had the hots for his best friend. The only problem? He's a good little Mormon boy and his best friend is straight. Join Sean as he discusses the life-changing power of rampant hormones, teenage drinking games, and well-placed gym equipment. Find out more about Sean's many talents at https://SeanHemeon.com Follow him on In…

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Do 11:25

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How To Save The World (and why you don't have to be happy about it) Being A Good Person isn't easy, in fact it's often really quite annoying. Still, though. This episode includes all the stuff you need to be a Good Person: Swearing, poetry, care-bears, and face-testicles. And maybe snot on your hoodie. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/Ma…

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Recovery part 2 (with LGBT Foundation) 20:34

7M ago20:34

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For queer people struggling with substance abuse, loneliness, and addiction, the LGBT Foundation's Recovery Team can be literal lifesavers. Part 2 of my special episode, talking to two people who've used the service. CW: SUBSTANCE ABUSE is discussed in detail throughout. If you're affected by any of the issues in this episode, you can visit https:/…

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Recovery (with LGBT Foundation) part 1 23:14

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For queer people struggling with substance abuse, loneliness, and addiction, the LGBT Foundation's Recovery Team can be literal lifesavers. In the first of a special two-part episode, I talk to two people who've used the service and discuss their experiences. CW: SUBSTANCE ABUSE is discussed in detail throughout. If you're affected by any of the is…

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Staying True: Kuchenga Shenjé's Journey of Identity, Resilience, and Creative Expression 30:11

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How do you stay true to yourself when both society and your own family won't accept you? Kuchenga Shenje is a remarkable trans woman, writer, and journalist, who first understood her true gender identity at just three years old. Kuchenga's story is one of resilience and spiritual strength. Her childhood experiences shed light on the challenges tran…

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Camping (with Upton Rand) 32:05

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Sleeping under the stars, spending time in the countryside, wandering into a leather convention and getting surrounded by a pack of pups...? For Upton Rand, finding out about America's gay campgrounds was a revelation. One he decided to grab with both hands. And probably his mouth. You can see photos of him and his pup, find out more about his shen…

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Contact 14:15

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Eye contact: essential for cruising, flirting, and romance. At least, according to the books. But how much is too much? Why do we look away when it happens accidentally? Join me as I torture a metaphor, miss out on a shower with a hottie, and generally explore one of those things you don't think about until it's not there anymore. YouTube version: …

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How to not come out (and still live authentically!) Meet the YA author who has had his books banned 28:25

11M ago28:25

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In this episode, meet the hugely successful author Simon James Green. Simon writes books for a YA audience that include vital representation for LGBTQ+ teens. This has led to his books being vilified and even banned. Simon talks about growing up gay in the UK in the shadow of Clause 28, a time when being true to oneself seemed nearly impossible. Si…

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Monster (with Jordan Gonsalves) 31:18

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Jordan Gonsalves loved Lady Gaga long before he loved guys, but through her music, very slow internet connections, and some free tickets to the Monsters Ball, he also learned to love himself. Jordan's queer history podcast, But We Loved, is available on all good podcatchers and here: https://www.butweloved.com/ Jordan's Socials: instagram.com/jor_g…

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Retain 12:31

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GET TICKETS FOR PROBABLY TRUE @ THE CHEERFUL EARFUL PODCAST FESTIVAL: https://cheerfulearful.podlifeevents.com/festival/probably-true-live-from-cheerful-earful-podcast-festival-20th-oct-tickets Does retaining semen improve your health? Can you increase testosterone by storing your seed? How can holding on to your jizz help you sleep? All these ques…

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Tickets Available for Probably True LIVE! 2:25

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Come and see Probably True LIVE ON STAGE! London, Sunday October 20th as part of the Cheerful Earful Podcast Festival! Buy tickets (please): https://cheerfulearful.podlifeevents.com/festival/probably-true-live-from-cheerful-earful-podcast-festival-20th-oct-tickets — Probably True - Stories of queer life and even queer-er sex. The repeatedly award-w…

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Dean Atta: The Challenges of Growing Up Queer 30:53

1y ago30:53

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Imagine growing up wanting a Barbie doll but feeling afraid to ask for it. In this episode, award-winning author Dean Atta, shares his poignant journey of self-discovery and the courageous story of coming out at 15. Dean reveals the trials and triumphs of navigating childhood and adolescence as a queer individual, offering a heartfelt reflection on…

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Jordan Gonsalves: Growing Up LGBTQ+ in Conservative Texas 35:42

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What does it mean to grow up LGBTQ+ in a conservative environment? Jordan Gonsalves is a podcaster and journalist from New York, who shares his deeply personal journey of understanding his sexuality in the conservative suburbs of Houston, Texas. Jordan's reflections on childhood bullying, societal pressures, and the early realization of being diffe…

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Kevin: The Transformative Power of Coming Out Later in Life 34:25

1y ago34:25

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What does it take to come out after 55 years of hiding your true self? Kevin O'Connor, an author and a gay man found the courage to embrace his identity after decades of living a different life. In this episode, you’ll hear Kevin's reflections on his early inklings of being gay in the 1960s, his struggles with authenticity, and the pivotal moment w…

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Live 10:51

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I got a nasty throat infection, so rather than torture my tonsils trying to croak my way through a 'proper' episode, let's end this season with a clip from that live show. Thanks to everyone that came (HUNDREDS of people! It was amazing.) and if you want to hear the rest of the show, get in touch - I'm sure there's a queer venue near you that would…

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Casual (with Todd Baratz) 30:50

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How do you have better sex with strangers? Send more nudes? Shower together? Get better at organising hookups? Sex therapist Todd Baretz shares the story of how sex with lots of random men helped him realise the truth: anonymous shags weren't for him, and the best way to get good sex is to get to know the person you're shagging. Order your copy of …

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Love, Literature, and Living Authentically with Robert Tregoning 32:22

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Happy Pride Month! Today's episode comes from brilliant children's author Robert Tregoning Robert shares his journey from a rural village in County Durham, through the turbulence of the '80s and '90s, to becoming an advocate for authenticity and self-expression. From childhood memories of defying gender norms to finding solace in understanding frie…

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My New Podcast: "But We Loved," Episode 3 45:54

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Send us a text The third episode of my new show, "But We Loved" with iHeartMedia. Here's the description: But We Loved is a new podcast that showcases the untold stories of queer history through intimate interviews with LGBTQ+ elders, who share their wisdom, their struggle, and — most importantly – their triumph. You'll learn queer history, but thr…

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Divorce (with Karl Dunn) 42:17

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Fighting for equal marriage is one thing, but actually living happily ever after is quite another. Writer Karl Dunn shares his experiences of the side of equal marriage that we don't talk about: Divorce, and how it helped him find community and insights in some unlikely places. Get your copy of Karl's book: https://www.karldunn.com/book YouTube ver…

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My New Podcast: "But We Loved," Episode 1 37:55

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Send us a text The second episode of my new show, "But We Loved" with iHeartMedia. Here's the description: As a gay kid growing up Catholic, in conservative Texas, Jordan Gonsalves knew nothing about queer history. Now, as a journalist, he’s searching for the stories he craved when he was coming of age. Through intimate interviews with LGBTQ+ elder…

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My New Podcast: "But We Loved," Episode 2 28:48

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Send us a text The second episode of my new show, "But We Loved" with iHeartMedia. Here's the description: As a gay kid growing up Catholic, in conservative Texas, Jordan Gonsalves knew nothing about queer history. Now, as a journalist, he’s searching for the stories he craved when he was coming of age. Through intimate interviews with LGBTQ+ elder…

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From Silence to Advocacy A Trans Story of Resilience and Change 37:48

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Ben Green grew up trans in a small Connecticut town. Now an activist and author of "My Child is Trans: Now What?" Ben reflects on just how different his childhood was to his sister's as he tried to navigate the complexities of gender identity without any trans role models. This story explores the profound impact that representation—or the lack ther…

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Narcissus (with Sacha Coward) 33:54

1+ y ago33:54

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From Greek legends to Socialist vegetables via the world of instagram and teenage angst: Queer Historian Sacha Coward pops in for some impromptu therapy grounded in ideas of beauty, vanity, and big muscly dudes not wearing much. Pre-order your copy of Sacha's book, Queer As Folklore: https://unbound.com/books/queer-as-folklore YouTube version: http…

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Glove 12:46

1+ y ago12:46

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Can condoms make sex more... sexy? Should we say Grace before filling our mouths? Why was I such a weird teenager? All these questions and more are pretty much ignored in favour of making some silly jokes. Standard, really. From straight students to sexual Sherlocks, we're touching on every aspect of johnnies, nodders, and spaff-catchers. Just be s…

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Jenny's Voyage of Authenticity: From Woking to Manchester via the Comedy Stage 37:06

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Imagine embarking on a voyage of self-discovery that doesn't truly begin until the age of 40. That's the reality for Jenny, a trans woman with a tale that unfolds with laughter, adversity, and, above all, authenticity. As she reminisces about her childhood in Woking and the challenges of expressing her true identity pre-internet, Jenny's experience…

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Snake 11:19

1+ y ago11:19

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According to Andrew Tate, if you enjoy making sweet love with a woman, you're gay. I look into why anyone would say something so strange, while trying not to die of a hangover. A lesser person would surely have perished. Also: The naked version of a meeting that could have been an email, why you shouldn't eat too many cakes, and what to google if y…

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Quickie 1:39

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Just a quick and dirty moment to keep you going until the next episode. Featuring: Disastrous flirting, a (hilarious) transgender joke, and news of an upcoming live show. Thrilling(/terrifying) stuff! YouTube version: https://youtu.be/13VdenOz3To — Probably True - Stories of queer life and even queer-er sex. The repeatedly award-winning, slightly f…

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Wisdom (with Patrick Marano) 27:27

1+ y ago27:27

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[CW: Drug use & addiction] Youtube sensation and Adult Entertainer Patrick Marano brings us three tales of sex, drugs, and the wisdom of sluts. Featuring: The Good Old Days, Definitely NOT dead family, and The Wanted. Also: second-hand sex toys, near-death experiences, and Canadian strippers. Find out more and check out Patrick's work at https://pa…

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Construct 9:20

1+ y ago9:20

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What gender-neutral words can you use for queer people instead of 'Daddy'? From Star Trek to star signs, here's a queer take on the struggles of being non-binary when you look very cis. And totes masc. ALSO! From Astrology to Apology: how to avoid misgendering someone, what to do if you mess it up, and why courtroom dramas should incorporate star s…

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Fostering Belonging: Anna DeShawn’s Journey Through Queer Identity and Media 29:47

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Imagine the courage it takes to forge a path as a black queer woman in a world where your identity intersects with a rich tapestry of culture, tradition, and belief systems. This is the life of Anna DeShawn, a social entrepreneur from Chicago. who came out in a religious household and went on to create spaces where queer voices can echo and resonat…

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Inspire (with Dr. Alfredo Carpineti) 33:25

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History is full of queer role models - you just have to know where to look. From 'confirmed batchelor' to 'Just Good Friends', Dr Alfredo Carpineti explains how our gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans heroes are hiding in plain sight throughout history. (Turns out the 'step-bro' thing has been around a VERY long time...) LINKS! - Buy a copy of Alfred…

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Procedure 16:00

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An interrupted gym session leads to looking for support in all the wrong places, a message from God, and the need to search deep inside myself. Really deep. All the way in there. Also involved: the best biscuit, some surprisingly strong pelvic floor muscles, and an unexpected way of dealing with stubborn sweetcorn. YouTube version: https://youtu.be…

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Michael: From Summer Camp to Corporate Change, a journey of self-acceptance in the Big Apple. 27:21

1+ y ago27:21

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From his first inklings of being different at a summer camp, to the seismic shift that occurred when he saw real gay representation in corporate America, Michael's journey is one of struggle, resilience, and triumph in the face of adversity. Michael's story not only peels back the layers of his own coming out journey, but also addresses the emotion…

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Kirsty: Embracing Queerness on a Manchester Council Estate 27:22

1+ y ago27:22

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Remember that gut-punch moment when everything you thought you knew about yourself was turned on its head? That's where Kirsty Loehr found herself at 16, blindsided by the realisation that her sexuality wasn't what she'd always assumed... In this episode, meet Kirsty, author of "A Short History of Queer Women," and hear her journey of self-discover…

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Moe: Finding love, acceptance and dating as a trans, non-binary bisexual! 36:28

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Moe Ari Brown, was born into a working-class, religious family and raised on the South side of Chicago amid the Black church's rich traditions. Moe felt invisible during their youth but at college, they had an epiphany – that gender identity and sexuality are not fixed points but vibrant spectrums. As a relationship therapist and guide, Moe's insig…

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Blazing Trails: Arthur's Journey and the Formation of the World's First All-Trans Masculine Football Team 34:20

1+ y ago34:20

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Growing up in Peterborough, in the centre of England, Arthur's story tells of the intimate struggles of growing up with a gender identity that defies societal norms. With insights into the complexity of coming out to loved ones when you're trans, the battles fought within gender clinics, and the ongoing need for visibility and support for trans you…

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Away 3:21

1+ y ago3:21

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The BEST transgender joke ever told. AND I'm taking a little break. I need to rest and hibernate and generally recharge. Back in a couple of weeks. YouTube version: https://youtu.be/96S4TdE2f3E — Probably True - Stories of queer life and even queer-er sex. The repeatedly award-winning, slightly filthy storytelling project tackling LGBTQ issues in a…

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Living Out Loud: Annie Wallace on Pioneering Trans Visibility in Television 59:15

1+ y ago59:15

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Imagine discovering your true self at a time where even the word "transgender" was seldom whispered, then fast-forward to seeing that reality reflected on national TV! Annie Wallace, a pioneering trans soap actress, takes us through her life, from her earliest memories of gender identity struggles, to life in Aberdeen's first gay bar, and the bully…

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Bingo (with Nathaniel J Hall) 34:11

1+ y ago34:11

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[CONTENT WARNING: Gross STI symptoms and some mentions of drug use.] Sex, drugs, and... Cameras up your bum: Actor, writer and HIV Activist Nathaniel talks us through some bad luck, iffy decisions and slightly strange medical referrals. YouTube version: https://youtu.be/KQeJCwZAUFM — Probably True - Stories of queer life and even queer-er sex. The …

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Manners 13:35

1+ y ago13:35

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'Inspired' by more awful experiences, here's one tart's guide to better bedroom etiquette. And if anyone knows manners, it's the English. Featuring: The best grip to use when tickling his fancy; what their choice of drink says about your sexual opponent; and why respect is key. Also involving, for no real reason: Half-melted waxworks, a terrifying …

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Gary: I felt jealous when my son came out to me. It took me 40 years to have the courage to do the same. 47:55

1+ y ago47:55

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Gary's story is proof that life does indeed begin at 40! Gary's journey through marriage, heartbreaks, and eventual joy in finding deep love will bring a real smile to your face. Presented by Emma Goswell Produced by Sam Walker We'd love to hear YOUR story. Please get in touch www.comingoutstoriespodcast.com or find us on twitter @ComeOutStories an…

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Braving the Past, Embracing the Future: Ann's Journey of Identity, Activism and Advocacy for other lesbian mothers. 36:24

1+ y ago36:24

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As the curtain closes on our 2023 series, we bring you the incredible story of Ann! Beginning in Liverpool in the late 50s and early 60s – a time when innocence mingled with confusion in the absence of visible LGBTQ+ role models, Ann's tale then takes us through the swinging 60s of London, the rigid discipline of army life, and into the heart of pe…

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Merry 11:46

2y ago11:46

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Christmas doesn't have to be merry - sometimes it's ok just to get through the day. Featuring a hatred of Christmas music brought on by trying to 'do Christmas right' while dealing with seasonal depression, a portacabin with delusions of grandeur, and the joys of spending Christmas with my mother. I hope your festive season goes as well as it can. …